Slate's Mom and Dad Are Fighting

On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Care and Feeding columnist Nicole Cliffe. They answer a question from a mom whose brother’s suicide attempt is causing her to reevaluate her son’s relationship with his uncle. He’s recovering, but can she trust him to look after her eight year old? They also answer a question from a father whose kid regrets choosing an iPad over a Switch. Should he just break down and buy the Switch? And how can he teach his son that getting the next shiny thing doesn’t necessarily make you happy? For Slate Plus, special guest and Slate staff writer Ruth Graham discusses her parenting dilemma that included a highly anticipated trip and... barf? Sign up for Slate Plus here. Recommendations: Dan recommends two Oscar nominations for your tweens and teens: Knives Out and Parasite. Jamilah tossed in the Oscar-nominated short, Hair Love. Many art-house theaters screen the Oscar nominated shorts; so go see them in person. Jamilah recommends Trader Joe’s cauliflower products. Cauliflower au gratin, great! Cauliflower tot casserole, delicious! Plus, you don’t really have to cook. Nicole recommends Contigo water bottles for kids, which comes in blue and orange. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Hosts Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in California. Dan Kois is an editor and writer at Slate. He’s the author of How to Be a Family and the co-author of The World Only Spins Forward. Nicole Cliffe lives with her husband and three children in Sandy, Utah. She is the co-founder of the Toast and has written for the Guardian, Christianity Today, New York, and the Morning News. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Dan and Jamilah are joined by Laura Tisdel to answer listener questions. A mom wonders how to deal with the privilege disparity between her biracial black daughter and her white son after she noticed her son getting preferential treatment at daycare. Plus, a mom asks about taking the fall for her daughter when her daughter feels uncomfortable standing up to a friend. For Slate Plus, the hosts talk about the parenting vices they won’t be giving up in 2020. Sign up for Slate Plus here.   Recommendations: Laura recommends Rivers, Roads & Rails, a game where you collect pieces to make transportation pathways, plus Catherine Newman's list of her favorite games. Dan recommends Azul, a tile strategy game where you pretend to be building Portuguese tile art.   Jamilah recommends Surviving R. Kelly Part II: The Reckoning on Lifetime. Additional Reading: The Color Complex by Kathy Russell, Midge Wilson and Ronald Hall. In 2020, Skip Your Resolutions—Embrace a Vice by Slate Staff. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833.   Audio engineering by Merritt Jacob. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.   Hosts Dan Kois is an editor and writer at Slate. He’s the author of How to Be a Family and the co-author of The World Only Spins Forward. Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in California. Laura Tisdel is a book editor at Penguin Random House.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Jamilah is joined by former MADAF host Gabriel Roth to talk about their New Year’s parenting resolutions. Plus, they answer a listener question from a mom wondering if her husband’s napping is selfish. For Slate Plus, Jamilah and Gabriel compare the parents they thought they would be with the parents they actually are. Sign up for Slate Plus here.   Recommendations:   Jamilah recommends the Creatable World Deluxe Character Set, gender non-conforming dolls from Mattel.   Gabriel recommends building Lego sets with your kids, specifically the Hogwarts™ Whomping Willow™ Lego set. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833.   Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.   Hosts Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in California. Gabriel Roth is Slate's editorial director for audio. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

From yelling at kids to teens gallivanting around Europe to breast milk taste tests, 2019 has been a year of wonderful questions and conundrums from you—our fellow parents. On this week’s special edition: our favorite moments from this year’s Slate Plus segments. If you like what you hear in this episode, sign up for Slate Plus.   Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833.   Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.   Hosts Dan Kois is an editor and writer at Slate. He’s the author of How to Be a Family and the co-author of The World Only Spins Forward. Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in California. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Jamilah is joined by Rebecca Lavoie to answer this week’s listener questions from moms contemplating changing schools because their biracial daughter is bothered about not fitting in, and a mother whose childcare provider is offering to do it for free. How can she ensure her neighbor is properly compensated for this service? For Slate Plus, Jamilah and Rebecca take advantage of Dan’s absence and respond to his article “The Decade in Dads” article with the Decade in Moms. Sign up for Slate Plus here. Recommendations: Jamilah recommends My Quotable Kid: A Parents' Journal of Unforgettable Quotes. Rebecca recommends recording your kids, stashing the audio away and surprising yourself with this self-made time capsule years later. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to tell us what you thought of today’s show and give us ideas for what we should talk about in future episodes. Got questions that you’d like us to answer? Call and leave us a message at 424-255-7833. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.   Hosts Jamilah Lemieux is a writer, cultural critic, and communications strategist based in California. Rebecca Lavoie is a host of the podcasts Crime Writers On … and … These Are Their Stories: The Law and Order Podcast. She is the co-author of four books with her husband, Kevin Flynn: Our Little Secret, Legally Dead, Notes on a Killing, and Dark Heart. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices