Stephing Up

I'm about to ruin your perception of time and likely your day. Hang in there, we'll still be friends at the end.
I went looking for the facts about time because I've become a broken record. How are my kids this old? How is it already September? Where did the year go? I say some version of that most days. And at the same time (this is the uncomfortable bit) I'm trying to make almost every part of my actual life go faster. YouTube while I cook. Emails in the grocery queue. Podcasts on double speed. I even brush my teeth in a rush.
Today I’m sharing what I learned.
This is for you if:
You say "how is it already September" and "where did the year go" more than once a week
Your days blur together and you can't remember what you actually did on Tuesday
You've been told to "just be present" and thought, okay, but HOW
In this episode:
Why time speeds up as you get older
The two kinds of time: why a doctor's waiting room disappears and a weekend away feels huge
Why life feels like a blur and what the research says about memory markers
Living at double speed and what it's doing to us
How to be more present without meditating: the 5 things I actually do
Why it's okay for time to fly and the question that replaced "how do I slow it down"
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I’m Steph Pase, your (somewhat) organised bestie in your ears. This podcast is about growth that’s messy, building a life that actually fits you, and what happens when life doesn’t go to plan. We’ll talk mental health, motherhood, business, ADHD and how to stop being such an asshole to yourself.
New episodes drop every Monday morning.
So set your reminder. Pop in your headphones. Because we’re Stephing Up together.
If today's episode helped, leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify is honestly the best thing you can do to help us reach more women.
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Let’s Hang:
Stephing Up on Instagram: @stephing.up
Steph Pase on Instagram: @stephpase_
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Shop Steph’s book “Mastering my Messy Life”: Penguin Books Australia
Steph’s Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com.au/shop/justanothermummyblog/list/17TTU785IMM53
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I know everyone loves the Let Them Theory… but I actually think there’s one pretty big problem with telling people to simply “let them” and stop caring what other people think.
It kind of asks us to fight against our own psychology.
Humans are wired to care about belonging, rejection and what other people think of us. For most of human history, being accepted by the group wasn’t just nice — it was tied to survival.
Which is probably why one weird comment can derail your entire day, someone seeming “off” sends you into a spiral, or criticism somehow becomes evidence that you’re a terrible person… hi. Same.
For years, I thought the goal was to learn how to stop caring what people think. But the more I’ve looked into the psychology behind it, the more I’ve realised that advice like “just don’t care” can miss something pretty important: humans are literally wired to care about belonging.
So maybe the goal isn’t becoming someone who doesn’t care.
Maybe it’s becoming much more selective about whose opinions are allowed to carry weight.
In this episode, we’re talking about:
Why some of us take criticism, rejection and other people’s moods so personally
The very old survival reason your brain cares so much about what other people think
How negativity bias can make one negative comment louder than 100 positive ones
Why telling yourself to “just stop caring” often doesn’t actually work
The difference between receiving feedback and automatically turning it into a judgement about who you are
Why disagreement doesn’t necessarily mean rejection
The problem with giving people who barely know you the same voting rights as the people who actually do
The simple filter I now use before deciding whether someone’s opinion deserves my energy
The “mailbox” idea that completely changed how I think about criticism
How to let something sting without letting it become your truth
And towards the end, I’ll give you the questions I now ask myself when a comment gets under my skin — because I’m probably never going to become someone who magically doesn’t care what anyone thinks.
But I can stop handing everyone a vote on who I am.
Follow Stephing Up
I’m Steph Pase, your (somewhat) organised bestie in your ears. This podcast is about growth that’s messy, building a life that actually fits you, and what happens when life doesn’t go to plan. We’ll talk mental health, motherhood, business, ADHD and how to stop being such an asshole to yourself.
New episodes drop every Monday morning.
So set your reminder. Pop in your headphones. Because we’re Stephing Up together.
If today's episode helped, leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify is honestly the best thing you can do to help us reach more women.
Let’s Hang:
Stephing Up on Instagram: @stephing.up
Steph Pase on Instagram: @stephpase_
Steph Pase on Youtube: @stephpase.
Shop Planners + Organisation: Steph Pase Planners
Shop Steph’s book “Mastering my Messy Life”: Penguin Books Australia
Steph’s Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com.au/shop/justanothermummyblog/list/17TTU785IMM53
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Before planners and podcasting, I was a wedding makeup artist. I did hundreds of faces, and these are 10 things I’d want you to know to get more out of your everyday makeup, without replacing your entire makeup bag.
This is for you if:
You want to elevate your everyday makeup look without spending money
You learnt makeup from a Maybelline mousse pot and a lot of guessing, and no one's ever actually shown you
You've got a drawer full of products and your foundation still somehow ends up pink, grey, or in your hairline
You're 30-plus and your face looks tired in a way it didn't used to, and you want an instant lift
Stay til the end for the biggest hack that will save you time and tears
Follow Stephing Up
I'm Steph Pase, your (somewhat) organised bestie in your ears. This podcast is about growth that's messy, building a life that actually fits you, and what happens when life doesn't go to plan. We'll talk mental health, motherhood, business, ADHD and how to stop being such an asshole to yourself.
New episodes drop every Monday morning. So set your reminder. Pop in your headphones. Because we're Stephing Up together.
If today's episode helped, leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify is honestly the best thing you can do to help us reach more people. .


