Complex Kids, Simple Solutions

In this honest, practical, and deeply relatable conversation, Michelle sits down with occupational therapy assistant and ADHD coach Tiara Brumberg to unpack what’s really going on behind behaviors parents see every day… and why so many of our kids aren’t actually being difficult—they’re overwhelmed.

This episode hits home in a real way—because it’s not theory. It’s the daily reality of parenting complex, neurodivergent, and special needs kids.
Tiara shares:

Why “simple” instructions aren’t actually simple.
“Clean your room” isn’t one task—it’s 20. And for kids with executive functioning challenges, not knowing where to start can lead to shutting down completely.

What executive functioning really means (in real life).
From time blindness to task initiation, organization, and emotional regulation—these are the invisible skills our kids are struggling with every single day.

The connection between ADHD, learning challenges, and behavior.

That overlap between dyslexia, attention, and processing? It’s real—and often misunderstood in both homes and schools.

Why your child can focus on video games—but not homework.

It’s not defiance. It’s how their brain processes interest, time, and effort.

The power of breaking things down step-by-step.
“Pick up your shoes” works. “Clean your room” doesn’t. Specificity changes everything.

Motivation matters more than we think.
If there’s no meaningful reason to do the hard thing, kids will avoid it. And honestly? That makes sense.

Why vague IEP goals fail our kids.
If a goal isn’t measurable, specific, and clearly defined—it’s not helping your child. It’s just checking a box.

How kids ‘work the system’ (and why it’s actually a strength).
These kids aren’t being manipulative—they’re smart. And with the right guidance, that skill becomes a lifelong advantage.

The parenting shift that changes everything: curiosity over control.
Instead of asking “Why won’t they just do it?” start asking “What’s getting in the way?”

Regulation starts with us.
Your child will match your energy. Calm creates calm. Escalation creates… more escalation.

Quote to sit with:
“They wake up every day wanting to be your favorite. When they can’t meet expectations, something is getting in the way—not a lack of effort.”

Whether you’re navigating ADHD, executive functioning struggles, or just feeling stuck in the daily battles—this episode will help you see your child differently… and respond differently.

👤 About Tiara Brumberg
Tiara is an occupational therapy assistant turned ADHD coach who specializes in helping families understand and navigate executive functioning challenges. With a background in working with children with dyslexia, ADHD, and learning differences, she now supports parents directly through coaching—bridging the gap between therapy and real-life parenting.

🔗 Connect with Tiara
Website: https://www.themiddlecoaching.net/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61573709050059

In this powerful and eye-opening conversation, Michelle sits down with special education attorney Edwin Egelsee—the very person who represented her son during due process—to break down what actually happens when advocacy turns legal… and what parents need to know before they ever get there.

Edwin shares:

Why IEP meetings feel intimidating—and how to take your power back.
That room full of professionals? It doesn’t change the law. You are meant to be an active participant, not just someone signing paperwork.

The rights parents overlook (and schools won’t explain).
Those documents they hand you at the beginning of every IEP? Most parents never read them—and that’s exactly why they matter.

Red flags that something is off.
When your child is “a delight to have in class”… but not progressing? When everything becomes “functional”? These are the moments to pause and dig deeper.

The truth about progress—and why data matters more than words.
“Making progress” means nothing without proof. Ask how they measured it. Ask for the data. Always.

IEPs not being followed? Here’s what to actually do.
From requesting meetings to Prior Written Notice (PWN) and compliance complaints, Edwin breaks down your real options step-by-step.

IEEs (Independent Evaluations)—when and how to push back.
If the school’s evaluation misses something, you have the right to challenge it—but it has to be done strategically.

Due process… what it really looks like.
Not the TV version. The real process, the emotional toll, and why it’s something to prepare for—but not rush into.

What attorneys actually do for families.
It’s not just legal strategy. It’s guidance, clarity, and helping parents make decisions that truly serve their child.

The most important shift for parents: be proactive, not reactive.
Keep records. Document everything. Know your child’s baseline. Don’t wait until things fall apart.

Quote to sit with:
“You’re not just there to agree. You’re there to participate. This is your child’s future.”
Whether you’re just starting your IEP journey or already feeling like something isn’t right, this episode gives you the clarity, language, and confidence to advocate differently.

👤 About Edwin Egelsee
A seasoned special education attorney with OC Kids Law, Edwin has dedicated his career to helping families navigate the legal side of special education. He works closely with parents to ensure children receive the support, services, and education they are legally entitled to.

🔗 Connect with Edwin
Website: https://www.ockidslaw.com/attorney/edwin-egelsee/

In this conversation, Michelle sits down with Cyndi Abundabar Ting—special education teacher, longtime instructional aide, and special needs mom—to unpack one of the most misunderstood eligibility categories in special education: ED, or Emotional Disability.

Cyndi shares:
Why ED is often misunderstood. Many parents hear “emotional disability” and immediately think of extreme psychiatric diagnoses, but ED can also describe students whose daily emotional dysregulation, trauma responses, anxiety, or behavioral outbursts are significantly affecting their ability to access school.

What the signs can look like in real life. Frequent verbal or physical outbursts, shutting down, leaving class, refusing work, social overwhelm, unsafe reactions, or being unable to regulate in a classroom setting can all be clues that something deeper is going on.

