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Dating does not have to be confusing, exhausting, or expensive. We’re pulling back the curtain on five practical rules that protect your heart, save your time, and set you up for a marriage that can actually thrive. From defining non‑negotiables to reading red flags without second‑guessing yourself, we walk through the mindsets and habits that turn your twenties into a launchpad instead of a landfill.

We start by reframing the goal: Christlikeness over a wedding date. Contentment beats comparison, and wholeness beats hurried timelines. Then we get specific. Date on purpose using a 90‑day clarity window. Ask better questions about faith, direction, and character. Choose character over chemistry by testing for humility, forgiveness, and submission to godly authority. Pace the relationship with clear boundaries—public early dates, digital guardrails, and honest conversations about sex, soul ties, and healing. We also tackle love bombing, why it feels so real at first, and how accountability reveals the truth before it’s too late.

Money matters too. Check the credit, not just the chemistry, and bring debt, spending, tithing, and budgeting into the light so you can build trust instead of resentment. Finally, don’t date alone. Isolation creates illusion; community brings clarity. Invite a married mentor and a wise peer, worship together, and let your circle call green, yellow, or red flags. Healthy relationships can handle scrutiny because they are built on truth.

If this helped you rethink your standards or reset your pace, share it with a friend who needs clarity, subscribe for new episodes every Thursday at 3 p.m., and leave a review to tell us your biggest takeaway. Your future self will thank you.
GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:

Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)

Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)

DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888

📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!
https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875


Support Our Ministry:
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GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:

Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)

Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)

DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888

📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!
https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875


Support Our Ministry:
https://myalivechurch.org/give

Connect with us:

- Website:

https://www.kenclaytor.com
https://www.tabathaclaytor.com
https://www.myalivechurch.org

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https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/

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@Tabathaclaytor
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Settling for “okay” feels safe, but it quietly shrinks your marriage. We dig into why cruise control robs connection and how a few intentional shifts can turn your relationship into a lifelong adventure. From writing a simple family mission to scheduling a 20-second hug, we share the small, repeatable habits that build warmth, trust, and momentum across every season.

We get real about seasons and capacity: how wisdom can multiply what time no longer does, why pivoting your pace is not failure but stewardship, and how to keep your spouse first when life gets crowded with kids, career, and ministry. You’ll hear how we use family meetings to surface blind spots without blame, plus the honest questions that make feedback safe. We also name the trap of projection—how dissatisfaction with yourself can masquerade as disappointment with your partner—and offer a path back to ownership and healing.

Then we roll out an eight-part playbook to beat the “okay” marriage: craft a shared vision, win the day with small rituals, fight fair with a written playbook, pursue intimacy on purpose, treat money as a team sport, practice radical honesty, install protective guardrails, and keep novelty alive with monthly mini-adventures. Expect practical examples—date-night rhythms, conflict rules, trust “bricks,” Sunday money huddles—and a reminder that many couples don’t fall out of love; they fall out of like. Choose curiosity, choose growth, and choose each other.

If this helped you, tap follow, share it with a friend who refuses to settle, and leave a quick review telling us which practice you’ll try first. Your feedback helps more couples find a path from okay to extraordinary.
GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:

Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)

Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)

DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888

📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!
https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875


Support Our Ministry:
https://myalivechurch.org/give

Connect with us:

- Website:

https://www.kenclaytor.com
https://www.tabathaclaytor.com
https://www.myalivechurch.org

- Socials:

Instagram -

https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/

TikTok-

@Ken_Claytor
@Tabathaclaytor
@myalivechurch

Facebook-

https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor
https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor
https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch

- Ask us questions:

...

Send us a text
GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:

Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)

Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)

DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888

📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!
https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875


Support Our Ministry:
https://myalivechurch.org/give

Connect with us:

- Website:

https://www.kenclaytor.com
https://www.tabathaclaytor.com
https://www.myalivechurch.org

- Socials:

Instagram -

https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/

TikTok-

@Ken_Claytor
@Tabathaclaytor
@myalivechurch

Facebook-

https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor
https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor
https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch

- Ask us questions:

...

Send us a text
Resolutions powered by adrenaline rarely survive February. We’re after something deeper: a year that actually changes because your spirit leads, your mind renews, and your habits align with what God already says about you. Together we unpack why identity comes before intensity, how to let the old you die without shame, and the simple daily choices that turn conviction into consistency.

We start with the core conviction: this will be your best year ever if it’s your best year spiritually. That means speaking new language over your life, finding identity in Christ above career, politics, or past labels, and embracing the crucified life of Galatians 2:20 where influence grows as self decreases. From there, we get practical. We pair faith with works—Scripture and prayer before scrolling, weekly church in person as a non-negotiable, and one to three priorities per quarter that actually fit your calendar. We walk through building when-then systems, designing your environment, and swapping bad habits for better ones so you can grow an oak tree, not a firework.

Community and accountability carry the change forward. Choose friends going where you want to go, join a small group or serve team, and seek mentors with visible fruit inside your local church. Create boundaries that protect your calling—media limits, no-phone bedrooms, and clear yeses that define your noes. Celebrate small wins, restart without shame, and keep Matthew 6:33 at the center: seek first the kingdom and trust God with the rest.

If you’re ready for lasting change rooted in faith and multiplied by wise habits, press play and journey with us. Subscribe, share this conversation with a friend who needs a reset, and tell us your top three goals so we can pray with you. Let’s make this your strongest spiritual year yet.
GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:

Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)

Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)

DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888

📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!
https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875


Support Our Ministry:
https://myalivechurch.org/give

Connect with us:

- Website:

https://www.kenclaytor.com
https://www.tabathaclaytor.com
https://www.myalivechurch.org

- Socials:

Instagram -

https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/

TikTok-

@Ken_Claytor
@Tabathaclaytor
@myalivechurch

Facebook-

https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor
https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor
https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch

- Ask us questions:

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