Grow With Intention by MuchelleB

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00:37 Put in less work
01:30 Thoughtful commentary does not a useful journal make
03:27 Instead of using journaling prompts
04:07 BW Mode
05:25 Venting isn't the answer
06:05 Drop the rules
07:19 Don't reopen ur wounds
09:27 Lock it down🔗 *You think this video just fell out of a coconut tree? It exists in the context... ⇢*

Most of this video is just... years of experience with journaling (with a lot of giving up on journaling, trying again, noticing what worked and noticing what didn't. But there are always sooo many smart people that have influenced me along the way. In this video, that includes:
🔗 Judd Brewer talks a lot about the "emotional juice" of memories in the context of anxiety - I looove that wording and using it a few times in this video.
🔗 The idea of "dropping a question into your mind like you're dropping a pebble into a pond" is from a book with a one-word title - unfortunately I can't remember the name of it! If it comes to me I will add here.
🔗 "Sentence starters" is something I got into after reading "Unlocking The Emotional Brain" - this book is... amazing, life-changing lol and has nothing to do with journaling at all, but also has everything to do with journaling for me: https://amzn.to/4z3Ib7S

🔗 The idea of memories holding emotional juice was also something that came from using "imagery rescripting", more on that here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l2qPNirHniQ

🔗 The research on venting "Don't ignore your negative emotions, but don't dwell on them": https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/happy-together/202309/do-you-vent-because-you-think-its-good-for-you-think-again

Watch my top 10 time management video playlist ⇢ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6EmtPFYBqZY&list=PLLIqjsG5vfFo

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💭 *Video timeline ⇢*

00:00 Why I started reading parenting books
00:31 To up your self-discipline, improve your relationship
02:23 Choices impact on performance
03:39 Frustration at yourself is a waste of time
04:59 Grown-ups need natural consequences
07:28 The power tool
09:38 Less toys for more focus
10:42 A parenting hack I got at a party

🔗 *You think this video just fell out of a coconut tree? It exists in the context... ⇢*
🔗  Og Instagram Post: https://www.instagram.com/p/Da_1kQ5GDT8/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
🔗 The framing of "correction without frustration" is actually from this tweet, a dog training resource, but its my fave way I've personally seen it framed and reminds me of parenting advice from hunt gather parent: https://x.com/Kollerkunzultz/status/2076634566656237884
🔗  Explosive Child Book: https://www.amazon.com.au/Explosive-Child-Sixth-Understanding-Chronically-ebook/dp/B08NP52GTW/ref=sr_1_5?crid=SJ8B0KBNX4D3&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.eyYuldvpQv2VCIV87SSGWTyK2dZicK3gAE6ogbVOOE4mnTuY5x43BKNfKiUOrm6gdg602Z_CCI5eJkhMtBen_tbpUlJH-kY6v5i-8hwj1fi3wF7QtHBgCJzFJZGuXv8S9R5q-zpwUbJJdV9VI8RlE_a_St3Tr1sql2-IJeheWl2DEfvt0iOGIzBC3t3uNFayp_pQXspoaDa18JqThWlvVP9gSHgbzcV_gfjOUyweAiabjo6jxrBHg4vIvKIBAZk2OKBAVrWckhmZxdlouE-LPah6v5VASZLPQSFzacFtKmQ.LI59QQUEuK7tjvBvT1IDJi_sXqOWEa77NiEtIDSHUdw&dib_tag=se&keywords=explosive+child&qid=1784882792&sprefix=explosive+c%2Caps%2C317&sr=8-5
🔗  Laura Markham Calm Parents Happy Kid: https://www.amazon.com.au/Calm-Parents-Happy-Kids-Stress-Free/dp/B086VJM879/ref=sr_1_3?crid=13KQ9J4FPGI02&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.46PPBBh7VkK7nZaKB1RzZ399uObrSQUUQAtB7cYCxVlKWTWvML8xYQ41wgQE2qW0BefejnfXJvA4bX6e634-IqQjQ3YSFE8r4-z0hZgdbm7ITsM_NMy61neCE62z7RL6Y7pCq7LD70Yl-kYJllD2p-I8Ejce3VBJR1j7Kt3k5Vo5p3x4ews9jIWbqMw5h1uSfNwpRKVR-Y48q1AsT0GgAtWFGtgP43HdT_7_Eqln6YWir0phSI4Q2VGIw4lGWE-mUQUN3J-huY8J-fiohc28ddWyoH-DV_WIGhMSQ93Aw6g.UixFW8h61VSquDnlSHpuKN4N_kG0j_SUqXDlYRd2U_E&dib_tag=se&keywords=laura+markham&qid=1784882819&sprefix=laura+markh%2Caps%2C340&sr=8-3
🔗  4 toy vs 16 toy study: https://www.jcfs.org/blog/less-more-toys-and-their-impact-childrens-cognitive-and-neurological-development
🔗 Choosing a colour ball impacted performance: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0167945724000101

Hello hellooo! I have been sick! ~ In order not to make myelf worse by talking for too long (or burden you with the sound of my voice lets be so honest), here's a little throwback episode to one of my favourites.

