Come Curious

How do you actually initiate sex with your partner?

It sounds simple, but for many couples, making the first move can be surprisingly awkward, vulnerable and even scary. In this episode, we get into why sexual initiation can become so difficult and what you can actually do about it.

We discuss the loneliness epidemic and changing dating habits, before getting into the bigger question: how do we ask for sex without making it feel like a high-stakes negotiation?

Drawing on ideas from Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are, we explore spontaneous and responsive desire, the "accelerators and brakes" that influence libido, and why initiating sex can start hours before you ever get into bed.

We talk about:

Why so many couples struggle to initiate sex

How fear of rejection can make making a move feel terrifying

Why sex can start with connection, safety and feeling understood

Using love languages as a form of everyday intimacy and foreplay

Spontaneous vs responsive desire

How long-term relationships can change the way we experience sexual desire

How having children can completely reshape your sex life

Why asking your partner how they like to be initiated with could change everything

How to communicate about sex without pressure, expectation or mind-reading

And then we hit the watershed.

The first half of this episode is available to everyone, but if you want to hear the more personal, intimate and unfiltered conversation - including our own stories about sexual initiation - you'll need to head over to Patreon for the full episode.

So whether you've been together for ten years, you're newly dating, you're navigating parenthood, or you're simply wondering how to make the first move without dying of embarrassment… this one's for you.

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No one really prepares you for what happens when your best friend has a baby.

Suddenly your lives look completely different. Messages take longer to reply to, spontaneous plans disappear, priorities shift, and sometimes... it can feel like you're grieving a friendship that's still alive.

In this deeply honest episode, Florence and Reed unpack how becoming a parent changes friendships—not just for the person having the baby, but for the friends left wondering where they fit in.

We discuss:

Why it's normal to grieve a friendship changing after parenthood

Feeling left behind when your friends start families

How to support a friend who's just had a baby

What parents actually need from their child-free friends

Navigating jealousy, loneliness and changing priorities

Why friendships naturally have "seasons"

Creating your own village—whether you have children or not

How honest communication can save lifelong friendships

Whether you're expecting your first baby, proudly child-free, undecided, or simply watching your friendship group evolve, this episode is for anyone trying to hold onto meaningful relationships through life's biggest transitions.

Because growing up doesn't have to mean growing apart.

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Porn is everywhere but how much is too much? What are people actually searching for? And should we be worried about our viewing habits?

This week we're diving headfirst into the world of pornography. As former porn creators ourselves, we're unpacking how our relationship with porn has changed over the years, what healthy consumption looks like, and why the conversation around "porn addiction" might be more complicated than people think.

We explore:

Is porn addiction real or is it better understood as a compulsion?

When does watching porn become unhealthy?

The world's most searched porn categories (including why hentai has dominated global searches)

Why Gen Z's porn habits are changing

The fastest-growing sexually active age group

How porn can affect relationships, intimacy and desire

Our own experiences working in the adult industry

Wild, weird and wonderful listener-submitted porn searches

From anime to MILFs, roleplay to relationship dynamics, this episode explores what our fantasies can tell us, without judgement.

Whether you watch porn regularly, occasionally or not at all, this is an honest conversation about fantasy, shame, curiosity and sexual wellbeing.

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What's the actual difference between an ()rgy and a g4ng bang? And why do these two forms of group sx carry such different cultural baggage?

In this episode of Come Curious, we're diving into the definitions, misconceptions, fantasies and realities surrounding two of the most talked-about group sx experiences.

We explore where these ideas come from, how they've been shaped by mainstream 🌽orn, and why consent, agency and communication matter so much when discussing group sexual experiences.

Along the way, we discuss:

The difference between ()rgies and g4ng bangs

Why group sex remains one of the world's most common fantasies

How porn influences our understanding of group sx

Listener stories, unexpected experiences and hilarious mishaps

Sexual health, testing and safer group play

Why these experiences aren't exclusive to any one gender or sexuality

How our own relationships with sx, sobriety and intimacy have evolved over time

We also take a look at some recent developments in contraception research, including updates in male contraception trials and conversations around informed contraceptive choices.

Whether you're simply curious, have fantasised about group sx, or want to better understand the language and culture surrounding it, this episode offers an open, honest and judgement-free discussion.

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Turns out the sexiest things aren't always sexual.

In this episode of Come Curious, we're diving into the unexpected, surprising, and sometimes downright bizarre things that make people feel attracted, connected, and turned on.

From fresh bed sheets and gardening to emotional vulnerability and conflict resolution, we're exploring the green flags, personality traits, and everyday moments that can spark desire in ways we never expected.

We discuss:

Why emotional vulnerability can be incredibly attractive

The appeal of emotional regulation and healthy communication

Acts of service and why chores can become foreplay

Competence, confidence and professional attraction

Eye contact, direct communication and feeling desired

Nature, scent, fresh sheets and creating an erotic atmosphere

Listener submissions about accents, singing, oral fixations and more

We also share some personal life updates, including navigating parenthood, balancing work and childcare, and our recent visit to Parliament to discuss the shadow-banning and deplatforming of sx workers, educators and LGBTQ+ creators on social media platforms.

Because attraction isn't always about bodies or sex.

Sometimes it's about feeling safe, understood, supported or watching someone confidently reverse a car into a parking space.

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