Calmly Coping

There's a point where pushing harder stops improving your performance and starts degrading it. If you've hit that wall and caught yourself wondering what's wrong with you, this episode is about what's actually going on.
🎓 FREE TRAINING: How to overcome high-functioning anxiety (on-demand, watch anytime): https://calmlycoping.com/workshop
 
There's this belief that if you are just disciplined enough, if you keep pushing harder and doing more… then you will accomplish your goals and improve your performance. But what if that's not true? What if you are pushing harder and your performance starts to degrade? Or you hit a wall and you feel utterly exhausted and overwhelmed and start wondering what's wrong with you? This could mean you're stuck in survival mode. Your nervous system never gets the chance to regulate and feel safe. And that's the very thing keeping you from progressing. In this episode I'll be talking about the 80/20 rule of performance and how you can utilize this to improve your performance without burning out.
In this episode, you'll learn:
👉 Why pushing harder eventually works against you
👉 The 80/20 rule of performance (not productivity)
👉 Three ways to get out of survival mode and actually perform better
 
⏱️ TIMESTAMPS
00:00 - The pushing harder myth
01:15 - The science of survival mode
03:31 - My running wake up call
05:00 - The 80/20 rule explained
05:52 - Resetting my training approach
06:58 - Tip 1: Spot the survival signs
08:46 - Tip 2: Change your self-talk
10:03 - Tip 3: Regulate daily
11:57 - Key takeaways and next steps
13:15 - Wrap up and question for you
 
📚 RESOURCES + SOURCES MENTIONED
Run Like a Pro by Matt Fitzgerald and Ben Rosario: https://bookshop.org/a/87936/9780593201916 *
Positive affirmations for overachievers: https://www.becalmwithtati.com/positive-affirmations/
Watch it on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yRBuk18AJHs
 
🎓 Ready to go deeper? Watch my free on-demand training on overcoming high-functioning anxiety: https://calmlycoping.com/workshop
🎤 SPEAKING: I deliver talks and workshops helping high-performing teams manage pressure without burning out: https://www.becalmwithtati.com/speaking/
CONNECT WITH ME
Website: https://www.becalmwithtati.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tatianaglpc/
Podcast: https://calmlycoping.com
 
Calmly Coping is a podcast for high-achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety, helping you feel calmer, more balanced, and more confident from within.
🎵 Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead
📄 Disclaimer
All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.
 
*Links included in these show notes may be affiliate links. This means that I may earn a small commission for purchases made using these links (at no additional cost to you). All products that I share are products I use, love, and recommend.

You hit one goal, and before you can even feel it, you're already onto the next one: being more productive, more efficient, more successful, constant improvement, and seeking perpetual growth… But have you ever stopped to ask what all that growth is actually for? If the goalpost keeps moving no matter what you accomplish, this one is for you.
🎓 FREE TRAINING: How to overcome high-functioning anxiety (on-demand, watch anytime): https://becalmwithtati.com/hfa-training
 
Growth gets treated as an automatic good, so we rarely stop to question it. In this episode, I unpack the difference between healthy ambition and the compulsion to grow, where that drive comes from culturally and personally, and how to move from autopilot to intentional growth without losing your ambition. If the goalpost keeps moving no matter what you accomplish, this one is for you.
In this episode, you'll learn:
👉 The difference between healthy ambition and a drive that never lets you rest
👉 Where your definition of "more is better" actually came from (it's not just you)
👉 How to grow on purpose instead of on autopilot
 
⏱️ TIMESTAMPS
00:00 - Chasing More
00:58 - Healthy ambition vs. the compulsion to grow
02:20 - Cultural and systemic origins: the American Dream, capitalism, keeping up
05:44 - Lifestyle creep and the moving goalpost
06:59 - Why our brains still chase more
08:29 - Tip 1: Separate your values from what was conditioned
08:53 - Tip 2: Autopilot growth vs. intentional growth
 
📚 RESOURCES + SOURCES MENTIONED
Juliet Schor, The Overworked American (book referenced in this episode)
Lifestyle creep: https://www.investopedia.com/terms/l/lifestyle-creep.asp
 
🎓 Ready to go deeper? Watch my free on-demand training on overcoming high-functioning anxiety: https://becalmwithtati.com/hfa-training
 
🎤 SPEAKING: I deliver talks and workshops helping high-performing teams manage pressure without burning out: https://www.becalmwithtati.com/speaking/
CONNECT WITH ME
Website: https://www.becalmwithtati.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tatianaglpc/
Podcast: https://calmlycoping.com
Calmly Coping is a podcast for high-achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety, helping you feel calmer, more balanced, and more confident from within.
🎵 Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead
📄 Disclaimer
All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.

You're the reliable one, the one who's always five steps ahead and seems to have it all together. But what if those strengths are secretly costing you?
🎓 FREE TRAINING: How to overcome high-functioning anxiety (on-demand, watch anytime): https://calmlycoping.com/workshop
 
In this episode, you'll learn:
👉 Why your most praised strengths might be quietly costing you
👉 How to tell the difference between genuine drive and anxiety in disguise
👉 How to keep the strengths you value while changing what's fueling them
 
⏱️ TIMESTAMPS
00:00 The Reliable One Trap
01:26 High Achiever Burnout Signs
02:18 Same Output, Different Fuel
03:21 High Functioning Anxiety Explained
03:58 Research Breakdown
06:10 Shift the Fuel Practical Tips
08:49 Stop Earning Your Rest
 
📚 RESOURCES + SOURCES MENTIONED
Perfectionistic strivings vs. perfectionistic concerns: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5303723/
Perfectionism and burnout: https://researchportal.bath.ac.uk/en/publications/9e5e8dd7-4507-4ba9-ad6f-41d13216e7e2/
Episode: Do You Have Unrealistic Expectations? https://www.becalmwithtati.com/unrealistic-expectations/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/xEkbSU53zJo
Episode: What To Do If You Feel Guilty Relaxing: https://www.becalmwithtati.com/feel-guilty-relaxing/
YouTube: https://youtu.be/2HB9DL2bJlg
Free Quiz: Do you have high-functioning anxiety? https://www.becalmwithtati.com/high-functioning-anxiety-quiz/
 
🎓 Ready to go deeper? Watch my free on-demand training on overcoming high-functioning anxiety: https://calmlycoping.com/workshop
🎤 SPEAKING: I deliver talks and workshops helping high-performing teams manage pressure without burning out: https://www.becalmwithtati.com/speaking/
CONNECT WITH ME
Website: https://www.becalmwithtati.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tatianaglpc/
Podcast: https://calmlycoping.com
Calmly Coping is a podcast for high-achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety, helping you feel calmer, more balanced, and more confident from within.
🎵 Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead
📄 Disclaimer
All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.

If certain times of the month leave you anxious, unmotivated, and questioning yourself, it might not just be PMS.  In this episode, I'm breaking down what premenstrual disorders like PMDD and PME actually are, why they're so often misunderstood, and why high achievers tend to be hit especially hard. As part of Podcasthon 2026, I'm spotlighting the International Association for Premenstrual Disorders (IAPMD) and sharing free resources that can help you or someone you love start getting real support.
In this episode, you'll learn:
What PMDD and PME are and how they differ from typical PMS
Why it's not a hormone imbalance (and what's actually happening)
How premenstrual disorders show up for high achievers
The cyclical pattern that helps distinguish these from other conditions
Resources mentioned:
IAPMD (International Association for Premenstrual Disorders) – Global nonprofit supporting people with PMDD and PME through research, peer support, and advocacy → iapmd.org
PMDs Self-Screen – Free quiz to help you identify whether you may be experiencing PMDD or PME → iapmd.org/self-screen
IAPMD Peer Support Groups – Free moderated video and online support communities → iapmd.org/support
IAPMD Global Provider Directory – Find a clinician who understands premenstrual disorders → iapmd.org/provider-directory
PMDD/PME at Work Guide – Steps you can take if premenstrual disorders are affecting your career → iapmd.org/pmdd-pme-work-guide
Free PMDs Symptom Tracker – Track your symptoms across your cycle to identify patterns → iapmd.org/shop/p/iapmd-pmds-symptom-tracker
Donate to IAPMD – 100% of public donations fund their programs and research → iapmd.org/donate
Podcasthon 2026 – A global event where podcasters spotlight charitable organizations → podcasthon.org
 
00:00 Cycle Challenges
01:39 My PMDD Story
03:40 PMDD and PME Symptoms
06:56 The Scale of PMDD
07:51 What IAPMD Does
08:32 Free Tools and Support
09:33 Donate and Share
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Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within.
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💬 Submit a message, question, or suggestion to the podcast: https://calmlycoping.com/message
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Want more?
👩🏽‍💻 Work with me: My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching, therapy, and course offerings here: https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me
👥 Join the Calmly Coping Group: The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping
📝 Take the Free High-Functioning Anxiety Quiz: http://hfaquiz.com
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Say hi on social:
🔗 Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/
📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/
📌 Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc
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Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead
Disclaimer
All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.

If you keep putting something off and can't figure out why, it might not be laziness or lack of discipline. It might be your subconscious trying to tell you something. In this episode, I break down what's really driving procrastination beneath the surface, and walk you through how to use it as a signal to understand yourself better and finally get unstuck.
In This Episode, You'll Learn:
Why procrastination is often a signal from your subconscious, not just laziness or poor discipline
How I used my own procrastination patterns to uncover a deeper belief that was keeping me stuck
A three-step process for noticing, getting curious about, and processing what your behavior might be communicating
How to question the internal "boxes" and expectations you've created for yourself without realizing it
 
📝 Free Workbook: From Pressure to Ease: A short guided reset to help you soften internal pressure and feel more at ease without dropping the ball: https://calmlycoping.com/pressure
 
00:00 Why We Procrastinate
02:28 Emotions Behind Avoidance
03:19 Subconscious Signals
05:43 My Podcast Procrastination
06:23 Discipline Versus Creativity
10:24 A New Theme Based Format
11:57 Three Phases Of Growth
14:23 Use Signals To Reflect
16:43 Free Guide And Next Steps
17:03 Podcast Plans And Break
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Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within.
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💬 Submit a message, question, or suggestion to the podcast: https://calmlycoping.com/message
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Want more?
👩🏽‍💻 Work with me: My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching, therapy, and course offerings here: https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me
👥 Join the Calmly Coping Group: The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping
📝 Take the Free High-Functioning Anxiety Quiz: http://hfaquiz.com
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Say hi on social:
🔗 Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/
📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/
📌 Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc
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Intro/Outro Music: Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead
Disclaimer
All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.