From Flattened to Free-How to Escape the Bulldozer Cycle | Episode 325
Send us a textThe bulldozer cycle, in relation to people pleasing, is the concept of feeling perpetually flattened by the demands and needs of others, trapped in a hidden cycle that leads to burnout and frustration. I’ll be the first to admit that setting healthy boundaries that lead to healing is hard but choosing to stay stuck in the never-ending cycle is harder. You’ve got to pick your poison. In this week’s episode 325 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m teaching you how to go from flattened to free, escaping the bulldozer cycle. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:The meaning of the “bulldozer cycle” and how it affects relationships.The difference between being bulldozed and being a bulldozer (even in subtle ways).The importance of self-awareness and responsibility in breaking unhealthy patterns.Practical steps for setting boundaries and regulating your nervous system.Inspirational questions to reflect on your own patterns of being bulldozed or bulldozing others.You don’t have to stay flattened or bulldoze others to feel safe. With courage and the right tools, you can stand tall in your own dignity and create healthier, more authentic relationships. Ready to take the next step? Explore my resources at higherpowercc.com, or book a call to see if private coaching is right for you. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/ CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! LINKS MENTIONED:Shameless Boundaries CourseCurated bundlesBook a call to see if coaching is right for you
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Why Experience Matters More Than Credentials (And How to Own Yours) | Episode 324
Send us a textToo many of us get caught up in perfectionism, thinking that we have to meet every requirement before we're worthy and not to put ourselves out there until we're certain we won't fail. In my case, I was caught up in believing I was “too much” until one day, I came to the realization that the very things I thought were “too much” about me were the things that made me successful. So if you’ve ever hesitated to apply for something because you didn’t tick every single box, or if you worry that you’re “too much,” this episode is for you. This week, on episode 324 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about why experience matters more than credentials (and how to own yours)!In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing how perfectionism and self-doubt can hold you back from pursuing opportunities and how to identify and leverage your own patterns, both positive and negative, to build a more authentic and fulfilling professional identity. Your patterns tell the truth about who you are. Change the ones that hold you back, highlight the ones that move you forward, and trust that you are more qualified than you think. Take the next step—reflect on your work history, own your strengths, and step confidently into new opportunities!Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Career Identity SessionCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFacebookInstagramWork with Barb!
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How the Victim Role Hijacks Workplace Meetings (and What to Do Instead) | Episode 323
Send us a textVictim mentality shows up in all areas of our lives, but when it pops up in the workplace, it can derail an entire team of people and quietly take control over the workplace. Today, I want to peel back the curtain on how the victim role can take charge, shifting the focus from what really matters and what you can do to keep your team focused and empowered.This week’s episode 323 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how the victim role hijacks workplace meetings (and what to do instead). In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing how the victim role shows up in workplace scenarios and can take control of group dynamics, and 5 actionable steps you can take to address the situation to foster healthier, more productive workplace interactions. Everyone can fall into the victim role at times, but with awareness and the right tools, you can shift the energy in your team meetings and help your team thrive! For more strategies on handling tricky workplace dynamics, check out my upcoming workshop, Beyond Burnout: Setting Boundaries at Work That Stick, on September 18, 2025!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/ LINKS MENTIONED:GETTING OUT OF VICTIM MENTALITY EPISODESEp #3 Victim Mentality (8 min)Ep #106 How to Overcome Victim Mentality Even If You've Been Victimized (15 min)Ep # 126 How Understanding Your Part in Things Brings You Out of Victim Mentality (15 min)Ep. #152 How to Stop Taking Things Personally and Come Out of Victim Mentality (14 min)Ep. #172 Seven Steps to Coming Out of Victim Mentality (21 min)Ep #176 What Is the Dreaded Drama Triangle and How to Get Out of It (19 min)Ep. 223 How Building Boundaries Helps You Overcome Victim Mentality and Unrealistic ExpectationsEp. 266. How to Stop Victimizing Yourself and Reclaim Your Power (23 min)Ep. 313 How to Go from Victim Mentality to Empowered Living – You Have ChoicesCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterWork with Barb!
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Back to School, Not Back to Chaos- 5 Scripts for Sanity This Fall | Episode 322
Send us a textThe beginning of the school year is a difficult time for teachers and parents alike. Volunteer and extra curricular requests come in, calendars fill up, and before you know it, you’ve reached your capacity and your calendar is in chaos. Today, I want to give you a head start to set yourself up for a peaceful school year, protecting your time, energy, and sanity. This week’s episode 322 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about back to school, not back to chaos: 5 scripts for sanity this fall!In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing 5 scripts to help you set boundaries around information, requests, and obligations that come in this school year, and a new metaphor for healthy boundaries: your personal “weather pattern”.Here are the scripts:Reset and transition boundaries: We’re doing a slow start to the year—adding one thing at a time Academic and volunteer boundary: I’m not available to volunteer this semester, but I wish you a successful event Communication boundary: Please contact me via email instead of text for anything school-relatedSocial and peer boundaries: I’m not discussing other people’s kids—that’s private.Mental and emotional boundary: I won’t be sacrificing my sleep for school-related stress anymore.The back-to-school season doesn’t have to be chaotic. When you practice setting boundaries, you set yourself up for a peaceful semester ahead!Don’t forget to sign up for my Back to School, Back to Sanity boundaries workshop for parents and teachers on August 28, 2025!Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Feeling drained? Take my free Boundaries Drain Quiz to find out where your energy is leaking and how to reclaim it. Start your quiz here: https://higherpowercc.com/drain/ CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery
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Why Boundaries are the Rules of the Road for Life with 10 Examples | Episode 321
Send us a textThe reason we have rules of the road is because they're social boundaries. They exist to prevent harm, to reduce accidents and to create flow. When everyone keeps the focus on themselves, staying in their lane, following the rules, respecting others, boundaries, things run much more smoothly. These rules translate very well to social and emotional boundaries. Today, I'm going to walk you through some of the most common rules of the road and how they map onto the concept of boundaries and life.This week’s episode 314 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about why boundaries are the rules of the road for life!In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing how traffic rules mirror personal boundaries, what happens when these boundaries are ignored, and what we can do to respect them.Just like learning to drive, boundary setting takes practice—it's about awareness, not perfection. By treating your personal boundaries like the rules of the road, you can move through life with the calm, clarity, and control of a skilled driver.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program!After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll...*Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries*Know how to communicate directly with people*Your feelings will become more "right-sized"*Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated*Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that*Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful*Come closer to realizing your authentic identitySign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-callCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaGet a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery
Sobre Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery
Tired of feeling fragmented and overwhelmed? Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12-Step Recovery is your guide to creating a life of wholeness, authenticity, and healthy boundaries. Join Barb Nangle, a boundaries coach and speaker, as she shares raw and honest insights from her own journey and the principles of 12-step recovery. Discover how to set boundaries without guilt or shame, overcome people-pleasing tendencies, manage your emotions effectively, cultivate a stronger sense of self, and build healthier relationships. Barb's approach is raw, honest, and sometimes a little bit (okay, a lot) sweary. Barb doesn't speak for or endorse any particular 12 step program of recovery. Though she's a huge fan of 12 step recovery, and a member of two 12 step fellowships, she cannot speak for them. If you're ready for real talk and practical tools for transformation, tune in! To learn more about Barb, go to https://higherpowercc.com/