After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings

You are not overwhelmed because you’re bad at balance. You’re overwhelmed because you’re carrying an entire operating system in your head for running a home and caring for kids, and no one ever taught you how to turn it off. You’ve split the tasks, had the talks, been very clear about “I just need more help.” And still, you’re the one remembering, anticipating and managing everything.

This isn’t about who’s doing more, it’s about who’s mentally running the entire show. And if that’s you?? Of course you’re exhausted. In this episode, we’re blowing up the biggest lie we’ve all been fed: That the mental load is a communication problem. It’s not. It’s an infrastructure problem. And once you see it, you cannot unsee it, which is exactly why this conversation is so crucial.

Deena sits down with Kelly Hubble, founder of Sage House, mom of three, and an accidental genius who built a solution most of us didn’t even know was possible, to break down:
• Why even “equal” partnerships still leave moms carrying ~70% of the mental load
• The 5 invisible layers running in your brain 24/7 (this alone will blow your mind, and unlock real change)
• Why “just tell me what to do” is actually adding to your exhaustion
• The real reason you feel burnt out - even if you have childcare
• The exact shift that takes you from constant resentment and overwhelm to *actual* relief

And then, we push into the uncomfortable truth: What if the answer isn’t doing more… or communicating better?? What if the answer is… you stop doing it all?? Not in a reckless way, but in a new, radically supported way. We’re talking about a level of support that doesn’t just check tasks off a list, it removes the invisible weight from your brain. The kind that gives you hours back every single week, and lets you actually be with your kids instead of managing life around them - one that shifts your relationship, your energy, your entire home.

And yes, we explicitly tackle every elephant in the room: The cost, the guilt, the “this feels indulgent - is this too much?” spiral. (If that thought just hit you, you need to listen to this episode.) Because by the end, you’re going to realize something: You were never supposed to carry all of this alone. Press play if you’re ready to stop managing everything yourself, and finally experience what it feels like to be fully supported at home.

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The episode you've been asking for is finally here : Deena's birth story for her third baby. And you're not going to want to miss this one. If you’ve been here for a while, you know her first didn’t go the way she thought it would. There was a lot of fear, a lot of not being listened to, a lot of trauma that stayed with her longer than she expected. Her second birth? Also not great.

So now, for the first time, Deena shares the deeply personal story of her third birth. She birthed at home, in her bathtub surrounded by family and her boys (and her emotional support dog, Mokki!). And how did the birth go, you ask? You'll have to tune in to find out. This one will make you laugh, cry, laugh again, cry again, and bring you back to all those intense feelings surrounding birth.

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Deep breath, friends. This is one of THOSE episodes; the kind that starts off light and then shifts into something a little heavier, a little scarier, but ultimately really important. This episode was supposed to be Kristin and Tyler sitting down to chat about 10 years of marriage. The lessons, the growth, the things we’ve learned along the way. We even brought our podcast equipment all the way to Palm Springs. But before we could even sit down to record it, our anniversary trip took a turn we didn’t see coming. I walked outside… and found Tyler bleeding.

What’s next was an ambulance, hours in the hospital, and a moment that split everything into before and after.

Not to scare you, but because it led to something we didn’t expect: clarity. Because when something like that happens, your brain doesn’t go to the argument from yesterday. It doesn’t go to the tone, the tension, or who was right. It goes to one place: please let this person be okay. And suddenly, everything you thought mattered… doesn’t. So this episode changed into something deeper.

Yes, we’re still sharing the 10 things we’ve learned in 10 years of marriage, but through a completely different lens. The real one, the one that shows up when all else falls away.

In this episode, you’ll walk away with:
* 10 honest, unfiltered lessons from 10 years of marriage (the real ones, not the fluffy, Instagrammable ones)
* Exactly what to do in conflict: including how to make a “bid” that actually de-escalates things in the moment
* The biggest mindset shift that instantly changes how you show up in your relationship (hint: it’s not about fixing “us”)
* Practical ways to communicate better, even in stressful, reactive, or heated moments
* A deeper understanding of what actually matters… and what you can finally let go of
* What to do when your partner is being their hardest to love
* Why the small, everyday moments matter more than the big ones

Because we all move through life assuming we have more time to fix things, to say what maters, and to show up differently. But guess what? We don’t always get that guarantee. And a moment like this reminds us what actually matters.

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What if the thing running your day… is your non-conscious thought patterns that are happening on repeat?? The same ones showing up every single day, silently shaping how you feel, how you react, and how you show up as a parent, partner, and person. In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on the 6 sneaky, unhelpful thought patterns that drag us down day-to-day - and how to actually catch them in real time, replace them, and feel better.

We’re getting into:
- Why your brain loops the same thoughts all day (and why they feel so convincing)
- The exact moment your thoughts turn into stress, snapping, or shutdown
- The subtle difference between “venting” vs. actually moving forward
- The simple mental shifts that take you from *reactive* to calm, grounded, and in control
- Practical, in-the-moment tools you can use TODAY to change the way you think - and feel

This is the kind of episode that doesn’t just sound good while you listen. It literally changes how your next moment goes. Less spiraling, less snapping. More clarity, more “Ok, I’ve got this.” Once you see these thought patterns, you can interrupt them. And when you interrupt them, your whole day goes differently. And overtime, your new thinking habits will rewire your brain to be more resilient.

Your brain has been freelancing long enough. Time to take the mic back - let’s do this!

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Trigger Warning: This episode discusses childhood sexual abuse. We share this with care, but please listen at your own pace and take care of yourself.

Deep breath, friends. This is one of THOSE episodes - the kind that feels a little heavy, a little scary, but is incredibly important, because the tools here could change your kid’s life. In this episode, I (Deena) am sharing my own experience with sexual abuse as a child. Not to scare you, but to give you something I didn’t have back then: Clear, practical tools to help keep your kids safer.

Because the uncomfortable reality is that sexual abuse doesn’t usually look like a stranger in a dark alley. It often happens between kids, between peers or people you know, in familiar places. And most kids don’t tell, because they’re confused, don’t have the language, or think they’ll get in trouble. So instead of fear, we’re focusing on power. This episode is your “bing bang boom - here’s exactly what to do” guide. You’ll walk away with:

Concrete, simple tools you can start using TODAY
The exact words + scripts to teach body safety in a way that feels natural (not awkward or scary)
A clear way to explain private parts, safe vs unsafe touch, and boundaries
How to teach your kid to say no, get out, and tell someone
How to build a “safety team” so your child always has trusted adults
And how to create a home where your child knows, “I can tell my parent anything, and they will help me.”

Body safety isn’t about one, big scary talk. It’s about small, everyday conversations that build kids who know their body is theirs, trust their gut, use their voice, and feel safe coming to you, no matter what. You can give your child tools, language, and confidence that dramatically increase their safety.

So take a deep breath - we’re doing this together, and it’ll be worth it, I promise.

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