Secondhand Therapy

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Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!
BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored
If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/
Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored
http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources
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This week on Secondhand Therapy, we spiral through the chaos of modern dating, emotional wounds, and why so many of us confuse being chosen with actually choosing.
What starts as a breakdown of Love Island turns into a deeper conversation about jealousy, codependency, attachment styles, rejection trauma, emotional accountability, toxic relationship patterns, and the psychology of needing validation. Lou and Michael unpack how childhood conditioning shapes adult relationships, why some people feel they have to earn love, and what happens when anger feels too dangerous to express.
From dating red flags to emotional regulation, vulnerability, anxious attachment, self-worth, and healing old wounds—this episode blends therapy talk with comedy in the way only Secondhand Therapy can.
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PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105

Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti
Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Topics include: dating anxiety, relationship advice, emotional intelligence, trauma bonding, people pleasing, abandonment wounds, men’s mental health, self-worth, attachment theory, love addiction, and healing from childhood trauma.

Support the boys:
PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod
MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com
Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!
BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored
If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/
Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored
http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources
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In this episode of Secondhand Therapy, Lou and Michael unpack the emotional freeze state that can hit during stress, anxiety, and grief — from dissociation in a parking lot to the invisible “reps” it takes to keep showing up. They dive deep into codependency, abandonment wounds, dating anxiety, and the fear of getting hurt when a new connection feels too familiar too fast. The conversation explores attachment styles, emotional regulation, control as self-protection, and how unresolved trauma can shape relationships. Plus: modern dating apps, vulnerability in men, non-monogamy, and why healing isn’t as linear as we hope.
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Contact us:
secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com
818-850-2448
PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105

Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti
Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Topics: anxiety, codependency recovery, emotional overwhelm, dissociation, attachment theory, dating after heartbreak, men’s mental health, trauma healing, relationships, abandonment issues, therapy, grief, vulnerability.

Support the boys:
PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod
MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com
Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!
BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored
If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/
Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored
http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources
Why do some people feel trapped even when the door is open?
This week on Secondhand Therapy, Lou and Michael unpack the traits they inherited from their parents — addiction, anxiety, humor, shame, and the constant urge to escape. Lou opens up about a major therapy breakthrough around self-sabotage, ADHD overwhelm, money anxiety, loneliness, and feeling stuck, while Michael explores what it means to feel emotions instead of just reporting them.
They dive into childhood trauma, emotional vulnerability, family dynamics, social anxiety, inherited patterns, relationships, and healing, while asking the hard question: Are we living the life we actually want — or the one fear built for us?
A raw and funny conversation about men’s mental health, therapy, emotional regulation, connection, and breaking generational cycles.
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BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com

Follow us here:
http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod
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Contact us:
secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com
818-850-2448
PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105

Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti
Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Topics: therapy, ADHD, anxiety, emotional suppression, trauma healing, money mindset, self-worth, vulnerability, family trauma, relationships, loneliness, social connection

Support the boys:
PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod
MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com
Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!
BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored
If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/
Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored
http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources
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Vasectomies, validation, casual dating, and emotional accountability — this week on Secondhand Therapy, Lou opens up about getting a vasectomy, the fears that came with it, and what the recovery was really like. Meanwhile, Michael unpacks a brutal therapy breakthrough about how his actions in dating don’t match his intentions.
The guys get into fear of commitment, people-pleasing, casual relationships vs emotional intimacy, validation addiction, dating apps, self-worth, and why setting boundaries is harder than it sounds. They also explore the uncomfortable truth about using relationships for external validation and what it means to finally choose yourself.
If you’ve struggled with attachment styles, dating anxiety, therapy breakthroughs, boundaries in relationships, or learning how to stop seeking validation from others, this episode is for you.
Topics: vasectomy recovery, men’s mental health, dating advice, therapy, emotional maturity, people pleasing, casual sex, attachment wounds, self-love, relationships, fear, healing.
BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com

Follow us here:
http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod
http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod
Contact us:
secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com
818-850-2448
PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105

Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti
Theme Music: Jamie Franks

Support the boys:
PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod
MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com
Psychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!
BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsored
If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/
Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored
http://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources
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Why is it so much easier to think about our feelings than actually feel them?
This week, after some needed accountability from Papa Bear, we explore the tension between logic and emotion, the challenge of vulnerability, and what happens when the coping mechanisms that once protected us start getting in the way. We talk about therapy, emotional avoidance, grief, self-awareness, identity, personal growth, and the uncomfortable process of letting people see the parts of ourselves we'd rather keep hidden.
Along the way, we discuss relationships, mental health, anxiety, healing, emotional regulation, and the ongoing struggle to balance what we know logically with what we feel emotionally.
If you've ever found yourself overthinking instead of feeling, avoiding difficult emotions, or wondering why personal growth can feel so uncomfortable, this conversation is for you. Or not. We're not experts.
BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com

Follow us here:
http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod
http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod
Contact us:
secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com
818-850-2448
PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105

Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti
Theme Music: Jamie Franks