Doing Life with Ken and Tabatha

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Lukewarm faith feels easy—until it costs you power, joy, and purpose. We get honest about casual Christianity, why it’s so common, and how to move from a Sunday habit to a life that actually carries the presence of God. Ken shares his past as a “Christian atheist”—believing in God but living like He didn’t exist—and how that exposed the gap between form and power. Together, we walk through the telltale signs of a casual believer, from private faith and convenience-based attendance to tipping instead of tithing and resisting repentance, and we ask the question that matters most: is there fruit that matches your repentance?

To help you locate where you are and chart a way forward, we break down four levels of commitment—community, crowd, core, covenant—and why planting in a local church changes everything. The core grows the Church through sowing, serving, and making disciples, while covenant multiplies grace through spiritual fathers and mothers, accountability, and honor for God-ordained offices. We explore biblical models like Elijah and Elisha, Paul and Timothy, and Ruth and Naomi to show how covenant delivers double-portion impact. When you’re planted, you flourish: marriages heal, leaders emerge, and your witness stops being theoretical and starts transforming lives.

If you’re tired of a faith that feels nostalgic, irregular, and powerless, this conversation offers a practical path into a Spirit-filled, mission-shaped life. Reorder your identity around Jesus, build rhythms of Scripture and prayer, commit to gathered worship, and serve people you love enough to tell the truth. Casual Christianity is convenient; covenant is costly and worth it. Subscribe for more, share this with someone who needs a nudge toward purpose, and leave a review to tell us your next step.
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📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!
https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875


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Dating does not have to be confusing, exhausting, or expensive. We’re pulling back the curtain on five practical rules that protect your heart, save your time, and set you up for a marriage that can actually thrive. From defining non‑negotiables to reading red flags without second‑guessing yourself, we walk through the mindsets and habits that turn your twenties into a launchpad instead of a landfill.

We start by reframing the goal: Christlikeness over a wedding date. Contentment beats comparison, and wholeness beats hurried timelines. Then we get specific. Date on purpose using a 90‑day clarity window. Ask better questions about faith, direction, and character. Choose character over chemistry by testing for humility, forgiveness, and submission to godly authority. Pace the relationship with clear boundaries—public early dates, digital guardrails, and honest conversations about sex, soul ties, and healing. We also tackle love bombing, why it feels so real at first, and how accountability reveals the truth before it’s too late.

Money matters too. Check the credit, not just the chemistry, and bring debt, spending, tithing, and budgeting into the light so you can build trust instead of resentment. Finally, don’t date alone. Isolation creates illusion; community brings clarity. Invite a married mentor and a wise peer, worship together, and let your circle call green, yellow, or red flags. Healthy relationships can handle scrutiny because they are built on truth.

If this helped you rethink your standards or reset your pace, share it with a friend who needs clarity, subscribe for new episodes every Thursday at 3 p.m., and leave a review to tell us your biggest takeaway. Your future self will thank you.
GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:

Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)

Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)

DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888

📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!
https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875


Support Our Ministry:
https://myalivechurch.org/give

Connect with us:

- Website:

https://www.kenclaytor.com
https://www.tabathaclaytor.com
https://www.myalivechurch.org

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https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/

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@Ken_Claytor
@Tabathaclaytor
@myalivechurch

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https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch

- Ask us questions:

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GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:

Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)

Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)

DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888

📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!
https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875


Support Our Ministry:
https://myalivechurch.org/give

Connect with us:

- Website:

https://www.kenclaytor.com
https://www.tabathaclaytor.com
https://www.myalivechurch.org

- Socials:

Instagram -

https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/

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@Ken_Claytor
@Tabathaclaytor
@myalivechurch

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Settling for “okay” feels safe, but it quietly shrinks your marriage. We dig into why cruise control robs connection and how a few intentional shifts can turn your relationship into a lifelong adventure. From writing a simple family mission to scheduling a 20-second hug, we share the small, repeatable habits that build warmth, trust, and momentum across every season.

We get real about seasons and capacity: how wisdom can multiply what time no longer does, why pivoting your pace is not failure but stewardship, and how to keep your spouse first when life gets crowded with kids, career, and ministry. You’ll hear how we use family meetings to surface blind spots without blame, plus the honest questions that make feedback safe. We also name the trap of projection—how dissatisfaction with yourself can masquerade as disappointment with your partner—and offer a path back to ownership and healing.

Then we roll out an eight-part playbook to beat the “okay” marriage: craft a shared vision, win the day with small rituals, fight fair with a written playbook, pursue intimacy on purpose, treat money as a team sport, practice radical honesty, install protective guardrails, and keep novelty alive with monthly mini-adventures. Expect practical examples—date-night rhythms, conflict rules, trust “bricks,” Sunday money huddles—and a reminder that many couples don’t fall out of love; they fall out of like. Choose curiosity, choose growth, and choose each other.

If this helped you, tap follow, share it with a friend who refuses to settle, and leave a quick review telling us which practice you’ll try first. Your feedback helps more couples find a path from okay to extraordinary.
GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:

Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)

Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)

DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888

📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!
https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875


Support Our Ministry:
https://myalivechurch.org/give

Connect with us:

- Website:

https://www.kenclaytor.com
https://www.tabathaclaytor.com
https://www.myalivechurch.org

- Socials:

Instagram -

https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/

TikTok-

@Ken_Claytor
@Tabathaclaytor
@myalivechurch

Facebook-

https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor
https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor
https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch

- Ask us questions:

...

Send us a text
GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:

Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)

Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)

DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888

📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!
https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875


Support Our Ministry:
https://myalivechurch.org/give

Connect with us:

- Website:

https://www.kenclaytor.com
https://www.tabathaclaytor.com
https://www.myalivechurch.org

- Socials:

Instagram -

https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/

TikTok-

@Ken_Claytor
@Tabathaclaytor
@myalivechurch

Facebook-

https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor
https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor
https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch

- Ask us questions:

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