217 – The Potential Pain of Adoption Reunions and How to Support Your Child (with Jane Baker)
What if my child reaches out and gets rejected for a second time? 💔
Has your adopted child ever searched for their birth family with hope in their heart, only to face silence, disappointment, or outright rejection? It’s a kind of pain that shakes both the child and the parent who longs to protect them. 💭
Hi Neighbor,
In this episode, I continue my conversation with my friend and trusted adoption professional, Jane Baker, a woman who has spent decades walking with children and families through some of the most complex and emotional adoption stories. 🤝
This is the third installment in our series on helping adopted children understand, navigate, and process the truth of their story.
In earlier episodes:
• Episode 210 focused on adopted children who simply want to know their story and how to answer their questions with honesty, empathy, and clarity.
• Episode 212 explored what to say when your child’s story is painful or difficult to tell.
In this conversation, Jane helps us understand what happens when adoptees take the next step, seeking connection with birth parents or siblings and how parents can support them through the fragile hopes and unpredictable outcomes. 🌱
Together, we explore how to:
🔍 Support your child when social media makes birth-family discovery easier but far more complicated.
💬 Help them sort through expectations, fantasies, and the emotional realities of reunion.
🧭 Prepare both yourself and your child emotionally, spiritually, and practically.
🌿 Stay grounded so you can be a steady presence instead of being swept up in the hurt.
Jane also shares some of the most heartbreaking and eye-opening moments she’s witnessed, stories of joyful connection, cautious optimism, and the crushing pain of renewed rejection.
Her wisdom will help you see more clearly what your child might be carrying, even if they don’t have the words to say it. 💡
At the end of this episode, I share a Biblical principle from Psalm 34:18 that has shaped my own adoption journey, a reminder that God draws near to the brokenhearted and invites us to do the same. Some moments are not about fixing but about faithful, grounded presence. ✨
If you’ve ever wondered how to support your child through a reunion that brings more questions than answers, this episode will help you find clarity, courage, and compassion for the road ahead. 💛
Anchors of Hope and Healing are on the way.
Your Neighbor,
Tim 💙
P.S. If you’ve ever felt lost trying to connect Scripture with the realities of adoption trauma, I’d love to walk alongside you. Let’s have a one-on-one conversation where we can talk through practical tools and Biblical encouragement for your journey.
👉 Send me an email at
[email protected] to grab your spot. I’d be honored to walk with you. 💙
If you haven’t joined our private community, consider this an invitation. It’s a safe space to share your struggles and triumphs with fellow adoptive parents who truly understand what you're going through.
Connect with Jane Baker:
Phone: 256-353-8528
Email:
[email protected]
Website: https://www.adoption-associates.com/
Listen to Jane’s Episodes:
8 – Adoption Trauma Defined! Part 1: How to Understand Its Causes and Effects with Jane Baker
9 – Adoption Trauma Defined! Part 2: How to Find Help and a Good Therapist with Jane Baker
86 – When Friends Fail You! How Adoptive Parents Can Heal From Betrayal? With Jane Baker
183 – Adoption Struggles: Wisdom I Wish I Had Known with Jane Baker
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