Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love

Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.
In this episode, we answer the following questions:
What are some resources or tips on how to talk to children about masturbation? As parents, we weren’t educated about it, and we don’t want it to be a shaming conversation, but it is awkward.
I found something on my child’s phone that made me realize they may be experimenting with sexual content. I’m scared and don’t want to overreact, but I also don’t want to ignore it. How do I have that first conversation in a way that keeps the door open for honesty?
I want to teach my kids about healthy sexuality, but I’m not sure how much to say or where to start. I don’t want to make the conversation awkward or overwhelming, but I also don’t want them learning about sex from the internet or their friends. Where do I begin?
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Resources:
Parent Training Course
How To Talk With Your Kids About Sex Book
Youth Leader Library
Girl Talk

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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.
In this episode, we answer the following questions:
- I’m six months into my husband’s second attempt at recovery, and I’m afraid he may be sober without truly addressing the underlying issues. How can I know he’s genuinely pursuing lasting recovery?
- I feel detached from my feelings and marriage after years of disclosures and broken trust. How can I honestly know whether I want to stay, especially when hope, fear, and wanting to do the right thing make me feel like I don’t have a choice?
- After my husband’s disclosure, I confided in his parents and initially felt supported. Now they’re telling me to trust God, forgive, and stop being suspicious. How do I respond when I no longer feel safe confiding in them?
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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.
In this episode, we answer the following questions:
- As a woman who struggles, I carry so much shame about it. Sometimes I wonder if this behavior says something terrible about who I am. How do I separate my identity from my struggles and begin healing without being consumed by shame?

- I've noticed that my sexual behaviors often increase when I feel lonely, rejected, stressed, or emotionally overwhelmed. I know the behavior isn’t really meeting the need underneath it, but I still keep going back to it. How do I learn to recognize and respond to those deeper needs differently?

- I’ve realized that a lot of my sexual behavior is connected to wanting to feel attractive, desired, or validated by other people. Even when I know I’m crossing boundaries, that attention can feel incredibly powerful. Why do I crave that validation so much, and how do I begin changing that pattern?
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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.
In this episode, we answer the following questions:

- Since in recovery, I see some changes in my husband, but I still experience defensiveness, blame-shifting, and a lack of empathy. I’m struggling to know if I’m expecting too much. Can true recovery happen without accountability, emotional safety, and genuine empathy?
- I see my husband making meaningful recovery changes, but I’m concerned he still views sex—his “biological need”—as a solution to his addiction. How do we understand healthy sexuality, intimacy, and responsibility without placing his recovery on me?
- Just as I was beginning to heal, I discovered my husband has had sexual fantasies involving my sisters and close friends. This level of betrayal feels deeper and seems different from masturbating to strangers. Is this common in addiction, and how do I recover from such a personal betrayal?
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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.
On today’s episode, we answer the following questions:
I’m struggling to trust that my husband is being honest about relapses, especially when I don’t always know the truth. This is why we’re taking a break from sex. How can trust be rebuilt, and when is it healthy to reintroduce sexual intimacy into our marriage?
Four months after discovery, I’m struggling to know what transparency should look like in recovery. How much should my husband share about his struggles, and how can trust grow if he says I’m not safe to tell?
After our full disclosure, I was devastated. My husband is fully committed to recovery, and I see real change, yet I still want to leave. Can healing happen even when trust seems impossible to rebuild?
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