💿 *Ur next watch⇢*
→ An unusual guide to building self-discipline: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KsgJRsyIqV0

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💭 *Video timeline ⇢*
00:00 Why Productivity Feels Hard
00:25 Slide mode
02:19 Emily Nagoski
04:04 Is fun the answer?
05:12 The more you fear demotivation...
06:46 Stubborness as a mindset
08:11 Hook, line, sinker
08:41 Ur thoughts are like a stove

🔗 *You think I just fell out of a coconut tree? I exist in the context... ⇢*
🔗 Emily Nagoski Come as You Are: https://www.amazon.com.au/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1982165316/ref=sr_1_1?

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💭 *Video timeline ⇢*

00:00 The Acceptance Paradox
00:29 What is "acceptance"?
01:18 Meredith and the sickness
02:27 The welcome mat mindset
03:04 The goal beneath the goal
04:51 To accept is to observe without judgment
06:19 The Forever Exercise

🔗 *You think this video just fell out of a coconut tree? It exists in the context... ⇢*
🔗 This video title was inspired of course, by the original Carl Rogers quote, but also by the lovely Anna Howard, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sLsjepPZKd0, alongside the substack article of the same name, https://www.henrikkarlsson.xyz/p/diaries - I made a point not to read or watch either of theseee because I am far too scared of accidental plagiarism, but as soon as I saw that video title I was like oh, I have things to say.
🔗 The story of Meredith was from a book by Brad Stulberg, Master of Change: https://www.amazon.com.au/Master-Change-Everything-Changing-Including-ebook/dp/B0DG48NL6P/?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=qOJjF&content-id=amzn1.sym.7153b2d3-487c-46f2-9cd8-b060e652f2e8&pf_rd_p=7153b2d3-487c-46f2-9cd8-b060e652f2e8&pf_rd_r=355-7641594-2976438&pd_rd_wg=6K41W&pd_rd_r=06e3a135-9507-431f-9d55-e6b90ee4f7a8
🔗 The altered story of Marjorie was from Lance Dodes work, which I highly recommend: https://www.amazon.com.au/Breaking-Addiction-7-Step-Handbook-Ending-ebook/dp/B004HD61JK/ref=sr_1_1?crid=DXE9HIBJ3N1Q&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.1kxyD7yNzHnY_UJtzGX_6ZoZe9iG5LCEQR9eUHiYL0q2LG8j_oTHTimNqyrpDSFe.99Do7fzTIvS4nGYRjaQC_f_WiwHUEhLu2IYyyzTDbYQ&dib_tag=se&keywords=lance+dodes&qid=1781382211&s=digital-text&sprefix=lance+dod%2Cdigital-text%2C260&sr=1-1
🔗 How To Get Rid Of Headache Or Migraine In 2 Minutes Or Less https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UKGtv84aSjo
🔗 This video is really about radical acceptance, which originated in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). It was developed in the late 1980s by psychologist Dr. Marsha Linehan and was also inspired by Buddhism. For a very modern version of radical acceptance, check outttt.. the let them theory haha.
🔗 I really enjoyed this book about acceptance: https://www.amazon.com.au/Acceptance-Create-Change-Move-Forward/dp/1399707930/ref=sr_1_3?crid=2DTURUMQI7EP7&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.BtkrDfBHItOgDVmAD_JMfqBfZzh5rO4_cOM_01m9SnKxWeQF6Y5qQUAdaPBSE0Ar5eD4gtU833uae-4vpdYhK2q34eyYQsuXH6rpb6yZF7xu70d-V8M4hfX8x4wvjAcnCfGWvfwC5nEF0Pp0JBCfDg.bzrdGqKR89HVQCEiwbfAXVUU6TPHY3fDc-oC8nveOyU&dib_tag=se&keywords=acceptance+padraid&qid=1781382531&sprefix=acceptance+padra%2Caps%2C239&sr=8-3
🔗 But if I'm being real, my understanding of acceptance stemmed way more from this book than anything else: https://www.amazon.com.au/Forgive-Good-PROVEN-Prescription-Happiness/dp/006251721X/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1P9033T906N9P&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.2J9j8DKYGSRV_eJ3L6VVu3riheL9Wj1Xh2gQSakePNiFnlNhnhh89EZinqpuZnUy7isBWA-4nkvKSa4Lc7LQhdJc3TGc3M-EZaq4ZoY964S13rNI9DCdbh7T3ojbJuZKNNPpK-OM-7v_eKFfMKgtLQ.l1xlyQ9NmNzBpycQCPwmXp6EQ2lV0MQOHYIFimmUIe0&dib_tag=se&keywords=forgiveness+by+fred+luskin&qid=1781382600&sprefix=forgiveness+by+fred+lusk%2Caps%2C247&sr=8-1