Have you ever told yourself, “Once I finish everything on my list, then I’ll relax”... only to find that the list never actually ends? It’s like you’re chasing the finish line, but it keeps moving further away. And when you do finally pause, instead of feeling peace, you feel guilt—like you haven’t earned your rest yet. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. In this episode, I’m going to help you break that cycle so you can stop waiting for permission to rest and finally start honoring your needs—without the guilt. In this episode, you will learn: Why you constantly feel the need to finish everything before you can rest—and why that’s not serving you. How to identify the emotional patterns and beliefs that keep self-care at the bottom of your list. A simple, therapist-informed 4-step method to help you shift from productivity guilt to intentional rest and balance. Mentioned in episode: How to Set Boundaries with Work: https://www.becalmwithtati.com/work-boundaries/ ——————— Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within. ——————— 🎓 Free 3-day Course: How To Calm Your Mind So You Can Finally Relax: https://calmlycoping.com/relax 💬 Submit a message, question, or suggestion to the podcast: https://calmlycoping.com/message ——————— Want more? 👩🏽💻 Work with me: My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance. Learn more about my coaching, therapy, and course offerings here: https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me 👥 Join the Calmly Coping Group: The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping 📝 Take the Free High-Functioning Anxiety Quiz: http://hfaquiz.com ——————— My favorite tools: 🧘🏽♀️ Mindfulness Meditation App*: https://mindfulnesscom-partner-program.pxf.io/x97kyd ✅ Todoist To-Do List App*: https://get.todoist.io/8e7o0ay8n081 🕊️ Moonbird (Handheld Breathing Coach)*: https://calmlycoping.com/moonbird ——————— Say hi on social: 🔗 Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ 📌 Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc ——————— Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead Disclaimer All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues. *Links included in these show notes may be affiliate links. This means that I may earn a small commission for purchases made using these links (at no additional cost to you). All products that I share are products I use, love, and recommend.
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How to Overcome Insomnia with Joseph Pannell
If your mind races the moment your head hits the pillow — you’re not alone. In this episode, I’m joined by sleep expert Joseph Pannell, who shares his personal journey through 20 years of chronic insomnia and the powerful, science-backed strategies that helped him heal. We explore the deep connection between high-functioning anxiety, perfectionism, and insomnia, and what actually helps when you’re stuck in the spiral of overthinking at night. This conversation is validating, eye-opening, and full of relief for anyone who feels like rest is out of reach. The truth about what insomnia is (and isn’t) Why high achievers are more prone to sleep issues How to stop spiraling at night and calm your mind Practical behavioral shifts that support natural sleep What to do when anxious thoughts wake you up at 3 AM Joseph’s Website: https://www.sleepze.com Joseph’s YouTube Channel: Insomnia Talks ——————— Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within. ——————— ▶️ Check out Joseph’s YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@InsomniaTalks 💬 Submit a message, question, or suggestion to the podcast: https://calmlycoping.com/message ——————— Want more? 👩🏽💻 Work with me: My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance. Learn more about my coaching, therapy, and course offerings here: https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me 👥 Join the Calmly Coping Group: The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping 📝 Take the Free High-Functioning Anxiety Quiz: http://hfaquiz.com ——————— My favorite tools: 🧘🏽♀️ Mindfulness Meditation App*: https://mindfulnesscom-partner-program.pxf.io/x97kyd ✅ Todoist To-Do List App*: https://get.todoist.io/8e7o0ay8n081 🕊️ Moonbird (Handheld Breathing Coach)*: https://calmlycoping.com/moonbird ——————— Say hi on social: 🔗 Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ 📌 Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc ——————— Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead Disclaimer All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues. *Links included in these show notes may be affiliate links. This means that I may earn a small commission for purchases made using these links (at no additional cost to you). All products that I share are products I use, love, and recommend.
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How to Set Boundaries With Work (Without Feeling Guilty)
Ever feel like work is creeping into every part of your life? Your boss emails you on weekends, clients expect instant replies, or—even if you’re your own boss—you find yourself working at all hours? Setting boundaries at work can feel impossible… and if you do set them, guilt kicks in. But here’s the truth: You can set boundaries and still be seen as dedicated and capable. And in today’s episode, I’m going to show you how—whether you work for someone else or run your own business. In this episode, you will learn: Why work boundaries are non-negotiable for your mental health and success How to communicate boundaries without feeling awkward or guilty Practical ways to stick to your boundaries, even when people push back Sources: https://www.thetimes.com/uk/scotland/article/four-day-work-week-scotland-switch-7nzwcd7tz https://www.theguardian.com/business/2024/nov/09/english-councils-free-to-adopt-four-day-week-after-government-drops-concerns https://www.pbs.org/newshour/world/4-day-work-week-trial-yields-overwhelming-success-in-u-k-researchers-say https://www.hunton.com/hunton-employment-labor-perspectives/proposed-california-law-would-penalize-employers-for-contacting-employees-after-hours ——————— Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within. ——————— ▶️ Watch the Free Training: Achieve a Calm Mind, Balanced Life, and Empowered Confidence in 90 Days: https://calmlycoping.com/workshop 💬 Submit a message, question, or suggestion to the podcast: https://calmlycoping.com/message ——————— Want more? 👩🏽💻 Work with me: My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance. Learn more about my coaching, therapy, and course offerings here: https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me 👥 Join the Calmly Coping Group: The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping 📝 Take the Free High-Functioning Anxiety Quiz: http://hfaquiz.com ——————— My favorite tools: 🧘🏽♀️ Mindfulness Meditation App*: https://mindfulnesscom-partner-program.pxf.io/x97kyd ✅ Todoist To-Do List App*: https://get.todoist.io/8e7o0ay8n081 🕊️ Moonbird (Handheld Breathing Coach)*: https://calmlycoping.com/moonbird ——————— Say hi on social: 🔗 Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ 📌 Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc ——————— Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead Disclaimer All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues. *Links included in these show notes may be affiliate links. This means that I may earn a small commission for purchases made using these links (at no additional cost to you). All products that I share are products I use, love, and recommend.