Why schools don’t jump to this eligibility overnight. ED is not a label teams hand out casually. It requires observation, documentation, assessment, staff collaboration, parent input, and careful consideration of whether the child’s needs are being met in the current setting.

What placement can actually look like. From general education with supports, to pull-outs, to SDC classrooms, to highly supported therapeutic environments, Cyndi explains how placement depends on the individual child—and why the goal is always the least restrictive environment that still works.

The importance of thinking outside the box. For some complex kids, the usual eligibility boxes do not fully fit. Cyndi emphasizes the need for teams to stay open-minded, look holistically at the child, and consider what will actually help them succeed academically, emotionally, and socially.

Quote to tape on the fridge:
“You are enough. You are doing the best you can with the resources you have.”

Whether your child is struggling with behaviors, emotional regulation, trauma, or an eligibility that just doesn’t seem to fit, Cyndi’s message is clear: you are not alone, and sometimes the right support starts with asking different questions.

👤 About Cyndi Abundabar Ting
Cyndi Abundabar Ting brings over 20 years of experience in special education as both an instructional aide and teacher. She has worked in emotionally focused programs, non-public school settings, and with students across a wide range of needs. She is also a parent of a child with special needs, which gives her both professional and personal insight into the IEP journey.

🔗 Connect with Cyndi
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/neurodiversenanay/

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In this conversation, Michelle sits down with Pennie Wilson, mental fitness coach and founder of Kokoro Creators, to unpack one of the hardest truths parents of complex kids face: sometimes the chaos doesn’t go away—but we can learn how to find calm inside it.

Pennie shares:
From survival mode to mental fitness. After 17 years in a controlling marriage, Pennie found herself completely disconnected from her own sense of power. Her journey through healing, meditation, and personal growth eventually led her to create a framework that helps parents reclaim control of their thoughts and emotional responses.

Why calm parents create calmer kids. When parents operate from anxiety, overwhelm, and constant urgency, kids absorb that energy. But when a parent slows down and becomes grounded—even for a few minutes—it changes the emotional climate of the entire home.

The storm and the sun mindset. Pennie teaches parents to notice where their attention lives: the storm (everything going wrong) or the sun (the direction they want their life to move). Shifting attention—even slightly—changes the way the brain processes stress.

The 4R framework for resetting your mind.
Recognize what feels heavy.
Remove the belief that’s keeping you stuck.
Replace it with a new perspective.
Reimagine the outcome you want to create.

The ripple effect of self-awareness. Instead of trying to fix kids or control every behavior, Pennie focuses on helping parents strengthen their own emotional awareness first—because that inner change naturally influences the whole family.

Quote to tape on the fridge:
“When the world feels like a hurricane, your breath can become the calm in the center.”
Whether you're juggling therapies, school meetings, meltdowns, or the never-ending mental load of parenting a complex kid, Pennie’s message is simple: when you learn to regulate your own mind, you give your child a calmer place to land.

👤 About Pennie Wilson

Pennie Wilson is a mental fitness coach and the founder of Kokoro Creators, a program designed to help parents reconnect with their purpose, regulate their emotions, and build resilience through meditation, mindset tools, and community support.

🔗 Connect with Pennie Wilson & Kokoro Creators
Website: https://kokorocreators.com/

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In this conversation, Michelle sits down with Dara Wax, founder of SAM+LEO, to unpack the missing market no one was really talking about: clean, teen-friendly supplements that support energy, sleep, stress, immunity, and eye health, without the junk, the shame, or the “what’s wrong with me?” messaging.

Dara shares:
A global-health career that turned into a kitchen-table mission. After years working in vaccine advocacy and global health—including at the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation—Dara stepped back from international travel as her own sons’ needs became more complex, and started building the product she wished existed for her own family.
Why “supporting” beats “fixing.” As a mom of two teen boys navigating anxiety, OCD, ADHD, and learning challenges, Dara realized the language matters. Kids do not need to feel broken—they need tools, support, and reminders that they are already amazing.

The missing shelf between kids’ gummies and adult supplements. Dara saw that tweens and teens were either ignored altogether or pushed toward energy drinks, adult products, and unhealthy coping tools. SAM+LEO was created to fill that gap with clean gummies teens will actually take.

A smarter swap for the real-world stuff teens reach for. Energy gummies instead of energy drinks. Relax support instead of turning toward vaping or other risky coping habits. Eye-health gummies for the screen-heavy generation. Sleep, immunity, and stress support that meets kids where they already are.

From zero stores to Whole Foods. In a huge leap, SAM+LEO went from no retail presence to launching in 50 Whole Foods stores, after Dara was selected as one of only 10 brands out of 1,600 applicants in the store’s accelerator program.

Quote to tape on the fridge:
“We’re not fixing our kids—we’re supporting them.”
Whether your child is anxious, exhausted, screen-tired, gluten-sensitive, overbooked, or just trying to survive adolescence, Dara’s message is simple: small, thoughtful supports can make a big difference—and our kids deserve tools that honor who they are.
👤 About Dara Wax
Dara Wax is a seasoned global health strategist and the founder of SAM+LEO, a clean gummy vitamin brand designed to support teen mental wellness and everyday health. A mom of two teen boys with their own mental health and learning needs, Dara combines personal experience with public-health expertise to help families find practical, supportive tools for real life.

🔗 Connect with Dara & SAM+LEO
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/darawax/
Instagram: @shopsamandleo