How Married Are You?

What happens when you want to change the person you love, but you haven't done the work to change yourself?This week on How Married Are You?!, a young man writes in asking for advice about his relationship with his girlfriend and her three-year-old daughter.He loves them both, but he's struggling with how his girlfriend parents, how she manages her responsibilities, and what their future together might look like.But as we continue reading his email, we discover there's A LOT more going on.Infidelity. Gambling. Unresolved childhood wounds. Financial struggles. And some confessions his girlfriend may not even know about yet.Have you ever been so focused on what your partner needed to change that you overlooked the work you needed to do on yourself?NEW SONGS BY BELEAF: https://monopoly.lnk.to/fdphie BLACK LOVE STORY https://monopoly.lnk.to/4epgfn SUGAR WATERResources & LinksEmber mug Yvette Loves 🍵💍https://bit.ly/4lfn38iMentor Couple Wait List 🫂🖤https://forms.gle/VcUDRgf6km9kHWEK7BLACK LOVE MERCH https://shop.beleafinfatherhood.com/Release Rest Remain 📖✨https://a.co/d/ihBmSdOFather Yourself First 📘🔥https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Yvette’s Email List 💌🌿https://yvettehenry.com/join-the-listRelease Rest Remain Bible Reading Plan 🙏🏽📖https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646Premarital Advantage 💍🧠https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Black Men’s Meeting 🖤🗣️https://partiful.com/e/kuXEBUC7PHfydRmI3sz4?HMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate) 🛒✨https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-USWAYS TO PARTNER WITH US: Get special access to things we’re working on, extra content from our fam, and more on Patreon: https://patreon.com/HMAYSupport us with a one-time gift through PayPal: www.paypal.me/HMAYpodcastCONNECT WITH US ON INSTAGRAM:HMAY Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/howmarriedareyou/Glen: https://www.Instagram.com/beleafmelYvette: https://www.Instagram.com/mrsmelaninChocolate Babes: https://www.instagram.com/chocolatebabies/WATCH BELEAF IN FATHERHOOD:https://www.youtube.com/c/BeleafInFatherhoodtv/Thank you so much for tuning into this episode of How Married Are You?! See you next week!

In Episode 304 of How Married Are You?!, what starts as a conversation about our podcast, our dreams, and the future of our family turns into a much deeper conversation about ambition, creative control, and what happens when one spouse feels like their voice is getting lost in the life you're building together.NEW SONGS BY BELEAF: https://monopoly.lnk.to/fdphie BLACK LOVE STORY https://monopoly.lnk.to/4epgfn SUGAR WATERResources & LinksEmber mug Yvette Loves 🍵💍https://bit.ly/4lfn38iMentor Couple Wait List 🫂🖤https://forms.gle/VcUDRgf6km9kHWEK7BLACK LOVE MERCH https://shop.beleafinfatherhood.com/Release Rest Remain 📖✨https://a.co/d/ihBmSdOFather Yourself First 📘🔥https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Yvette’s Email List 💌🌿https://yvettehenry.com/join-the-listRelease Rest Remain Bible Reading Plan 🙏🏽📖https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646Premarital Advantage 💍🧠https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Black Men’s Meeting 🖤🗣️https://partiful.com/e/YiIysBmDlquCa3KHcw5J?c=wQtLwyPfHMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate) 🛒✨https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-USWAYS TO PARTNER WITH US: Get special access to things we’re working on, extra content from our fam, and more on Patreon: https://patreon.com/HMAYSupport us with a one-time gift through PayPal: www.paypal.me/HMAYpodcastCONNECT WITH US ON INSTAGRAM:HMAY Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/howmarriedareyou/Glen: https://www.Instagram.com/beleafmelYvette: https://www.Instagram.com/mrsmelaninChocolate Babes: https://www.instagram.com/chocolatebabies/WATCH BELEAF IN FATHERHOOD:https://www.youtube.com/c/BeleafInFatherhoodtv/Thank you so much for tuning into this episode of How Married Are You?! See you next week!

What do you do when your spouse is depressed…and everything you know how to do is try to fix it?A newlywed husband wrote in because his wife is battling depression. He loves her, he wants to help her, and he’s realizing that giving her solutions may not be what she needs from him.That opened up a much bigger conversation for us about our own marriage: how we experience depression differently, giving each other space without disappearing, learning your spouse’s triggers, inviting instead of instructing, and knowing when your spouse needs support that you simply can’t provide by yourself.

