#95 - The Truth About First Times, Pleasure & Pressure | Under The Sheets With Tatiana Ashborn - Podcaster, Sex Educator
Disclaimer: This episode contains mature content about sex, relationships, and personal experiences. The discussion is educational and intended for adult listeners. Nothing shared constitutes professional medical, therapeutic, or legal advice. Always practice safe sex, prioritise consent, and consult qualified professionals for personal health concerns.Tatiana Ashborn is a sex educator and host of "Dirty Talk/Under The Sheets with Tatiana Ashborn," where she creates open, shame-free conversations about intimacy and relationships. This was an extremely free-flowing chat between Tatiana and I, with us both opening up on our personal experiences of sex and relationships.In this episode, we explore:- How growing up around her brother, his mates, and visiting musicians shaped views on sex, relationships, and the double standards between men and women- Why traditional sex education focuses on fear and pregnancy rather than pleasure, consent, and healthy exploration - and what's actually missing from the conversation- The real story behind Jason appearing on Naked Attraction, including the application process, the manufactured behind-the-scenes reality, and how prior experiences with skinny dipping made the nudity feel surprisingly normal- Red flags in modern dating that might actually be green flags depending on your perspective - including not drinking, religious gym-going, and having a sex education podcast- The connection between music and intimacy, from awkward sex playlists to how creativity and sexuality intersect in unexpected ways- What it's really like running a successful in-person podcast with two recordings a day, managing pre-interview anxiety, and learning to truly listen rather than just wait for your turn to talkThis conversation includes candid stories about first sexual experiences, navigating judgment as a sex educator, and the evolution from anxious question-reading to authentic conversational interviewing.#sex #relationships #podcasters Sign up to indiip for free at indiip.com/podcast90 Day Cold Plunge Video:https://youtu.be/-ER321hoJ4gFully Timestamped Chapter List00:00:00 When Tatiana First Became Aware Of Sex00:04:18 Sex Education Work & How Tatiana Defines It00:08:06 First Sexual Experience & Losing Virginity at 1600:14:26 Generational Differences in Sexual Behaviour & Pornography Access00:18:04 First Time Watching Porn & Vintage Erotic Film Discussion00:22:09 Interviewing Her 90-Year-Old Grandma About Sex00:29:22 Value of Elders, Cross-Cultural Perspectives & Grandparents' Wisdom00:35:27 Naked Attraction, Jason's Experience on the Show & Behind the Scenes00:49:43 Dating After Four Years Single & Anxious Attachment Style00:57:57 Body Confidence, Rejection & Naked Attraction Reflections01:01:24 Red Flags vs Green Flags in Dating01:07:33 Shared Values in Relationships & Compatibility Tests01:14:11 Optimal Time to Wait Before Sex in a New Relationship01:19:57 Music Production, Music & Sex Connections01:24:42 Personal Music Journey & Song writing Struggles01:27:17 Sexual Innuendos in Everyday Life01:35:41 Travelling for Three Years While Running a Podcast01:40:10 Podcasting Nerves, Batching Episodes & Interview Preparation01:48:49 The Art of Listening & Interviewing Techniques01:56:24 Learning from Early Podcast Episodes & Embracing Growth02:02:22 Upcoming Projects & Teaching Sex Education02:04:48 Daily Habits, Calendars & Routines for Success02:09:29 Closing Remarks & Where to Find Tatiana***LINKS***https://www.tatianaashborn.co.uk/https://www.instagram.com/tatianaashborn_https://www.tiktok.com/@tatianaashborn_Join the indiip beta:indiip.com/beta15% Off Bare Bar (CODE: JASE):https://bit.ly/barejaseMY STUFF:Awaken Out Of Context Podcast (YouTube & Podcast Links):https://bit.ly/3tk8FVvFollow Me On Instagram (@awakenoutofjason):https://bit.ly/3RAkKQj