How Married Are You?

Happy Holidays, y’all! As the year comes to a close, we’re taking a short break from our regularly scheduled podcast episodes to rest, reset, and be present. As a little holiday gift, we’re sharing a conversation from the Patreon vault that you may have missed. If you enjoy conversations like this, join us on Patreon for weekly bonus conversations after every podcast.In this Patreon vault episode, Glen and Yvette unpack a viral and troubling clip where Young Thug admits he would feel “less of a man” if his partner went to therapy. From there, the conversation widens into a powerful discussion about ego, control, emotional safety, and why discouraging therapy is a major red flag — not masculinity.They talk honestly about why no one person can (or should) be everything for their partner, the importance of having trusted people outside your relationship, and how healthy love actually encourages growth rather than isolating it. Glen shares why leaning on close friends and therapy has been essential for him, and Yvette reflects on why that support doesn’t threaten marriage — it strengthens it.The episode also touches on friendships, safe spaces, healing masculinity, and how parenting (especially raising a daughter) sharpens awareness around emotional health and self-worth.This conversation is candid, thought-provoking, and grounding — especially for anyone navigating relationships, mental health, or redefining strength and support.👉 Join us on Patreon for weekly bonus conversations and exclusive content:www.patreon.com/HMAY

Happy Holidays, y’all! As the year comes to a close, we’re taking a short break from our regularly scheduled podcast episodes to rest, reset, and be present. As a little holiday gift, we’re sharing a conversation from the Patreon vault that you may have missed. If you enjoy conversations like this, join us on Patreon for weekly bonus discussions after every podcast.In this vault conversation, Glen and Yvette explore a question many people wrestle with quietly: Can you marry someone hoping they’ll change — and is that fair? They unpack the difference between growth and expectation, why marrying “potential” can create pressure and resentment, and the importance of accepting who someone is right now, not who you hope they’ll become.They also talk about dating with intention, how church culture and timelines can blur discernment, and why observing real-life behavior — especially around children, responsibility, and family roles — matters before making lifelong commitments.The episode then shifts into a heartfelt reflection on parenting, particularly how raising a daughter has reshaped self-awareness, healing, and urgency around personal growth. From body image conversations to protecting innocence, it’s an honest look at how becoming parents often forces us to confront ourselves.This conversation is reflective, humorous, and grounding — perfect for anyone dating seriously, married and reassessing expectations, or parenting while still growing.👉 Join us on Patreon for weekly bonus conversations and exclusive content:www.patreon.com/HMAY

This episode centers on one big listener question: Did I romanticize my husband — and overlook red flags while dating? A newly married listener from South Africa writes in just three months after the wedding, struggling with harsh words during conflict, old wounds resurfacing, and the fear that she may have confused spiritual compatibility with true emotional safety. We unpack what “gentleness” should look like in marriage, how triggers differ from cruelty, and why sober-minded dating matters more than shared ministry or chemistry. And… BIG NEWS: Yvette is officially an author! We talk through her new devotional Release • Rest • Remain, the John 15 rhythm that helped her rebuild her spiritual foundation, and why preorders matter for first-time authors. ✨ What You’ll Hear Chocolate Baby Storytime: evil drawings, angel drawings, and toddler chaos Uzi’s 6-goal hockey game & homeschool updates The story behind Release • Rest • Remain and how the devotional was born Listener Email: Did I romanticize this relationship? Emotional triggers vs. emotional harm in early marriage The importance of gentleness, safety, and sober-minded dating How upbringing and humor styles shape conflict Patreon preview: the viral “flat tire” clip & weaponized tears “How Married Are You?” moments 📚 Resources & Links Order Yvette’s Devotional: 👉 Release, Rest, Remain: A 30-Day Devotional to Embrace Abiding Over Striving https://a.co/d/4ATlBWO Glen’s Book — Father Yourself First: 👉 https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555 🎧 Audiobooks Available wherever audiobooks are sold. 📍 Follow @beleafmel https://www.instagram.com/beleafmel 💍 Premarital Advantage (PMA) https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2 🌿 Patreon Community www.patreon.com/HMAY 💬 Join the Conversation Have you ever looked back and realized you romanticized a relationship? How did you regain clarity or rebuild trust? Share below.

