Grow With Intention by MuchelleB

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💭 *Video timeline ⇢*
00:00 Why Productivity Feels Hard
00:25 Slide mode
02:19 Emily Nagoski
04:04 Is fun the answer?
05:12 The more you fear demotivation...
06:46 Stubborness as a mindset
08:11 Hook, line, sinker
08:41 Ur thoughts are like a stove

🔗 *You think I just fell out of a coconut tree? I exist in the context... ⇢*
🔗 Emily Nagoski Come as You Are: https://www.amazon.com.au/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1982165316/ref=sr_1_1?

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💭 *Video timeline ⇢*

00:00 The Acceptance Paradox
00:29 What is "acceptance"?
01:18 Meredith and the sickness
02:27 The welcome mat mindset
03:04 The goal beneath the goal
04:51 To accept is to observe without judgment
06:19 The Forever Exercise

🔗 *You think this video just fell out of a coconut tree? It exists in the context... ⇢*
🔗 This video title was inspired of course, by the original Carl Rogers quote, but also by the lovely Anna Howard, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sLsjepPZKd0, alongside the substack article of the same name, https://www.henrikkarlsson.xyz/p/diaries - I made a point not to read or watch either of theseee because I am far too scared of accidental plagiarism, but as soon as I saw that video title I was like oh, I have things to say.
🔗 The story of Meredith was from a book by Brad Stulberg, Master of Change: https://www.amazon.com.au/Master-Change-Everything-Changing-Including-ebook/dp/B0DG48NL6P/?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=qOJjF&content-id=amzn1.sym.7153b2d3-487c-46f2-9cd8-b060e652f2e8&pf_rd_p=7153b2d3-487c-46f2-9cd8-b060e652f2e8&pf_rd_r=355-7641594-2976438&pd_rd_wg=6K41W&pd_rd_r=06e3a135-9507-431f-9d55-e6b90ee4f7a8
🔗 The altered story of Marjorie was from Lance Dodes work, which I highly recommend: https://www.amazon.com.au/Breaking-Addiction-7-Step-Handbook-Ending-ebook/dp/B004HD61JK/ref=sr_1_1?crid=DXE9HIBJ3N1Q&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.1kxyD7yNzHnY_UJtzGX_6ZoZe9iG5LCEQR9eUHiYL0q2LG8j_oTHTimNqyrpDSFe.99Do7fzTIvS4nGYRjaQC_f_WiwHUEhLu2IYyyzTDbYQ&dib_tag=se&keywords=lance+dodes&qid=1781382211&s=digital-text&sprefix=lance+dod%2Cdigital-text%2C260&sr=1-1
🔗 How To Get Rid Of Headache Or Migraine In 2 Minutes Or Less https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UKGtv84aSjo
🔗 This video is really about radical acceptance, which originated in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). It was developed in the late 1980s by psychologist Dr. Marsha Linehan and was also inspired by Buddhism. For a very modern version of radical acceptance, check outttt.. the let them theory haha.
🔗 I really enjoyed this book about acceptance: https://www.amazon.com.au/Acceptance-Create-Change-Move-Forward/dp/1399707930/ref=sr_1_3?crid=2DTURUMQI7EP7&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.BtkrDfBHItOgDVmAD_JMfqBfZzh5rO4_cOM_01m9SnKxWeQF6Y5qQUAdaPBSE0Ar5eD4gtU833uae-4vpdYhK2q34eyYQsuXH6rpb6yZF7xu70d-V8M4hfX8x4wvjAcnCfGWvfwC5nEF0Pp0JBCfDg.bzrdGqKR89HVQCEiwbfAXVUU6TPHY3fDc-oC8nveOyU&dib_tag=se&keywords=acceptance+padraid&qid=1781382531&sprefix=acceptance+padra%2Caps%2C239&sr=8-3
🔗 But if I'm being real, my understanding of acceptance stemmed way more from this book than anything else: https://www.amazon.com.au/Forgive-Good-PROVEN-Prescription-Happiness/dp/006251721X/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1P9033T906N9P&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.2J9j8DKYGSRV_eJ3L6VVu3riheL9Wj1Xh2gQSakePNiFnlNhnhh89EZinqpuZnUy7isBWA-4nkvKSa4Lc7LQhdJc3TGc3M-EZaq4ZoY964S13rNI9DCdbh7T3ojbJuZKNNPpK-OM-7v_eKFfMKgtLQ.l1xlyQ9NmNzBpycQCPwmXp6EQ2lV0MQOHYIFimmUIe0&dib_tag=se&keywords=forgiveness+by+fred+luskin&qid=1781382600&sprefix=forgiveness+by+fred+lusk%2Caps%2C247&sr=8-1

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📝 *Important notes⇢*
📝 This approach is most suitable for everyday small changes (kind of like the examples I talked through in this video!), *not* for change related to any events that could be considered catastrophic - please ALWAYS consult a professional if what you're experiencing is related to very difficult events in your life.
📝 This isn't the only way to change that requires less "force" and leans more "natural/spontaneous". There are always (at least) 100 ways to climb a mountain! 
📝 For some changes, it also wouldn't make sense to try to apply the ideas in this video. 
📝 For some brains, this approach might not be helpful at all. Always, where you can, try to experiment in small ways to check out what DOES suit you and how YOU operate before diving in and taking any ideas in this video as absolute fact.
📝 Keep an open mind but also... take what resonates, leave the rest. 
📝 I'm not a mental health professional, just a gal into shame-free, acceptance-based behaviour change.

