Marriage rates have fallen dramatically since the 1970s. Yet far
from devaluing marriage, people still overwhelmingly describe marriage
as the highest commitment they can imagine. Most Americans say they want
to marry eventually, and couples who do marry have a lower chance of
divorce than at any time since the 1970s. Increasingly, though, people
tell pollsters they “have no idea” if they actually will end up married. And unlike in the past, young women are more uncertain than young men.
In For Better and Worse: The Complicated Past and Challenging Future of Marriage (Viking, 2026), Stephanie Coontz—author of the “rich, provocative, and entertaining” book Marriage, A History—unravels the roots of such paradoxical trends. Examining five critical periods of historical transformation, she reveals how shifting romantic ideals, gender expectations, sexual mores, and cultural myths have bequeathed us a welter of contradictory beliefs, dysfunctional habits, and emotional earworms that make it hard to adjust our family relationships to the social and economic challenges of twenty-first-century life.
Coontz
demonstrates that today’s widespread nostalgia for a seemingly more
stable past is an understandable reaction to heightened economic
insecurity and eroding social solidarities. But trying to reproduce a
largely imaginary golden age of marriage from the past simply locks us
into a restricted future.
Current public debates about marriage
are dominated by two diametrically opposed groups. One argues that
marriage is the only sure route to personal happiness and social
stability; the other, that marriage is inherently oppressive. Coontz
puts forward a radical middle ground, pointing to surprising new
research on the personal changes and the policy innovations that can
help people create successful relationships, in or out of marriage.
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