This episode dives into one major listener question: Are we unequally yoked? A 31-year-old Christian single mom writes in, deeply in love and preparing for engagement — but scared that her Protestant faith and her partner’s Eastern Orthodox roots might create cracks later. We unpack theology vs. lifestyle, how beliefs show up in everyday routines, and what unity actually looks like when two people worship differently but love Jesus fully.We also share a joyful, chaotic Chocolate Baby Storytime from a commercial shoot involving $15k cameras, water balloons, and children who absolutely refused to listen 😂. And… BIG NEWS: Yvette is officially an author! We talk through her new 30-day devotional Release, Rest, Remain: A 30-Day Devotional to Embrace Abiding Over Striving and why this rhythm has helped her heal, surrender, and stay grounded.Plus, a vulnerable update from our “4th baby mama” listener and a needed reminder that shame from strangers online is not your inheritance.This one is heartfelt, thoughtful, funny, and full of real clarity for anyone navigating faith, family, and long-term commitment.✨ What You’ll HearChocolate Baby Storytime: commercial-set chaos, kids, cameras, and water balloonsYvette’s new 30-day devotional & the story behind Release, Rest, Remain: A 30-Day Devotional to Embrace Abiding Over StrivingIs this relationship truly unequally yoked? Breaking down Protestant vs. Eastern OrthodoxTheology differences vs. lifestyle differences — what actually impacts a homeThe “4th baby mama” follow-up + why the internet’s shame has no authority over you📚 Resources & LinksOrder Yvette’s Devotional:👉 Release, Rest, Remain: A 30-Day Devotional to Embrace Abiding Over Striving: https://a.co/d/4ATlBWOFather Yourself First (Glen’s Book):👉 https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555🎧 Audiobook:Glen narrates the full audiobook wherever audiobooks are sold.📍 Follow @beleafmel for tour dates, signings & updateshttps://www.instagram.com/beleafmel💍 Premarital Advantage (PMA):Tools for dating, engaged, or rebuilding coupleshttps://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2🖤 Saturday Men’s Group (Black men | 7 a.m. PT):Join the Father Meet-Uphttps://us02web.zoom.us/j/81971875325?pwd=cY3k96A8j1b0WMLPHF5ym0bNSNaRdj.1🌿 Patreon Community:Longer episodes + behind-the-scenes + mentorship tierswww.patreon.com/HMAY💬 Join the ConversationHave you ever dated someone from a different church tradition?What helped you find unity — or clarity that it wasn’t the right fit?Drop your story below. Your insight might guide someone today.❤️ If This Helped YouLike, subscribe, and share with someone navigating faith differences, parenting, or big relationship decisions.

This episode centers on two powerful listener emails — one from a man afraid his insecurity is destroying a healthy relationship, and another from a woman untangling herself from a four-year situationship filled with hidden children, heartbreak, miscarriages, and blurred co-parenting lines.We talk honestly about trust, emotional safety, soul-ties, red flags, and why some relationships can’t be prayed into health.Around the emails, we also share a hilarious family moment involving an accidental birds-and-bees talk at dinner, and a quick update on the book tour and Patreon goals.This one is vulnerable, grounded, and full of clarity for anyone trying to love better and choose wiser.✨ What You’ll HearHow insecurity dims your partner’s lightTaking thoughts captive vs. letting fear run the relationshipWhy “she’s too friendly” might be about you, not herWhat emotional safety looks like in datingA jaw-dropping story about hidden kids, lies, and postpartum abandonmentWhy F-boy patterns repeat — and how to break yoursThe truth about co-parenting with someone who won’t commitHow to protect your heart while still raising your child wellCommunity updates + how your support keeps the show going📚 Resources & LinksOrder the book:👉 Father Yourself Firsthttps://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Audiobook:🎧 Glen narrates the full audiobook wherever audiobooks are sold.Tour dates & signings:📍 Follow @beleafmel for ATL, LA, NYC + morehttps://www.instagram.com/beleafmelPremarital Advantage (PMA):💍 Tools for dating, engaged, or healing singleshttps://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Saturday Men’s Group (Black men | 7 a.m. PT):Join the Father Meet-Uphttps://us02web.zoom.us/j/81971875325?pwd=cY3k96A8j1b0WMLPHF5ym0bNSNaRdj.1Patreon Community:🌿 Longer episodes + ad-free + behind-the-sceneswww.patreon.com/HMAY💬 Join the ConversationWhat was the moment you realized a relationship wasn’t safe for your heart?Drop it below — your wisdom might free somebody.❤️ If This Helped YouLike, subscribe, and share with someone navigating trust, blended families, or heartbreak healing.