Come Curious

This week on Come Curious, we asked you to send us your most shameless confessions… and you absolutely delivered.

From secret kinks and unexpected encounters to moments that made us gasp, laugh, and occasionally say “oh my god you did WHAT?”, Florence and Reed dive into the wild, weird and wonderfully honest stories from the Come Curious community.

We hear about secret fetishes, train journeys that got a little too exciting, complicated situationships, and the kinds of confessions people rarely say out loud. Along the way, Florence and Reed share their thoughts, advice, and a few of their own experiences too.

You’ll also hear:• Reed’s latest update with the now-infamous German tickle fetish guy• Florence opening up about the surprising body changes she’s experienced during pregnancy• Listener questions about introducing BDSM to a long-term partner• The kinks and curiosities people are finally brave enough to admit

This is a watershed episode, which means you’ll get the juicy confessions from our community here… but the really naughty stories from Florence and Reed themselves are saved for our Patreon subscribers.

If you want the full unfiltered episode — including the hosts’ own shameless confessions — you can unlock the second half on Patreon at our $15 tier.

Come get curious… and maybe a little bit scandalised.

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This week on Come Curious, Florence is joined by fertility writer, speaker and advocate Seetal Savla for a deeply honest conversation about the side of fertility journeys we rarely hear about.

At 34 weeks pregnant herself, Florence sits down with Seetal to talk through the reality of trying to conceive — from early loss and years of IVF, to the emotional rollercoaster of hope, grief, and the pressure to keep going when your body and heart are exhausted.

Seetal shares her experience of five rounds of IVF, navigating clinics that sometimes made her feel more like a “walking credit card” than a patient, and the stigma surrounding fertility struggles, particularly within South Asian communities where conversations about loss and infertility are often hidden behind silence.

The conversation also moves into pregnancy, birth and postpartum life, including the difficult physical and emotional realities after a C-section, how reproductive trauma can resurface after birth, and why planning support in the early weeks of motherhood can make all the difference.

In a surprising twist after years of IVF, Seetal also shares how she conceived naturally after deciding to step away from treatment. A reminder that fertility journeys rarely follow a predictable path.

This episode is compassionate, vulnerable and full of wisdom for anyone navigating fertility, pregnancy, loss, or supporting someone who is.

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Instagram: @seetalsavla

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Is your sex drive "too high"? "Too low"? Has it disappeared completely? Or is it all over the place?

This week on Come Curious, Florence and Reed tackle one of the most asked (and most anxiety-inducing) questions in sex: is my libido normal?

From pregnancy libido shifts and ADHD hyperfocus highs, to widow’s fire, medication side effects, birth control changes, and relationship mismatches — we unpack what actually influences desire… and why “normal” might be the wrong question altogether.

We also answer your listener questions about:
– Mismatched libidos in relationships
– Losing your sex drive on the pill or antidepressants
– ADHD peaks and troughs
– Low libido from stress and parenthood
– High libido when you’re trying to stay single
– Thyroid issues and chronic pain

Plus we recommend Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski — and dive into “brakes and accelerators” when it comes to desire.

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What actually happens at a queer kinky rave? 👀🔥 

This week, Reed is joined by Lily Eff - co-founder of Quench, one of London's hottest queer kinky raves and play party communities. 

Tune in for wild sex party stories (including a 21-person orgy…) and how Lily is building inclusive, intentional kink spaces that feel like HOME. They dive deep into the emotional reality of exploring fantasies IRL, boundaries, consent, and what to do when things don’t go to plan. 

Plus, Lily shares her BEST advice for anyone curious about going to a kinky or queer party for the first time. From nerves to outfits to aftercare, we’ve got you covered. 

Whether you’re kinky, curious, or just nosy (we see you), this episode is honest, funny, vulnerable, and seriously eye-opening. 

👇 Tell us in the comments: 

Would you ever go to a sex party?

What would you want to know first? 

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This week on Come Curious, Florence and Reed are joined by Matty Hennessy - sex toy designer, transmasc educator, and the brilliant mind behind Eversense Toys and the chaotic internet phenomenon Dildo Nightmares. 

We dive into Matty’s journey creating toys for bodies that are often overlooked by mainstream sex tech including his upcoming designs specifically supporting transmasc pleasure, bottom growth, and accessibility needs. From the story behind his first prototype to the emotional reality of relearning pleasure in a changing body, this conversation is honest, educational, and deeply affirming. 

Of course, we also explore the absolute madness of the sex toy industry, including some of the most cursed designs ever created (yes… including a demon-looking toy Reed received 👀). 

Matty answers your listener questions too: how to introduce toys after bad experiences, navigating intimacy with a transitioning partner, and the best ways to stimulate nipples safely and effectively. 

This episode is sponsored by Erika Lust - pioneers of ethical, cinematic adult films. Use our spicy discount code SPICY45 to get 45% off their platform - erikalust.com

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