Strictly Stalking

EPISODE SUMMARY 
In this powerful and insightful episode, Vanessa Reiser sits down with Dr. Ramani Durvasula, one of the world's leading experts on narcissistic abuse and coercive control. They explore how public understanding of narcissistic abuse has evolved, particularly among younger generations who now have expanded language around gaslighting, love bombing, and coercive control. Dr. Ramani and Vanessa discuss the dangers of over-labeling, the limitations of "just leave" advice in complex situations, and how culture continues to reflect these toxic dynamics. Using the Epstein files as a lens, they examine grooming, enablers, epistemic power, and how unchecked power shapes harmful systems. Dr. Ramani shares practical harm-reduction strategies, the importance of healing in community, and the value of "climbing into the gray" without excusing harm.
KEY TOPICS DISCUSSED 
Youth and the New Vocabulary Around Narcissistic Abuse Therapy Shifts and Rebuilding Agency Culture Rewriting Old Narratives (Amy Fisher / Joey Buttafuoco Case) Epstein Files: Grooming, Enablers, and Institutional Betrayal Kids Facing Modern Horror and Pattern Recognition Power Sadism and Lack of Accountability Covert Narcissists Explained Avoiding Narcissists: Practical Tips Spotting Limits and Safe Disengagement Staying Anchored in Yourself Amid Chaos What Continues to Move Dr. Ramani Therapists "Getting It" – Progress and Gaps Wild Gaslighting Examples and Environmental Manipulation Epistemic Power Explained When the Narcissist Leaves and Smear Campaigns Supply Networks and Control Tactics Collective Healing Through Community Leaning Into the Gray Without Excusing Harm
RESOURCES Dr. Ramani Durvasula's Books:
Should I Stay or Should I Go?
It's Not You
Don't You Know Who I Am?
You Are WHY You Eat
Dr. Ramani's Podcast: Navigating Narcissism Connect with Dr. Ramani: Instagram: @doctorramani Website: doctor-ramani.com AND Dr. Ramani's therapist only program can be found here:   https://drramaninetwork.mn.co/therapistsonly
Connect with Vanessa Reiser: Instagram: @vanessareiserlcsw Patreon: For exclusive bonus content and deeper discussions
CONTENT WARNINGS This episode contains discussions of: Narcissistic abuse and coercive control Gaslighting and reality distortion Institutional betrayal and systemic power abuse Epstein-related allegations Emotional manipulation and trauma
QUOTES TO REMEMBER "The truth doesn't need your permission to exist." — Dr. Ramani Durvasula "Even when the system fails you, your body still knows the truth." — Dr. Ramani Durvasula "Climbing into the gray doesn't mean excusing harm — it means refusing to live in black-and-white thinking that keeps us stuck." — Vanessa Reiser
Disclaimer: This podcast is for mature audiences and is not a substitute for therapy, legal, or medical advice. Guest opinions are their own and don't necessarily reflect those of the host or affiliated platforms. Produced by Vanessa Reiser and music by Alex Productions "Once Upon a Time".
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Jennifer is a career nanny who says an ordinary job search became something far more disturbing after she declined a position through a nanny agency. What began as routine professional communication soon escalated into hostile messages, fake identities, relentless phone calls, and harassment that followed Jennifer for more than a year — even reaching her on her wedding day. As she tried to figure out who was behind it, Jennifer began discovering other women with eerily similar stories. For Jennifer, what should have been a simple job opportunity spiraled into a campaign of stalking, intimidation, and obsession.
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Vanessa Reiser is a therapist whose life became the focus of a relentless campaign of surveillance and intimidation. After her relationship ended, the harassment didn't stop — it escalated. A private investigator was allegedly hired to follow her, and someone posing as a patient infiltrated her therapy practice. As Vanessa fought to protect herself, she turned to the courts for help. But when her request for a restraining order was denied, the fear and harassment only intensified. Now, Vanessa is speaking publicly about what happened behind the headlines — and what it feels like when the system meant to protect you leaves you vulnerable instead.
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Guest Links:
Vanessa M. Reiser, LCSW
Tellatherapist.net
Tellatherapist.org
Tellalifecoach.com
https://www.instagram.com/vanessareiserlcsw
Narcissistic Abuse (Book) - Amazon Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist's Guide to Identifying, Escaping, and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People
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Rachel thought leaving would be the end—but it was only the beginning. After years in a relationship that turned from controlling to violent, she finally got out. But he didn't let go. He kept showing up. Watching. Waiting. Until one day at work, the stalking turned into a brutal attack. Rachel survived—but the aftermath would alter the course of her life forever.
**The following episode of Strictly Stalking contains graphics depictions of physical violence and suicide. Please listen with caution.**
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Guest Links:
Rachel Williams
The Devil at Home (Book) - Amazon https://amzn.eu/d/04pbv1oO 
https://sutda.org/rachel-williams/
 www.standuptodomesticabuse.org. 
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Kelly thought it was just another shift—until a customer she had never met asked for her by name. He wouldn't take no for an answer, pushing for her number and warning he'd just keep coming back. But it wasn't random. Kelly later learned he had been watching her online for weeks—studying her videos and tracking details until he found where she worked. She reported it. She took action. But the experience didn't end there—and it's changed how she lives her life.
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