Let's Hang:
Stephing Up on Instagram: https://instagram.com/stephing.up
Steph Pase on Instagram: https://instagram.com/stephpase_
Steph Pase on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@StephPase.
Shop Planners + Organisation: https://www.stephpaseplanners.com.au
Shop Steph's book "Mastering My Messy Life": https://www.penguin.com.au/books/mastering-my-messy-life-9781761349256
Steph's Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com.au/shop/justanothermummyblog/list/17TTU785IMM53
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Last week I shared my whole health journey (the 25 kilo one, if you missed it... it's a doozy). This week’s episode is the part everyone actually asked for: the current routine. What I train, what I eat, and how it sticks... with the reminder that this is what works for ME. It's not a cookie cutter program. Take what fits your life and your brain, then leave the rest.
This is for you if:
You've restarted the same routine so many times you've stopped telling people it's a restart
You joined a gym in a burst of confidence and now you can't make yourself walk in
You're doing everything "right" (the HIIT, the 10K steps, the tiny meals) and feeling worse instead of better
In this episode:
What changed in the last six months and why the scales went in the bin
My exact training split and the rest-period mistake that stalls your strength
What I eat in a day
How to stay consistent with ADHD and why the gym became my source of peace
Alcohol, honestly and the book that finally unhooked it
Gym anxiety and permission to be a beginner
Where to start after years off the ridiculously-small-first-goal method
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Episode Links:
Slow-cooked Mexican Beef: watch me make it at https://www.instagram.com/reels/DQBs-k8kgH2/
Shop Health Journals: https://www.stephpaseplanners.com.au/collections/health-diaries
The 2027 Planner Collection is now live, and selling fast! Lock in your favourite planner before they’re gone: https://www.stephpaseplanners.com.au/collections/planners
…
Follow Stephing Up
I’m Steph Pase, your (somewhat) organised bestie in your ears. This podcast is about growth that’s messy, building a life that actually fits you, and what happens when life doesn’t go to plan. We’ll talk mental health, motherhood, business, ADHD and how to stop being such an asshole to yourself.
New episodes drop every Monday morning.
So set your reminder. Pop in your headphones. Because we’re Stephing Up together.
If today's episode helped, leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify is honestly the best thing you can do to help us reach more women.
…
Let’s Hang:
Stephing Up on Instagram: @stephing.up
Steph Pase on Instagram: @stephpase_
Steph Pase on Youtube: @stephpase.
Shop Planners + Organisation: Steph Pase Planners
Shop Steph’s book “Mastering my Messy Life”: Penguin Books Australia
Steph’s Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com.au/shop/justanothermummyblog/list/17TTU785IMM53
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Spring starts this week, which means the annual panic is about to begin. And I've had a run of questions lately about my gym routine. What I eat, how I train, how I actually stay consistent.

That episode is coming next Monday. This week you're getting the part that makes it make sense.

Because it's so easy to look at someone now and assume they've always been this way. Naturally disciplined. A morning person. Someone who genuinely enjoys a vegetable. I was none of those things.

There was a period where the only liquids I drank were Coke or beer. Maccas for breakfast, pub lunch every single day, and I put on 25 kilos in twelve months.

By the end of this you'll understand why every health kick you've ever started fell over around week three, and why it had nothing to do with discipline.

This is for you if:
You've started again on a Monday more times than you can count

You've hit a goal weight before and somehow felt worse, not better

You're waiting to feel motivated enough to begin

You've decided everyone else was just born with more willpower than you


In this episode I get into:
How I gained 25kg in a year, what my life actually looked like, and the moment that stopped me

Losing all of it, and the habits I quietly swapped it for on the way down

Getting the abs, hitting the goal weight, and being more miserable than I'd ever been

The breaking point where I worked out none of it was worth it

What it actually took to make this a lifestyle instead of a punishment I kept restarting


Next Monday: Part 2, the actual routine. What I do now, what I eat, and how it stays consistent.

Support: this episode discusses disordered eating. If you or someone you love needs support, Butterfly Foundation is at butterfly.org.au or 1800 33 4673, and Lifeline is 13 11 14.

The Steph Pase 2027 Planner Collection is live now. Blush, Blush + Black, Berry and Blue, across Signature, Daily, Business, Teacher and Pocket. Shop it at https://www.stephpaseplanners.com.au

If this one hits, there's a lot more of this story in my book, Mastering My Messy Life. The parts I wasn't ready to say out loud on a podcast in 2023 are in there.
Penguin Books Australia: https://www.penguin.com.au/books/mastering-my-messy-life-9781761349256

Paperback on Amazon: https://amzn.to/4uL4X26

Audiobook: https://amzn.to/3NTTQn5


Follow Stephing Up
I'm Steph Pase, your (somewhat) organised bestie in your ears. This podcast is about growth that's messy, building a life that actually fits you, and what happens when life doesn't go to plan. We'll talk mental health, motherhood, business, ADHD and how to stop being such an asshole to yourself.
New episodes drop every Monday morning. So set your reminder. Pop in your headphones. Because we're Stephing Up together.
If today's episode helped, leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify is honestly the best thing you can do to help us reach more women.

Let's Hang:
Stephing Up on Instagram: @stephing.up

Steph Pase on Instagram: @stephpase_

Steph Pase on YouTube: @stephpase

Shop Planners + Organisation: Steph Pase Planners

Shop Steph's book "Mastering my Messy Life": Penguin Books Australia

Steph's Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com.au/shop/justanothermummyblog/list/17TTU785IMM53

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.