Come Curious

Turns out the sexiest things aren't always sexual.

In this episode of Come Curious, we're diving into the unexpected, surprising, and sometimes downright bizarre things that make people feel attracted, connected, and turned on.

From fresh bed sheets and gardening to emotional vulnerability and conflict resolution, we're exploring the green flags, personality traits, and everyday moments that can spark desire in ways we never expected.

We discuss:

Why emotional vulnerability can be incredibly attractive

The appeal of emotional regulation and healthy communication

Acts of service and why chores can become foreplay

Competence, confidence and professional attraction

Eye contact, direct communication and feeling desired

Nature, scent, fresh sheets and creating an erotic atmosphere

Listener submissions about accents, singing, oral fixations and more

We also share some personal life updates, including navigating parenthood, balancing work and childcare, and our recent visit to Parliament to discuss the shadow-banning and deplatforming of sx workers, educators and LGBTQ+ creators on social media platforms.

Because attraction isn't always about bodies or sex.

Sometimes it's about feeling safe, understood, supported or watching someone confidently reverse a car into a parking space.

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When cheating happens, everyone wants a simple answer: leave or stay.

But real relationships are rarely that straightforward.

In this episode of Come Curious, we unpack one of the most painful questions a person can face: should you stay with someone who has cheated on you?

Drawing on listener stories, expert insights, personal experiences, and relationship research, we explore why affairs happen, what cheating can reveal about a relationship, and whether trust can genuinely be rebuilt after betrayal.

Tune in to hear about:

Why people cheat in the first place

Emotional affairs vs physical affairs

When cheating is a symptom of deeper relationship problems

The role of communication, accountability and therapy

Signs a relationship may be repairable

When leaving might be the healthiest choiceListener stories of recovery, separation and ethical non-monogamy

The long-term impact of betrayal on mental health and self-worth

We also examine the reality that many couples do stay together after infidelity, and why healing looks different for every relationship.

Whether you've been cheated on, cheated yourself, or simply want to understand the psychology behind affairs, this conversation offers compassion, honesty and practical perspectives without reducing a deeply human experience to a simple yes-or-no answer.

Shout out to therapist Jemma Hardelle who provided her insight on this topic.

You can find her online at @hardelle_jemma on IG and www.jemmahardelle.com

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What if orgasm isn't something you're born knowing how to do but a skill you can learn?

This week on Come Curious, we're joined by sex educator, author and pleasure advocate Susan Bratton for a mind-expanding conversation about the incredible range of pleasure our bodies are capable of experiencing.

We dive into male multiple o's, prostate pleasure, orgasmic intercourse, throat o's, and why so many people have been taught limiting beliefs about their sexual potential.

Susan shares practical techniques for men to separate orgasm from ejaculation, explains the "M Breath" method for full-body pleasure, and reveals how learning to recognise the point of no return can completely transform sexual stamina and confidence.

We also explore:

Male multiple o's and ejaculatory choice
Pr0state massage and blended o's
Throat o's and overcoming the gag reflex
Why o's are a learnable skill
How women can experience more pleasure during penetration
The surprising connection between pleasure, health and longevity
Long-term non-monogamy and relationship anarchy
The future of sx toys and teledildonics

Whether you're curious about expanding your orgasmic potential, improving partnered sx, or challenging everything you've been taught about pleasure, this episode is packed with practical advice and fascinating insights.

Susan's suggestions:

Drive Desire

Orgasmic Intercourse

Follow Susan online at @susanbratton

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Keon

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Is subscribing to someone's OnlyFans cheating? What about texting an ex, keeping a dating app "just to look", or fantasising about someone else during sex?

In this special watershed episode, we're diving into the murky grey areas of modern relationships with a boundary-pushing cheating quiz that sparks some surprisingly revealing conversations.

Together, we unpack the behaviours that sit between loyalty and betrayal, exploring emotional affairs, secret crushes, dating apps, hidden messages, workplace flirtations, exes, social media boundaries, and what "cheating" actually means in monogamous and non-monogamous relationships.

The truth? There isn't one universal definition. What feels harmless to one person might feel devastating to another.

This episode is designed to help you better understand your own boundaries, communicate your expectations, and start the conversations many couples avoid until it's too late.

⚠️ This is a Watershed episode. Free listeners get the first half of the conversation, but if you want the full debate, all our answers, and the deeper discussions around ENM, trust, honesty and relationship agreements, you'll need to join us on Patreon.

Whether you're happily monogamous, exploring ethical non-monogamy, or simply wondering where your own line is, this episode will leave you with plenty to think about.

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We're back!

After a whirlwind few months, Florence and Reed reunite to share some huge life update and trust us, a lot has happened.

Florence opens up about her traumatic birth experience, from preeclampsia and induction to the realities of labour, recovery and becoming a mum. Meanwhile, Reed spills the tea on ending a dishonest situationship, finding a healthy new polyamorous relationship, and what dating has taught her about attachment, communication and vulnerability.

The pair also dive into some of the biggest stories affecting sexual health right now, including NHS policy changes impacting trans healthcare, breakthroughs in endometriosis and PCOS research, and why menstrual products are finally being tested with real blood.

Plus, they answer your questions on:

Sex and intimacy after having a baby

Maintaining connection during major life changes

Dating, honesty and ethical communication

Talking about penis size before sex

Women's health research and medical advocacy

Raw, funny, emotional and completely unfiltered - this is Come Curious catching up on everything you've missed.

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