UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

How many times have you decided there is no point in asking for what you want because you probably won’t get it? Maybe you want to ask for a raise, a different role at work, more support from your partner, or a change in your relationship. Your brain has a million reasons why it won’t work, why it’s not the right time, or why wanting it says something bad about you.

In this episode, I explain why that entire framework is backwards and why the point of asking is not just getting the answer you want. I break down why your brain is not a reliable predictor of what is possible, how fear of your own thoughts and emotions can keep you from speaking up, and why the most important outcome of asking is becoming someone who tells the truth about what she wants.

Because when you stop making the ask about whether you get a yes, you stop handing other people control over what you believe you are allowed to want.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/526
Watch episodes over on YouTube: youtube.com/@karaloewentheilcoaching
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Mentioned in this episode:
How to Ask for What You Want
Over five days, you’ll find out what’s keeping you from asking for what you want – and how to actually do it, even when your brain tries to stop you.

Live Challenge:
September 21-25, 2026 · 12 p.m. ET
Sign up for the Ask For What You Want Challenge here

Over five days, you’ll find out what’s keeping you from asking for what you want – and how to actually do it, even when your brain tries to stop you.

Live Challenge:
September 21-25, 2026 · 12 p.m. ET

Sign up for the Ask For What You Want Challenge here

Do you have to choose between staying home with your kids and contributing financially to your family? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener’s question about feeling torn between these two goals. We unpack why your brain may be creating a false conflict and how shifting your thinking can help you see more options for creating the life you actually want.

Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/525
Watch episodes over on YouTube: youtube.com/@karaloewentheilcoaching
Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/
Mentioned in this episode:
How to Ask for What You Want
Over five days, you’ll find out what’s keeping you from asking for what you want – and how to actually do it, even when your brain tries to stop you.

Live Challenge:
September 21-25, 2026 · 12 p.m. ET
Sign up for the Ask For What You Want Challenge here

So much of the self-help world teaches us that the solution to our problems is to become a better, more healed, more secure version of ourselves. In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Marisa G. Franco, author of Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment, to challenge that idea and talk about why self-worth starts with acknowledging who you actually are, not trying to erase the parts of yourself you do not like.

Dr. Franco and I talk about why insecurities are not proof that something is wrong with you, how striving to be “securely attached” can become another form of self-rejection, and why acknowledging your full internal experience is the first step toward change. Listen in to learn why healing is not about becoming someone else, but about creating a relationship with yourself where you can acknowledge the full truth of who you are and still know you are worthy.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/524
Watch episodes over on YouTube: youtube.com/@karaloewentheilcoaching
Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/
Learn more about Dr. Franco's books and work: https://drmarisagfranco.com/
Mentioned in this episode:
How to Ask for What You Want
Over five days, you’ll find out what’s keeping you from asking for what you want – and how to actually do it, even when your brain tries to stop you.

Live Challenge:
September 21-25, 2026 · 12 p.m. ET
Sign up for the Ask For What You Want Challenge here

What if you were one big ask away from the change you need?

In one free hour, find the ask most worth making, assess exactly what’s blocking you, and learn what it takes to speak up anyway.

September 9, 2026 · 12 p.m. to 1 p.m. ET

Sign up for The One Big Ask Workshop here