Famous at Home

We've been asking our kids the wrong question since kindergarten. "What do you want to be when you grow up?" confuses identity with performance, and Josh argues we've been setting them up for anxiety and false selves ever since.

This episode reframes the whole parenting mission around the theme of Jesus's central message: the Kingdom of God. When kids understand their personal role in building for the kingdom of God, their identity stops depending on what they do, what they have, or what anyone thinks of them. It's a parenting paradigm shift that gives our kids a purpose bigger than anything the world has to offer.

We also announce the launch of a brand new parenting platform for raising emotionally healthy and spiritually mature kids called Raising Future Legends.

*Once again, thank you to Bernhardt Watches for sponsoring this episode. Click here and be sure to use the code FAMOUS at checkout for free shipping!
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Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
1:03 Life updates 
4:03 Identity and purpose for our kids 
7:40 What did Jesus mean by the kingdom of God? 
13:28 Who our children become and what it means for building for the kingdom of God 
17:50 An exciting announcement about Raising Future Legends 
24:07 An invitation into a new way of living and parenting

Show Notes:
Sign up for Raising Future Legends!
www.raisingfuturelegends.com
 
Reserve your seat for Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort beginning August 17, 2026: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/V75F6bY2
 
Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:
https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching
 
Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching
 
Follow Josh on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/joshua.straub
 
Follow Christi on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/christistraub
 
Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter
 
Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Thanks to our sponsor: Bernhardt Watches! Use the code FAMOUS at checkout for free shipping! 
https://www.bernhardtwatch.com/

After a break with family and a slower pace of life, Josh returns with some existential questions, one in particular that's been sitting heavy: Am I conforming to what everyone else around me is doing, or am I "appointing" my time well with the people who need me most?
 
Drawing from Isaiah 43, Psalm 90, and Viktor Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning, Josh walks through what it looks like to grieve the past well, release the assignments of old, and step fully into the season God has for your family right now.
 
He further unpacks how sweetening retrospect—or nostalgically living in the past—can breed depression, how anxiety about the future keeps us from the present, and why the mundane drive-time moments are shaping the hearts of your children more than you realize. A practical, honest reset if you're catching yourself distracted or not as intentional as you wish you might be.  

** Thank you to Bernhardt Watches for sponsoring this episode! Click here and be sure to use the code FAMOUS at checkout for free shipping! 
https://www.bernhardtwatch.com/
 
Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
1:05 A podcast and Straub family update
4:00 What we learned being out of the country and the lessons it’s teaching me
8:45 Upcoming Famous at Home cohorts
10:20 The existential questions about what matters and why we make the decisions we do
15:03 How the nostalgia of the past keeps us from moving into a new season with our kids
21:20 Practicing the presence of the moment without your mind racing
23:40 “Appointing” versus conforming
30:42 How God builds our faith now to prepare us for what He’s preparing for us in the next, new season
34:12 Stepping into the “new season” for your marriage
37:15 Practical ways to “appoint our days” and be present in the moment with our kids
41:00 Number 1 regret of the dying

Show Notes:
Reserve your seat for Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort beginning August 17, 2026: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/V75F6bY2

Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:
https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching

Sign up for the Your Family Purpose online video series to build emotional safety and set your family values
https://www.famousathome.com/your-family-purpose

Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching

Follow Josh on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/joshua.straub

Follow Christi on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/christistraub

Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter

Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

** Grab your Bernhardt Watch: http://bernhardtwatch.com/
Use code FAMOUS at checkout for FREE shipping

Have you ever had a conversation with a loved one go in a completely different direction than what you saw coming? Your intention was there, but the way your loved one received it was nothing in the way you intended it? 
 
Our good friend, Jason VanRuler, started to see this pattern in many of the people he had come into therapy. Conversations between people -- where everything was at stake -- and the intentions were there, but someone inevitably walked away feeling hurt, unseen, or even abandoning the relationship altogether. What one person meant isn’t what the other person heard.
 
So Jason asked himself, “Why does it sometimes land well, and other times not?”

The more research he did, the more he learned predictable patterns that led to 5 primary communication types: Peace, Advocate, Thinking, Harbor, and Spark. Each one with a strength and each one with an opportunity. Not only that, each person has their own primary and secondary type.