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Feeling Rushed? How to Slow Down and Be Present
Are you rushing through life, always focused on the next thing on your to-do list? In today’s fast-paced world, it’s so easy to get caught up in overthinking and busyness that we forget to truly stop and live. Let’s hit pause and explore how to slow down, reset your mind, and be more present—for yourself and your loved ones. This episode is about letting go of the endless hustle and embracing the moments that matter most. In this episode, you will learn: How rushing through life might be keeping you stuck rather than helping you get ahead. Practical ways to slow down your mind and reduce overthinking. How embracing intentional living can help you truly savor life. Mentioned in episode: What To Do When Everything Feels Urgent: Coping With Hurry Sickness: https://www.becalmwithtati.com/hurry-sickness/ ——————— Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within. ——————— 🎯 Start the Calm & Resilient Challenge Today: https://www.calmandambitious.com/ 💬 Submit a message, question, or suggestion to the podcast: https://calmlycoping.com/message ——————— Want more? 👩🏽💻 Work with me: My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance. Learn more about my coaching, therapy, and course offerings here: https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me 👥 Join the Calmly Coping Group: The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping 📝 Take the Free High-Functioning Anxiety Quiz: http://hfaquiz.com ——————— My favorite tools: 🧘🏽♀️ Mindfulness Meditation App*: https://mindfulnesscom-partner-program.pxf.io/x97kyd ✅ Todoist To-Do List App*: https://get.todoist.io/8e7o0ay8n081 🕊️ Moonbird (Handheld Breathing Coach)*: https://calmlycoping.com/moonbird ——————— Say hi on social: 🔗 Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ 📌 Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc ——————— Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead Disclaimer All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues. *Links included in these show notes may be affiliate links. This means that I may earn a small commission for purchases made using these links (at no additional cost to you). All products that I share are products I use, love, and recommend.
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15:03
9 Signs Your Job Is Hurting Your Mental Health
Have you ever felt like work is taking over your life, but you tell yourself, this is just what success looks like? Maybe you constantly think about work, struggle to disconnect, or even feel physically drained—but you push through because you feel like you have to. The problem? When stress goes unchecked, it can start affecting your mental and physical well-being in ways you don’t even realize. In this episode, I’m sharing 9 signs your job is negatively impacting your mental health—plus simple ways to check in with yourself and shift toward balance. In this episode, you will learn: 9 specific signs that your work might be harming your mental health Why high achievers tend to overlook these warning signs Simple ways to increase awareness and self-compassion to create a healthier relationship with work Mentioned in episode: How to Turn Sunday Dread Into Monday Productivity: https://becalmwithtati.com/sunday-dread https://youtu.be/sxlb-9gRen8 ——————— Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within. ——————— 📝 Take the Free High-Functioning Anxiety Quiz: http://hfaquiz.com ——————— Want more? 👩🏽💻 Work with me: My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance. Learn more about my coaching, therapy, and course offerings here: https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me 👥 Join the Calmly Coping Group: The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping 📝 Take the Free High-Functioning Anxiety Quiz: http://hfaquiz.com ——————— My favorite tools: 🧘🏽♀️ Mindfulness Meditation App*: https://mindfulnesscom-partner-program.pxf.io/x97kyd ✅ Todoist To-Do List App*: https://get.todoist.io/8e7o0ay8n081 🕊️ Moonbird (Handheld Breathing Coach)*: https://calmlycoping.com/moonbird ——————— Say hi on social: 🔗 Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ 📌 Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc ——————— Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead Disclaimer All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues. *Links included in these show notes may be affiliate links. This means that I may earn a small commission for purchases made using these links (at no additional cost to you). All products that I share are products I use, love, and recommend.
Calmly Coping is the go-to podcast for high-achieving professionals who look like they have it all together—but inside, they’re overthinking, self-doubting, and feeling the weight of constant pressure.
I’m Tati Garcia, a licensed therapist and coach specializing in high-functioning anxiety. I help ambitious professionals break free from the cycle of overworking, overthinking, and never feeling good enough, so you can cultivate confidence, balance, and peace—without sacrificing success.
If you struggle with:
✔ Overanalyzing everything and second-guessing yourself
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✔ Trouble relaxing, switching off, or setting boundaries
✔ Self-doubt, imposter syndrome, and fear of failure
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