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💛 *If you liked this video, you'll probably like... ⇢*
→ The Behaviour Change Playlist _(when you want to start a new habit or change)_ : https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW3yd6NHmEVqXsWO6qv2AytfUtVeVf6f7
🍧 *I post more of this kind of thing on Instagram ⇢*
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💭 *Video timeline ⇢*
00:00 Why are you the way you are?
01:03 You are a walking, talking prediction machine
01:55 Your predictions change how you behave
03:47 Buut they aren't conscious
05:46 How to find your predictions
06:56 How to dissolve your predictions
08:45 The goal: Get your brain to recalculate
10:29 Creating a mismatch experience
11:46 How your brain changes through neuroplasticity
13:32 Thank u, next

🔗 *Helpful Links ⇢*
🔗 Book: Redefining Stuttering by John Harrison
*Each stutter may be unique when it comes to cause. This book goes through a number of potential factors that might contribute towards sustaining a long-term stutter from Johns unique perspective. It's a great read. https://www.amazon.com.au/Redefining-Stuttering-struggle-Previously-Speaking/dp/1929773005
🔗 Book: (The book that started it all) Unlocking the Emotional Brain: Memory Reconsolidation and the Psychotherapy of Transformational Change by Bruce Ecker https://www.amazon.com.au/Unlocking-Emotional-Brain-Reconsolidation-Transformational/dp/1032139129
*This book is THE resource to look at if you're interested in how our predictions change our behaviour and shaped a lot of the knowledge shared in this video.
🔗 Book: Little Treatments Big Effects by Jessica Schleider. This book is where Jessica shares her "epiphany" story after trying a hard food. https://www.amazon.com.au/Little-Treatments-Big-Effects-Meaningful/dp/1472147227

💿 Get my best practical ideas in your inbox (free)⇢→ Sign up: https://www.muchelleb.com.au/newslett...☁️ Join the Intention Community (it's replaced the Intention app)! ⇢→ Every month, two brand-new tools (meditations, worksheets, videos, etc) drop, usually built around a recent video - so that you can take what you’ve learned and do something with it.→ Join: https://intentioncommunity.circle.so/🪞 Organise your Life with the Calm Productivity Notion Pack. ⇢→ "This notion pack is amazing!! I feel like it’s changing my life already and I’ve never been so impressed by a product." Alice Joyce→ Get the pack: https://shop.muchelleb.com.au/product...💛 If you liked this video, you'll probably like... ⇢→ The Behaviour Change Playlist (when you want to start a new habit or change) :    • Habits and Behaviour Change ✨  🍧 I post more of this kind of thing on Instagram ⇢→ Follow me:   / muchelleb  💭 Video timeline ⇢
00:00 Five Weird Practices00:17 Flaw Noticing02:23 The Recast Technique04:42 Reality Broadening06:45 Mental Rejection08:26 Thought Watching

*Podcast Update*: In case you don't quite get to the end of this video... Last year, I realised I was spreading myself a bit too thin with YouTube, this podcast, the membership, the book and more... and nothing felt like it was getting the attention it deserved.I made a lot of tweaks trying to make it work (that you've witnessed me making!), but I've finally decided it's time to simplify more intentionally and fully focus on just one platform: YouTube. The good news is that I’m still here and uploading every other week! Just over on  @muchelleb  and on Spotify / wherever you get your podcasts. Thanks for being with me on this journey. I appreciate you a bunch.Thanks for being on this journey with me. I appreciate you.💿 *Get my free newsletter with simple ideas to make life easier ⇢*→ Sign up: https://www.muchelleb.com.au/newsletter-signup☁️ *Join the Intention Community (it's replaced the Intention app)! ⇢*→ _Every month, two brand-new tools (meditations, worksheets, videos, etc) drop, usually built around a recent video - so that you can take what you’ve learned and do something with it._→ Join: https://intentioncommunity.circle.so/🪞 *Organise your Life with the Calm Productivity Notion Pack. ⇢*→ _"This notion pack is amazing!! I feel like it’s changing my life already and I’ve never been so impressed by a product." Alice Joyce_→ Get the pack: https://shop.muchelleb.com.au/products/the-calm-productivity-notion-pack💭 *Video timeline ⇢*00:00 Parenting Advice00:34 Natural Consequences Explained02:11 Why It Doesn’t Work02:36 Mindful Awareness Fix04:03 Rewards Must Matter04:52 Self-Criticism Blocks Learning07:03 Podcast Update and Focus08:27 Rex and Mini Move08:44 Mindful Experiment Wrap-Up🔗 *Anything I mentioned ⇢*🔗 The Self-Criticism Cycle: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZCxuFdIPqJk