Come Curious

Is your sex drive too high? Too low? Has it disappeared completely? Or is it all over the place?

This week on Come Curious, Florence and Reed tackle one of the most asked (and most anxiety-inducing) questions in sex: is my libido normal?

From pregnancy libido shifts and ADHD hyperfocus highs, to widow’s fire, medication side effects, birth control changes, and relationship mismatches — we unpack what actually influences desire… and why “normal” might be the wrong question altogether.

We also answer your listener questions about:
– Mismatched libidos in relationships
– Losing your sex drive on the pill or antidepressants
– ADHD peaks and troughs
– Low libido from stress and parenthood
– High libido when you’re trying to stay single
– Thyroid issues and chronic pain

Plus we recommend Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski — and dive into “brakes and accelerators” when it comes to desire.

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What actually happens at a queer kinky rave? 👀🔥 

This week, Reed is joined by Lily Eff - co-founder of Quench, one of London's hottest queer kinky raves and play party communities. 

Tune in for wild sex party stories (including a 21-person orgy…) and how Lily is building inclusive, intentional kink spaces that feel like HOME. They dive deep into the emotional reality of exploring fantasies IRL, boundaries, consent, and what to do when things don’t go to plan. 

Plus, Lily shares her BEST advice for anyone curious about going to a kinky or queer party for the first time. From nerves to outfits to aftercare, we’ve got you covered. 

Whether you’re kinky, curious, or just nosy (we see you), this episode is honest, funny, vulnerable, and seriously eye-opening. 

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Would you ever go to a sex party?

What would you want to know first? 

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This week on Come Curious, Florence and Reed are joined by Matty Hennessy - sex toy designer, transmasc educator, and the brilliant mind behind Eversense Toys and the chaotic internet phenomenon Dildo Nightmares. 

We dive into Matty’s journey creating toys for bodies that are often overlooked by mainstream sex tech including his upcoming designs specifically supporting transmasc pleasure, bottom growth, and accessibility needs. From the story behind his first prototype to the emotional reality of relearning pleasure in a changing body, this conversation is honest, educational, and deeply affirming. 

Of course, we also explore the absolute madness of the sex toy industry, including some of the most cursed designs ever created (yes… including a demon-looking toy Reed received 👀). 

Matty answers your listener questions too: how to introduce toys after bad experiences, navigating intimacy with a transitioning partner, and the best ways to stimulate nipples safely and effectively. 

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This week on Come Curious, Florence goes over some fun pregnancy sex facts, what breeding kinks are all about and gets into the updates you've been missing when it comes to being 30 weeks pregnant! AND you sent in some GREAT pregnancy sex related stories and questions!

PLUS Florence shares the juicy deets about her upcoming erotic film for Erika Lust and rates the pregnancy porn that you can watch over on the Lust website. Use our spicy discount code SPICY45 to get 45% off (we know… it’s a CRAZY discount) on their website here

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This week on Come Curious XXXtra Kinky Episode, Florence and Reed unpack whether “red flags” are actually warnings… or just wildly subjective vibes that depend on who’s holding the binoculars.

They get honest about bras, pleasure doms, consent in long-term relationships, “high value men”, performative feminism, and whether bad sex actually exists… or if it’s all just incompatibility.

And just when things get extra juicy, they cross the dirty watershed and head into the explicit Patreon-only half (dating chaos, DDLG discomfort, and why stability can feel suspicious). This is for our subscribers only so if you want to get the REAL goss, then become an XXXtra Kinky Curious Fcker and tune in .

PLUS we rate our FAVE Erika Lust films and this month it's all about outdoor erotic cinema! Use our spicy discount code SPICY45 to get 45% off (we know… it’s a CRAZY discount) on their website here

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