The Cathy Heller Podcast

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What happens when keeping the peace starts costing you your relationship with yourself?

In this live conversation, Cathy sits down with coach, psychotherapist, and Institute for Coaching Mastery founder Alyssa Nobriga to talk about relationships, triggers, people-pleasing, and what it actually takes to create deeper love without abandoning yourself in the process.

Alyssa shares her four stages of love and explains why relationship triggers do not necessarily mean something is wrong. They can reveal the places inside us that still need our attention. She also explains how speaking from vulnerable truth instead of blame can completely change a difficult conversation, especially when one person feels like they are growing faster than the other.

Cathy opens up about her own relationships, including the fear she felt telling her former partner the truth about what she needed and the realization that she had spent years protecting other people instead of being fully honest. Alyssa shares a vulnerable story from her own marriage about finally grieving a past relationship and how allowing herself to feel what she had been avoiding opened her heart more fully to her husband.

They also connect the same patterns to business. Cathy and Alyssa explore how the need to be liked can make us overfunction, avoid rejection, soften our point of view, and become the bottleneck in our own growth. The work is not only learning a better strategy. It is becoming free enough to be seen, tell the truth, and let the right people choose you.

This episode is for you if you are afraid of outgrowing a relationship, constantly manage other people’s feelings, struggle to say what you really need, or know that your fear of being judged is keeping you smaller than you want to be.

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Alyssa NobrigaFounder and CEO of the Institute for Coaching Mastery

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What if you already understand the problem, but understanding it is not actually changing how you feel?

In this live conversation, Cathy sits down with Samantha Skelly, founder of Pause Breathwork, to talk about why insight alone does not always create transformation and what can happen when we stop trying to think our way through everything and actually allow ourselves to feel.

Samantha shares how her own struggles with an eating disorder, body dysmorphia, and anxiety led her to breathwork after years of trying to change through mindset work alone. She explains why she believes deeper change requires us to build a different relationship with our emotions, our bodies, and the parts of ourselves we have learned to suppress.

Cathy also shares a deeply personal experience from a seven-day retreat where she reenacted a moment from childhood and finally allowed herself to feel the emotional weight she had been carrying for years. Together, Cathy and Samantha explore why we resist uncomfortable feelings, how that resistance can quietly shape our choices, and what becomes possible when we stop fighting ourselves.

The conversation then becomes an experience as Samantha guides Cathy and the room through a breathwork practice designed to help participants slow down, reconnect with their bodies, and make space for whatever they are feeling.

This episode is for you if you have read the books, done the therapy, understand your patterns, and still wonder why knowing better has not necessarily made you feel different.

Samantha Skelly

Founder of Pause BreathworkWebsite: https://www.samanthaskelly.com/

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What if you already know the answer, but the noise in your head keeps drowning it out?

In this live conversation, Cathy sits down with speaker and coach Rudi Riekstins to explore the difference between fear, familiar mental patterns, and the quieter internal signals we often call intuition. Rudi shares his idea of the “still point,” a place beneath the mental noise where he believes we can become more aware of what feels expansive and what feels restrictive.

Rudi also tells the remarkable story of being told at 18 that he would never find true love, carrying that prediction for years, and eventually deciding he would no longer let someone else’s story determine what was possible for him. He shares what happened when he later met the woman he had somehow felt certain was coming into his life.

Cathy and Rudi talk about why familiar patterns can be so hard to leave, what it looks like to create space before reacting, and why constantly looking outside yourself for the answer can make it harder to hear what you already know. Cathy closes the conversation with a reminder to make time for the most important meeting of the day: the one where you get quiet enough to listen to yourself, your soul, and God.

This episode is for you if you overthink decisions, struggle to trust yourself, or feel like everyone else’s opinions have gotten louder than your own inner knowing.

Rudi Riekstins

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What if nothing is terribly wrong with your life, but something still feels missing?

Cathy sits down with Ben Nemtin, co-founder of The Buried Life and author of What Do You Want to Do Before You Die?, for a conversation about the dreams we bury, why waiting for motivation keeps us stuck, and how to start building a life that actually feels like your own.

Ben shares how a period of depression led him and his friends to write a list of 100 things they wanted to do before they died, eventually turning that experiment into a movement. He explains why purpose does not have to be one huge calling, why taking action can create motivation, and why the smallest possible step is often enough to start moving toward the things that make you feel more alive.

Cathy also opens up about how losing her dad changed the way she looked at her own life, why she ultimately chose to leave the life she had built in Los Angeles, and the honest conversation she finally had with her father shortly before he died. Together, Cathy and Ben explore regret, fear of judgment, letting go of control, and what can happen when you stop waiting for a crisis to give yourself permission to change.

This episode is for you if your life looks fine on paper but you keep wondering whether there is something more, if you have lost touch with what you actually want, or if fear and practicality keep talking you out of taking the first step.

Ben Nemtin

Co-founder of The Buried Life

Instagram: @bennemtin

The Bucket List Journal: Available on Amazon

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What if the fear keeping you small was built at a time when you didn’t know what you were capable of?

In this live conversation, Cathy is joined by executive and communication coach Lauren Weinstein to talk about confidence, visibility, limiting beliefs, fear of judgment, and perfectionism. Lauren shares the elephant metaphor from her TEDx talk and explains how old beliefs can keep us playing small even after we’ve outgrown them.

Cathy also shares stories about Matthew McConaughey and Christina Perri as reminders that being seen is not about performing perfectly. It is about showing up, contributing what is yours to give, and trusting yourself enough to begin.

Lauren explains why confidence is built through action and repetition. The people we admire became great because they were willing to start small, be imperfect, and get the reps.

This episode is for you if you are ready to stop overthinking what other people think, move through your fear of visibility, and let yourself be seen before you feel completely ready.

Lauren Weinstein

Resonate Coaching

Instagram: @weinstein_lauren

TEDx Talk: Don’t Believe Everything You Think

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