She thought sex would be the EASY part of marriage.Then she got married.Almost a year into her marriage, a listener writes in because intimacy hasn't become what she imagined it would be. Her first sexual experience with her husband left her disappointed—not only physically, but by the way he responded to her in such a vulnerable moment.They've talked about it. He's apologized.But something still doesn't feel right.She says she doesn't feel emotionally safe with her husband. He believes spending time together, watching things she enjoys, and participating in her interests should create connection.But she's looking for something deeper.She wants him to study her.To be curious about her.To WANT to know her.And that disconnect has started showing up in their sex life.But we had to ask a different question:Is emotional safety actually the problem?NEW SONGS BY BELEAF: https://monopoly.lnk.to/fdphie BLACK LOVE STORY https://monopoly.lnk.to/4epgfn SUGAR WATERResources & LinksEmber mug Yvette Loves 🍵💍https://bit.ly/4lfn38iMentor Couple Wait List 🫂🖤https://forms.gle/VcUDRgf6km9kHWEK7BLACK LOVE MERCH https://shop.beleafinfatherhood.com/Release Rest Remain 📖✨https://a.co/d/ihBmSdOFather Yourself First 📘🔥https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Yvette’s Email List 💌🌿https://yvettehenry.com/join-the-listRelease Rest Remain Bible Reading Plan 🙏🏽📖https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646Premarital Advantage 💍🧠https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Black Men’s Meeting 🖤🗣️https://partiful.com/e/kuXEBUC7PHfydRmI3sz4?HMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate) 🛒✨https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-USWAYS TO PARTNER WITH US: Get special access to things we’re working on, extra content from our fam, and more on Patreon: https://patreon.com/HMAYSupport us with a one-time gift through PayPal: www.paypal.me/HMAYpodcastCONNECT WITH US ON INSTAGRAM:HMAY Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/howmarriedareyou/Glen: https://www.Instagram.com/beleafmelYvette: https://www.Instagram.com/mrsmelaninChocolate Babes: https://www.instagram.com/chocolatebabies/WATCH BELEAF IN FATHERHOOD:https://www.youtube.com/c/BeleafInFatherhoodtv/Thank you so much for tuning into this episode of How Married Are You?! See you next week!

We're back.After taking our first real break in a long time, we're finally back for Season 301 of How Married Are You?This season brings some big changes for our family. We're sharing updates on the kids starting a hybrid homeschool program, what this new season looks like for our marriage, and why we've decided to invest even more intentionally into this community.Then we dive into one of the most difficult listener questions we've received.A woman is weeks away from her wedding, but she's wondering if she's about to marry the wrong man.She loves him...…but she doesn't respect him.He lacks ambition.He depends on the women around him.He once told her she would be "the last Black woman" he'd ever date.So the question becomes:Can love survive when respect is missing?NEW SONGS BY BELEAF: https://monopoly.lnk.to/fdphie BLACK LOVE STORY https://monopoly.lnk.to/4epgfn SUGAR WATERResources & LinksEmber mug Yvette Loves 🍵💍https://bit.ly/4lfn38iMentor Couple Wait List 🫂🖤https://forms.gle/VcUDRgf6km9kHWEK7BLACK LOVE MERCH https://shop.beleafinfatherhood.com/Release Rest Remain 📖✨https://a.co/d/ihBmSdOFather Yourself First 📘🔥https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Yvette’s Email List 💌🌿https://yvettehenry.com/join-the-listRelease Rest Remain Bible Reading Plan 🙏🏽📖https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646Premarital Advantage 💍🧠https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Black Men’s Meeting 🖤🗣️https://partiful.com/e/kuXEBUC7PHfydRmI3sz4?HMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate) 🛒✨https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language=en-USWAYS TO PARTNER WITH US: Get special access to things we’re working on, extra content from our fam, and more on Patreon: https://patreon.com/HMAYSupport us with a one-time gift through PayPal: www.paypal.me/HMAYpodcastCONNECT WITH US ON INSTAGRAM:HMAY Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/howmarriedareyou/Glen: https://www.Instagram.com/beleafmelYvette: https://www.Instagram.com/mrsmelaninChocolate Babes: https://www.instagram.com/chocolatebabies/WATCH BELEAF IN FATHERHOOD:https://www.youtube.com/c/BeleafInFatherhoodtv/Thank you so much for tuning into this episode of How Married Are You?! See you next week!