In this episode, Jason unveils each type, how we develop our own, and how we can better understand how our spouse, kids, and loved ones communicate with us. We get into marital dynamics and why we usually marry someone with similar secondary type, but the trouble that can arise when we realize we don’t have the same primary one. We also talk about how knowing the types can help us communicate at a deeper level with our kids. 

Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
1:18 Jason VanRuler joins the show!
4:34 Why these communication types matters
6:00 Jason introduces the 5 PATHS of communication
11:16 Where our personal communication style comes from
14:05 Strengths and weaknesses of each communication type
20:20 The communication types in our children and how we give what we didn’t get
25:05 How different communication types serve us in marriage
 
Show Notes:
Get Jason’s new book Discovering Your Communication Type: The 5 Paths to Deeper Connections and Stronger Relationships: https://amzn.to/4sZzbwc

Check out Jason’s website: www.jasonvr.com

Reserve your seat for Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort beginning August 17, 2026: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/V75F6bY2

Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching
 
Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:
https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching
 
Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter
 
Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Quick note: We announced the Tender and Fierce fall cohort. See show notes below.

What’s the first question we ask our kids in kindergarten? “What do you want to BE when you grow up?” We do our children a disservice by asking this question because the very nature of the phrase implies that what you DO is who you are.
 
What about for ourselves as adults? What does it means to live in “fullness of life,” even when our circumstances might not match our heart’s desire? Perhaps Teresa of Avila held a clue to this mystery when she said, “God is among the pots and the pans.”
 
In this episode, Josh and Christi define what we mean by the word “purpose” and also identify other flaws of our modern cultural understanding of purpose and how it influences how we shepherd the hearts of our kids. One question to consider, “Is our understanding of purpose, especially when raising our children, filtered through a biblical lens?” In other words, who is God calling our children to “become?”

Josh and Christi also discuss Christi’s own “mid-life” crisis, the many layers of purpose, what the Bible tells us about meaning, and how we squelch our children’s desire for purpose even in early childhood.
 
Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
1:40 Welcome to our own mid-life crisis
4:40 Tender & Fierce fall cohort announcement!
5:40 Christi’s mid-life crisis and rethinking what “purpose” really is
13:00 The layers of purpose and helping our children find theirs
20:00 Ecclesiastes and the discovery of meaning
23:20 Finding “fullness of life” no matter your life circumstances or current occupation / role
29:07 What keeps us from living in purpose
33:00 What multiplication and expansion of our purpose actually means
 
Show Notes: 
Reserve your seat for Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort beginning August 17, 2026: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/V75F6bY2

Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching

Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:
https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching

Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter

Download the Famous at Home app from Apple, click here. 
https://apps.apple.com/us/app/famous-at-home/id6502221394

Download the Famous at Home app from Google Play, click here. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kj2147486660.app2&hl=en_US

Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

We all want our kids to be confident, resourceful, and to know what they’re good at. The trouble is that we make two big mistakes as parents: We either don’t give them enough challenge, or we burn them out with too much.
 
Do your kids know that they have what it takes to overcome struggle?
Do they feel confident in knowing what to do when it comes to life skills and everyday tasks like cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, or taking care of animals?
Do they know what they’re good at and have a healthy sense of what to do with things they’re not good at?
 
We call this resourcefulness, and it’s one of the most important traits to cultivate in our kids.

What is resourcefulness?
How do we offer a healthy dose of both support and challenge to help our kids build resilience?
What do you do when you see things in your kids they don’t see in themselves?
 
These are the questions we tackle in this episode.
 
Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
1:24 What resourcefulness is and the two extremes we tend to take as parents
7:40 The good and hard of giving children responsibility
12:03 Giving kids support while offering challenge
19:38 How to know if you’ve over-supported or over-challenged
24:15 When you see things in your kids they don’t see in themselves
30:00 When you push beyond what you think you’re capable of 

Show Notes:

Get 10 Days of the Easter Story: A Family Experience Through the Feelings of Holy Week
https://amzn.to/4lpPGQf
 
Join our KidsRQ Community: www.kidsrq.com
 
Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching
 
Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:
https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching
 
Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter
 
Download the Famous at Home app from Apple, click here. 
https://apps.apple.com/us/app/famous-at-home/id6502221394
 
Download the Famous at Home app from Google Play, click here. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kj2147486660.app2&hl=en_US
 
Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome