Complex Kids, Simple Solutions

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In this episode, Michelle sits down with Bailey Payne, BCBA, to talk about what truly helps complex kids and their families when behavior feels overwhelming and unclear. They explore why behavior is rarely simple, why traditional approaches often fall short, and how real change begins by adjusting the environment—not trying to fix the child.
Bailey shares a practical, family-centered perspective on behavior analysis, emphasizing alignment, sustainability, and trust over rigid protocols.
Bailey shares:
Why behavior isn’t random. Complex behavior often has multiple causes that can shift quickly, making simple explanations ineffective.
Why environment comes first. How we give directions, offer choices, and structure daily life matters before addressing behavior itself.
The limits of traditional ABA. Clinic-based models, high turnover, and poor fit can leave families frustrated and unheard.
Why parents should trust their gut. If an approach feels wrong or unsustainable, it’s okay to move on.
Why older kids are overlooked. Support often drops after early childhood, leaving teens and young adults without meaningful services.
What in-home support looks like for teens. Life skills like shopping, budgeting, work readiness, and independence become the focus.
A shift in goals. The aim isn’t compliance—it’s autonomy and quality of life.
Why noticing the good matters. Focusing on strengths changes how children see themselves and how families interact.
Quote to tape on the fridge:
“If it doesn’t feel right or sustainable, trust your gut.”
👤 About Bailey Payne
Bailey Payne is a Board Certified Behavior Analyst providing in-home services and school consultation with a focus on family values, independence, and practical skill-building. She is especially committed to supporting teens and young adults, a group often underserved in behavioral care.
She is also the creator of Behavior Breakthrough, a framework that helps parents and educators understand and support behavior through environmental change.
🔗 Connect with Bailey Payne
📧 [email protected]
🌐 www.baileypayne.com
🎵 TikTok: behaviorbreakthrough
📸 Instagram: behavior_breakthrough
📘 Facebook: Behavior Breakthrough with Bailey Payne

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In this conversation, Michelle sits down with Nicola Rose, independent filmmaker and writer-director of Magnetosphere, to explore how storytelling through film can deepen understanding, empathy, and awareness of neurodivergence—especially during the complex and vulnerable years of early adolescence.
Nicola shares the journey behind Magnetosphere, a feature film centered on a neurodivergent 13-year-old girl who discovers she has synesthesia, and why telling this story from the child’s point of view was essential.
Nicola shares:
What synesthesia really is. A neurological phenomenon where senses intertwine—such as seeing sound or hearing color—and why it’s far more common (and underrepresented) than people realize.
Why early adolescence matters. Age 13 is a pivotal moment where puberty, identity, and neurological differences collide—making it a powerful time to tell this story.
Telling the story from the child’s perspective. How camera angles, visual effects, and point-of-view shots were intentionally used to show what the child experiences, not what adults assume.
Why neurodivergent stories rarely get mainstream funding. The realities of independent filmmaking, investor bias, and why films centered on young girls often struggle to gain industry support.
Representation beyond labels. While synesthesia is central, Magnetosphere also reflects ADHD and other forms of neurodiversity—both on screen and behind the scenes.
A message for parents of neurodivergent kids. Healthy connection begins when adults are willing to shift perspective and truly see the world through their child’s eyes.
A powerful reframe for parents:
“You can’t nurture a healthy relationship with a neurodivergent child if you’re unwilling to step outside your own lens and try to understand theirs.”
Whether you’re parenting a neurodivergent child, working in education, or simply interested in stories that expand empathy and awareness, Magnetosphere invites families to slow down, listen, and see difference not as a deficit—but as a unique way of experiencing the world.
👤 About Nicola Rose
Nicola Rose is an independent filmmaker, writer, and director of the feature film Magnetosphere. With a background in narrative filmmaking and a commitment to authentic representation, Nicola creates character-driven stories that center underrepresented voices particularly neurodivergent children and adolescents.
🎬 About Magnetosphere
Magnetosphere follows a neurodivergent 13-year-old girl as she navigates puberty, identity, and the discovery that she experiences synesthesia. The film is designed for families and adults alike—rated no higher than PG and sparks meaningful conversations between parents and children about perception, difference, and understanding.
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🎥 Watch Magnetosphere:
Freestyledigitalmedia.tv/film/magnetosphere
📸 Instagram:
@magnetospheremovie
📧 Contact:
[email protected]
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In this conversation, Michelle sits down with Lisa Watson, inner-child healing coach and creator of the Reparenting Method, to unpack why parenting—especially complex kids—can feel so emotionally overwhelming, and how our children often activate unhealed parts of ourselves that are asking for compassion, validation, and repair.
Lisa shares:
Why your triggers aren’t about your child. Our strongest reactions come from subconscious beliefs formed between ages zero to seven—long before we had language, logic, or choice.
The truth about the past. The past doesn’t exist in time, but it lives in the body. Healing happens by validating emotional experiences, not reliving or rehashing them.
The Reparenting Method. By meeting your inner child as your higher, wiser self, you can correct the lies learned in childhood and replace shame with safety and self-trust.
Why validation is the only job during a meltdown. Dysregulated nervous systems can’t learn. During emotional overload, presence and validation matter far more than correction.
How healing yourself changes your parenting. When you release shame, perfectionism, and control within yourself, it becomes easier to respond—rather than react—to your child’s behavior.
A powerful reframe for parents of complex kids. Your child isn’t here to break you—they’re here to guide you back to yourself.
Quote to tape on the fridge:
“Your children were divinely designed to be your guide. Every trigger is a gift pointing you back to yourself.”
Whether you’re navigating meltdowns, neurodivergence, or your own inherited parenting patterns, Lisa’s message is clear: healing the child within you creates safety, regulation, and connection for the child in front of you.
👤 About Lisa Watson
Lisa Watson is an inner-child healing coach, conscious parenting educator, and creator of the Reparenting Method. With a background in childhood development and conscious parenting, she helps adults dismantle limiting subconscious beliefs so they can show up with more presence, compassion, and emotional regulation—especially as parents.
🔗 Connect with Lisa Watson
📧 [email protected]
 📸 https://www.instagram.com/reparent_yourself
📘 https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61571427100884
💼 https://www.linkedin.com/in/watsonlisak
🎵 https://www.tiktok.com/@reparent.yourself
🌐 www.reparent-yourself.com

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In this episode, Michelle sits down with pediatric dietitian and eating-behavior specialist Jessica Setnick to talk about one of the most stressful parts of raising complex and neurodivergent kids: mealtimes. Jessica breaks down why picky eating, food battles, and nutrition worries are rarely about the food itself—and how families can create calmer, more connected routines around eating.
Jessica shares:
Why mealtimes feel so emotional.
Parents carry their own childhood memories, family rules, and pressure to “get nutrition right.” Jessica explains how these expectations quietly shape the stress we feel at the table.
How to reduce the pressure—starting today.
From separating ingredients to offering a reliable “safe food” at each meal, Jessica shows parents how to build trust and remove the power struggle without turning into short-order cooks.
Understanding hunger with ADHD and complex needs.
Medication, sensory issues, and delayed awareness can mean kids don’t realize they’re hungry until they melt down. Jessica offers scripts and strategies to involve kids in solving the “after-school crash.”
Her “experiment, not expectation” approach.
Taste tests, paper-bag spit cups, counter snacks, and low-pressure exposures help kids explore new foods without fear—and help parents stop interpreting every bite as a measure of success.
Healing your own food story.
Jessica reveals how our childhood patterns around food still show up in our parenting today—and how her Healing Your Inner Eater workbook helps families break shame-based cycles.
Quote to remember:
 “Only really good parents worry that they’re failing their kids.”
If your child refuses most foods, eats the same thing every night, melts down at dinner, or panics at the sight of something new, Jessica’s message is freeing: you can lower the stress, reduce the shame, and build a healthier relationship with food—one calm moment at a time.
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📧 Email: [email protected]
🌐 Website: www.JessicaSetnick.com
📘 Facebook: JessicaSetnick
💼 LinkedIn: JessicaSetnick
📸 Instagram: @UnderstandingNutrition
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 In this episode, Michelle sits down with young-adult consultant Joanna Lilley to talk about the moment so many parents fear: the 18th birthday. Joanna breaks down why turning 18 doesn’t magically make a child ready for adult life—and how families of complex and neurodivergent kids can create a calmer, more supported transition.
Joanna shares:
Why 18 feels so scary.
Parents worry they’ll suddenly lose all control and access. Joanna reframes the transition as a process—not a deadline.
A realistic “launch plan.”
Some 18-year-olds function like 15-year-olds, and that’s okay. Joanna helps families map out individualized paths: living at home longer, supportive housing, or step-by-step independence.
The power of the right team.
Conflicting providers can derail progress. Joanna explains how to build a collaborative team before 18—and ensure they’ll keep communicating after your child becomes a legal adult.
Her signature process.
From gathering IEPs, evaluations, and histories to creating a personalized “Who You Are / What You Need” roadmap, Joanna vets every provider before bringing them to the young adult.
A skill-building approach to adulthood.
Even when parents still hold most decisions, Joanna treats the young adult as the lead—using releases, interviews, and choices to build real adulting skills.
Quote to remember:
“Eighteen is a date—not a finish line. Adulthood gets to fit your child, not a checklist.”
If your child is close to adulthood—or nowhere near ready—Joanna’s message is grounding: there are many valid paths forward, and you don’t have to build that path alone.
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🔗Connect with Joanna
🌐Website: https://lilleyconsulting.com
📧Email: [email protected]
💼LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joanna-lilley-ma-ncc-12546566/
📘Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LilleyConsultingLLC/
▶️YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LilleyConsulting/featured
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