Come Curious

No one really prepares you for what happens when your best friend has a baby.

Suddenly your lives look completely different. Messages take longer to reply to, spontaneous plans disappear, priorities shift, and sometimes... it can feel like you're grieving a friendship that's still alive.

In this deeply honest episode, Florence and Reed unpack how becoming a parent changes friendships—not just for the person having the baby, but for the friends left wondering where they fit in.

We discuss:

Why it's normal to grieve a friendship changing after parenthood

Feeling left behind when your friends start families

How to support a friend who's just had a baby

What parents actually need from their child-free friends

Navigating jealousy, loneliness and changing priorities

Why friendships naturally have "seasons"

Creating your own village—whether you have children or not

How honest communication can save lifelong friendships

Whether you're expecting your first baby, proudly child-free, undecided, or simply watching your friendship group evolve, this episode is for anyone trying to hold onto meaningful relationships through life's biggest transitions.

Because growing up doesn't have to mean growing apart.

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Porn is everywhere but how much is too much? What are people actually searching for? And should we be worried about our viewing habits?

This week we're diving headfirst into the world of pornography. As former porn creators ourselves, we're unpacking how our relationship with porn has changed over the years, what healthy consumption looks like, and why the conversation around "porn addiction" might be more complicated than people think.

We explore:

Is porn addiction real or is it better understood as a compulsion?

When does watching porn become unhealthy?

The world's most searched porn categories (including why hentai has dominated global searches)

Why Gen Z's porn habits are changing

The fastest-growing sexually active age group

How porn can affect relationships, intimacy and desire

Our own experiences working in the adult industry

Wild, weird and wonderful listener-submitted porn searches

From anime to MILFs, roleplay to relationship dynamics, this episode explores what our fantasies can tell us, without judgement.

Whether you watch porn regularly, occasionally or not at all, this is an honest conversation about fantasy, shame, curiosity and sexual wellbeing.

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What's the actual difference between an ()rgy and a g4ng bang? And why do these two forms of group sx carry such different cultural baggage?

In this episode of Come Curious, we're diving into the definitions, misconceptions, fantasies and realities surrounding two of the most talked-about group sx experiences.

We explore where these ideas come from, how they've been shaped by mainstream 🌽orn, and why consent, agency and communication matter so much when discussing group sexual experiences.

Along the way, we discuss:

The difference between ()rgies and g4ng bangs

Why group sex remains one of the world's most common fantasies

How porn influences our understanding of group sx

Listener stories, unexpected experiences and hilarious mishaps

Sexual health, testing and safer group play

Why these experiences aren't exclusive to any one gender or sexuality

How our own relationships with sx, sobriety and intimacy have evolved over time

We also take a look at some recent developments in contraception research, including updates in male contraception trials and conversations around informed contraceptive choices.

Whether you're simply curious, have fantasised about group sx, or want to better understand the language and culture surrounding it, this episode offers an open, honest and judgement-free discussion.

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Turns out the sexiest things aren't always sexual.

In this episode of Come Curious, we're diving into the unexpected, surprising, and sometimes downright bizarre things that make people feel attracted, connected, and turned on.

From fresh bed sheets and gardening to emotional vulnerability and conflict resolution, we're exploring the green flags, personality traits, and everyday moments that can spark desire in ways we never expected.

We discuss:

Why emotional vulnerability can be incredibly attractive

The appeal of emotional regulation and healthy communication

Acts of service and why chores can become foreplay

Competence, confidence and professional attraction

Eye contact, direct communication and feeling desired

Nature, scent, fresh sheets and creating an erotic atmosphere

Listener submissions about accents, singing, oral fixations and more

We also share some personal life updates, including navigating parenthood, balancing work and childcare, and our recent visit to Parliament to discuss the shadow-banning and deplatforming of sx workers, educators and LGBTQ+ creators on social media platforms.

Because attraction isn't always about bodies or sex.

Sometimes it's about feeling safe, understood, supported or watching someone confidently reverse a car into a parking space.

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When cheating happens, everyone wants a simple answer: leave or stay.

But real relationships are rarely that straightforward.

In this episode of Come Curious, we unpack one of the most painful questions a person can face: should you stay with someone who has cheated on you?

Drawing on listener stories, expert insights, personal experiences, and relationship research, we explore why affairs happen, what cheating can reveal about a relationship, and whether trust can genuinely be rebuilt after betrayal.

Tune in to hear about:

Why people cheat in the first place

Emotional affairs vs physical affairs

When cheating is a symptom of deeper relationship problems

The role of communication, accountability and therapy

Signs a relationship may be repairable

When leaving might be the healthiest choiceListener stories of recovery, separation and ethical non-monogamy

The long-term impact of betrayal on mental health and self-worth

We also examine the reality that many couples do stay together after infidelity, and why healing looks different for every relationship.

Whether you've been cheated on, cheated yourself, or simply want to understand the psychology behind affairs, this conversation offers compassion, honesty and practical perspectives without reducing a deeply human experience to a simple yes-or-no answer.

Shout out to therapist Jemma Hardelle who provided her insight on this topic.

You can find her online at @hardelle_jemma on IG and www.jemmahardelle.com

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