Date Your Wife

Can scheduling sex actually improve your marriage—or does putting it on the calendar kill the very thing you're trying to create?
In this episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast, Garrett and Danielle White have an unusually candid conversation about sex, intimacy, rejection, desire, and what happens when you've been married long enough for years of expectations and experiences to pile up.
Danielle opens up about wanting intimacy without every touch automatically becoming an expectation for sex, while Garrett breaks down the other side of the equation: how years of small sexual rejections can stack up for a husband until he becomes hesitant to initiate at all.
That leads them into a bigger question:
What if you just scheduled sex?
Inside this episode, Garrett and Danielle unpack:
Why intimacy and sex aren't always the same thing
How sexual pressure affects women inside marriage
How repeated rejection affects men
Why good sex is something couples actually learn together
The tension between safety, security, fantasy, and excitement
What happens when sex becomes predictable
Whether scheduled sex removes pressure or creates more of it
Why date night doesn't automatically equal sex
Keeping desire alive in a long-term marriage
Garrett and Danielle's own challenge to experiment with scheduling sex
This isn't a conversation about the "correct" amount of sex a married couple should be having.
It's about being willing to have the conversation in the first place.
Because after decades together, Garrett and Danielle are still discovering that assumptions about what the other person wants can create more distance than the actual problem.
And sometimes improving your marriage starts with being willing to say the uncomfortable thing out loud.
❤️ Take the Conversation Into Your Own Marriage
The Date Your Wife Experience is a live community where couples use the tools and strategies Garrett and Danielle have developed in their own marriage to create more honest conversations, stronger communication, deeper connection, and greater intimacy.
👉 Join us live: DateYourWife.com/live

If this conversation resonated with you, don't let it stop here.
The strongest marriages aren't built by accident—they're built intentionally.
The Date Your Wife Experience is a live event designed for couples who want to reconnect, communicate honestly, deepen intimacy, and create a marriage that continues to grow through every season of life.
Whether you're thriving or simply trying to find your way back to each other, this experience will give you practical tools and real conversations to strengthen your relationship.
👉 Reserve your spot today:
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Because great marriages don't happen by chance.
They happen on purpose.


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What happens when you're raising children, building a business, and trying to stay connected in your marriage?
In this episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast, Garrett and Danielle White explore the tension many entrepreneurial couples experience as work, parenting, and daily responsibilities begin to replace emotional connection.
Together they discuss:
Marriage and entrepreneurship
Parenting young children
Emotional intimacy
Feeling like roommates instead of spouses
Communication during stressful seasons
Balancing business and family
Reconnecting as a couple
Long-term relationship growth
This episode is an honest conversation about what it takes to intentionally protect your marriage while building a full life together.
Because spending time together isn't the same as truly connecting.

How often are you talking to your spouse…
…and how often are you talking to the version of them you created years ago?
In this episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast, Garrett and Danielle White unpack one of the biggest relationship traps couples fall into: living inside old stories instead of seeing the person standing in front of you today.
What begins as a conversation about one of Garrett's viral marriage carousels quickly becomes a deeper discussion about communication, emotional triggers, respect, family conditioning, long-term attraction, and why so many couples unknowingly sabotage connection.
Inside this episode:
Why couples stop truly seeing each other
The stories we carry from years of marriage
How family patterns shape relationship expectations
The difference between reacting and responding
Why emotional triggers create distance
Communication that builds trust instead of resentment
Long-term attraction after years together
Why date nights alone don't fix disconnection
Building a marriage based on today's reality—not yesterday's assumptions
One of the biggest takeaways:
You don't have a marriage problem.
You may have a story problem.
Because when you continue relating to an old version of your spouse, you stop experiencing the person they've become.
After more than 25 years together, Garrett and Danielle continue to share the conversations that most couples avoid—but desperately need.
If you're dating, engaged, married, or rebuilding your relationship, this episode will challenge the way you communicate and reconnect.

What slowly pulls two people apart in marriage?
It's usually not one catastrophic moment.
It's the small moments of disconnection that go unspoken.
In this episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast, Garrett and Danielle White explore the hidden emotional dynamics that shape long-term relationships, beginning with a candid conversation about Danielle's audiobook, God Is My Ghostwriter.
Together they discuss:
Emotional connection
Vulnerability
Honesty in marriage
Attraction and intimacy
Roommate relationships
Emotional leadership
Communication
Long-term relationship growth
Marriage after decades together
This episode offers an honest look at what it takes to continue choosing each other after 25 years of marriage.
Because healthy marriages aren't built on perfection.
They're built on truth.

After nearly a decade of running the Date Your Wife podcast, Garrett White (founder of Wake Up Warrior) and his wife Danielle launch something new: The Date Your Wife Experience, a live, faith-centered event for married couples.

 

In this inaugural episode, Garrett and Danielle get honest about the version of their marriage most people never saw — 23 years together, two rising companies, five kids, and a marriage that looked perfect on paper while they quietly lost connection with each other. They walk through the four stages every marriage moves through (Survival, Success, Performance, and Covenant) and the choice that changed everything: putting God back at the center of their relationship.

 

Listeners also hear unscripted, in-the-moment testimonials from couples in the Wake Up Warrior community — including Jake & Mackenzie, Dave & Angie, and Stephen & Laurie — on what actually shifted in their marriages.

 

This is not a coaching call and not a therapy session. It's an honest look at where your marriage really is, and an invitation to bring faith into the center of it.

 

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This is part one of a two-part series. The Date Your Wife Experience runs live and free every Thursday night at 6PM Eastern — bring your spouse, or come solo.
 
www.dateyourwife.com/live