Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

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In this week’s episode 367 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m exploring what happens when life takes us somewhere different from where we thought we were going—and why different doesn’t automatically mean worse.
Using Emily Perl Kingsley’s Welcome to Holland metaphor as a starting point, I talk about the experience of grieving the life we expected while learning to notice what is possible in the life we actually have. Whether the transition involves a child leaving home, retirement, a relationship ending, a career change, a move, or another unexpected shift, we often see what we’re losing long before we can see what we might gain.
Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
Why we so quickly equate change with loss
How uncertainty can make familiar—even unhealthy—patterns feel safer
Why unfamiliar doesn’t mean dangerous, and familiar doesn’t necessarily mean safe
How routines can help us learn to live in a new chapter
Why you can grieve what you left behind while still becoming curious about what comes next
You can choose a new chapter and still grieve the old one. Grief isn’t evidence that you made the wrong decision, and discomfort isn’t necessarily evidence that something has gone wrong. Sometimes it’s simply what it feels like to be somewhere you haven’t learned how to live yet.
This episode is an invitation to resist deciding too quickly that your new reality is worse than the one you imagined. You can plan to go to Italy, land in Holland instead, miss Italy, but still notice the tulips in Holland, and love them too.
Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.
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Welcome to Holland by Emily Perl Kingsley

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In this week’s episode 366 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about why some of the biggest transitions in our lives also become turning points in how we see ourselves.
Transitions aren’t just about changing routines, schedules, jobs, relationships, or where we live. They can change our identity. In this episode, I reflect on several transitions in my own life—from graduate school and moving to New Haven to recovery—and what each one taught me about who I was becoming.
Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
Why transitions are really about identity, not just routines
How a perceived lack of ability can sometimes be a mismatch of values instead
The different ways recovery changed how I saw myself
How boundaries reinforce the person you’re becoming and build self-trust
Why you don’t need to have a perfect plan during a transition—you need to stay connected to yourself
I also share how my upcoming transition into working part-time while continuing to run my coaching business is making me think differently about identity, routines, and what it means to become someone new.
This episode is a reminder that transitions can reveal strengths you didn’t know you had, show you identities you’ve outgrown, and help you discover that something you thought you wanted may not actually be what you want.
So if you’re in the middle of a transition right now, maybe the question isn’t simply, “How do I get through this?” Maybe the better question is: “Who is this transition inviting me to become?”
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This is my 365th episode! That means you could literally listen to one episode per day for an entire year!
In this week’s episode 365 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m joined by Shaun Enright, who shares his experience, strength, and hope of recovery and how learning to let go changed both his life and his business.
Shaun shares how he went from running a successful seven-figure business while struggling behind the scenes, to recognizing that alcohol was a problem, entering 12-step recovery, and learning to surrender control. He also explains how those lessons eventually became the foundation for the work he now does helping entrepreneurs and professionals let go of stress, fear, and the need to control everything.
Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
Shaun’s journey from outward success and inner struggle into 12-step recovery
Why letting go of control and surrender became such an important part of his healing
How his relationship with a higher power changed his understanding of responsibility and control
How recovery helped him rebuild his business and create a new life centered around helping others
The “FLOW” framework he developed to help people feel, acknowledge, choose, and let go in moments of stress
Shaun also shares how he went from being deeply in debt and trying to carry everything himself to rebuilding his finances, creating a new business, and building a family life he describes as wonderful.
This episode is ultimately about hope. Shaun has lived through the difficult parts he talks about, and his story is a reminder that even when you can't see a way forward, change is possible.
Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.
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Shaun Enright, Coach and Podcaster, Founder and CEO of Zenright Life. Shaun helps founder-led service businesses turn selling into a calm, consistent growth system—so revenue becomes predictable without pressure, gimmicks, or chasing.

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NLP - Neuro-linguistic Programming info

David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D. is the person who created the Levels of Vibration by Type of Emotion graphic Shaun and I discussed.

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As summer winds down, many of us start imagining the organized, disciplined person we're finally going to become in the fall. The problem is that we often create new routines for an ideal version of ourselves at the exact moment our lives are getting busier. When we can't maintain the plan, we don't question the routine. We question ourselves.
This week, on episode 364 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm talking about how to create new routines without setting yourself up to fail!
In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I'm sharing why routines can become another form of self-abandonment when they ignore your actual energy, capacity, responsibilities, and circumstances. I'm also sharing what happened when I stopped trying to force myself through an ideal strength-training plan and started with two minutes a day instead.
Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
Why routines often fail when you create them for the person you wish you were instead of the person who will actually have to live them.
How unrealistic expectations can turn a supportive routine into another form of self-abandonment and self-judgment.
What my resistance to a full workout taught me about treating resistance as information instead of proof that I lacked discipline.
Why starting with two minutes and gradually ramping up can build a routine you are genuinely willing and able to continue.
How self-trust helps you adjust a routine, make room for it, and begin again without treating the change as failure.
A routine is supposed to support the life you're actually living. It is not supposed to become another way to override yourself. Choose one routine that would genuinely help you, make the first version smaller than you think it should be, and give yourself time to ramp up. If it doesn't work, you haven't failed. You received information, and you can adjust, simplify, and begin again.
Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.
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In this week’s episode 363 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about life transitions and why the biggest change often isn’t what’s happening around you—it’s the shift in your identity.
Whether you’re becoming an empty nester, changing careers, retiring, ending a relationship, or entering a new season of life, transitions often invite you to ask, “Who am I now?” In this episode, I explore a different question that can be even more helpful: “Who do I want to be?”
Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
Why life transitions are often identity transitions
How boundaries and routines help shape the person you’re becoming
The difference between creating routines for productivity and creating routines that support the life you want
Why approaching new routines as experiments can make change feel more manageable
Questions to help you move intentionally into your next season of life
I also share examples from coaching clients, including an empty nester navigating a new stage of motherhood and a professional experimenting with focused work time instead of reacting to email all day.
This episode is a reminder that you don’t need to have your entire future figured out. You simply need something meaningful to reach toward—a value, a relationship, or a routine that helps you become more grounded in the person you want to be.
Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.
Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!
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Most women  know where they need a boundary. The hard part is holding onto what they know when guilt, fear, or disappointment shows up.
On 9/12 I’m leading a live  Bootcamp,  you’ll learn to hear yourself clearly, understand why boundaries collapse under pressure, practice boundary language you can use even when guilt is present, and create a Personal Boundary Blueprint for one real situation in your life.Register at HigherPowerCC.com/bootcamp.