Shameless Sex

What happens when we stop accepting the stories we’ve been taught about sex, gender, bodies, desire, and pleasure—and start questioning who those stories actually serve?

In this episode, we’re joined by Ericka Hart, M.Ed. (she/they), a trauma-informed, consent- and pleasure-based sex educator who has spent the past 15 years teaching comprehensive sex education at the elementary, high school, undergraduate, and graduate levels. Ericka is the founder of Sex Ed as Resistance, author of Nasty Work: Resist Systems, Explore Desire and Liberate Yourself, and co-host, alongside her partner Ebony, of the critically acclaimed podcast Hoodrat to Headwrap.

Ericka’s work challenges us to think differently about sexuality—not simply as something we learn about, but as something deeply connected to power, culture, history, identity, and liberation.

Together, we explore how traditional sex education has failed to give many of us the tools to understand our bodies and desires, and how societal and colonial ideas about sex and gender continue to shape who is allowed to experience pleasure. We unpack the history of consent and what it means to define consent beyond a simple “yes” or “no,” particularly when it comes to access, agency, and pleasure.

We also talk about reclaiming desire on our own terms, body positivity and the people left out of mainstream beauty and sex-appeal standards, and practical ways we can begin to challenge the messages we’ve internalized about our bodies.

This is a conversation about unlearning, resisting, exploring, and imagining something better—a world where sexuality education isn't about shame or fear, but about agency, pleasure, consent, and liberation.

In this episode, we explore:• Why “education meets agitation” is at the heart of Ericka’s work• Rethinking traditional sex education through Nasty Work• The impact of societal and colonial views on sex, gender, and pleasure• Consent, its history, and its relationship to access and agency• How to reclaim desire on your own terms• Body positivity, beauty standards, and who gets left out• Tools for reconnecting with your body and pleasure• What a radically different future for sexuality could look like• Ericka’s work, Sex Ed as Resistance, and Nasty Work

Learn more about Ericka and her work at ihartericka.com.

Get Ericka’s book: Nasty Work: Resist Systems, Explore Desire and Liberate Yourself

Learn more about Sex Ed as Resistance and Ericka’s offerings: Ericka Hart’s website

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Happy Anal August! Anal sex is one of the most talked-about—and most misunderstood—sexual experiences. Some people absolutely love it, while for others it's a firm no. So what makes the difference? Is it preference, preparation, anatomy, or simply misinformation?

In this episode, we're joined by Alex Hall, co-founder and host of The Bottom's Digest, sexual health educator, and body autonomy advocate, to answer the questions people are often too embarrassed to ask.

We explore why anal sex feels pleasurable for some people, why it isn't for everyone, and how to approach it in a way that prioritizes comfort, communication, and consent. Alex shares practical advice for anyone who is curious about trying anal for the first time, including how to prepare physically and mentally for a more enjoyable experience.

No conversation about anal would be complete without talking about poop. We tackle the realities of digestive health, whether you should eat before anal sex, why diet and fiber can make such a difference, and simple preparation strategies that can help you feel more confident.

We also clear up the confusion around douching versus enemas, discussing when they may or may not be necessary and sharing safe, practical tips for anyone who chooses to douche.

Finally, Alex answers some of the most common questions listeners have: What should recovery look like afterward? Will your body "go back to normal?" How can you make longer sessions more comfortable? And is anal sex possible with larger partners?

Whether you're completely new to anal sex, looking to improve your experiences, or simply curious to learn more, this episode offers evidence-based information, practical guidance, and plenty of myth-busting—all with a judgment-free approach that centers pleasure, safety, and body autonomy.

About Alex Hall

Alex Hall is the co-founder and host of The Bottom's Digest, a platform dedicated to teaching people how to bottom safely while prioritizing pleasure from the mouth to the bum. He is a sexual health educator, butt and gut recipe developer, body autonomy activist, and proud husband to a fellow Scorpio. Born in Louisiana and raised in Houston, Texas, Alex draws on his Southern roots to make inclusive, approachable sex education accessible to everyone, regardless of their background or what they enjoy in the bedroom.

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This bonus episode was recorded during a fabulous female-led (meaning women make the first move) hedonism meets glamour cruise in the gorgeous Mediterranean put on by Killing Kittens. For six days and nights Amy and her parter taught workshops such as How to Pamper Your Partner, Oral Sex 101, Dirty Talk Murder Mystery, and more - all while visiting stunning locations such as Mallorca, Monte Carlo, Florence and Portofino.

This episode includes an interview with an adventurous couple who share their experiences on their first sexy cruise. From explorations in the dungeon to working with a professional Domme to making new friends, this episode gives you a sneak peak into what really goes on behind the scenes on a female-led hedonistic cruise - Killing Kittens Style.

To learn more about Killing Kittens and their upcoming offerings (they have a number of cruises coming up in 2027 including another Mediterranean voyage - only this time it goes to Croatia!):

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See you on the next cruise!

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Why are some people so against eating pussy? In this episode, we dive into the conversation happening around masculinity, pleasure, and what’s really behind people’s attitudes toward giving and receiving oral sex.

Amy and Shaun Galanos, love coach, The Love Drive podcast host, and writer, explore the “ROI” of being a generous, attentive lover — and why learning how to create pleasure can transform confidence, intimacy, and connection. Because great sex isn’t just about technique; it starts with how you show up, your willingness to communicate, and your ability to stay curious about your partner’s experience.

Shaun shares his journey of learning to love giving oral sex, while Amy opens up about her own journey of learning to love receiving it. Together, they unpack why some people don’t enjoy oral sex, what barriers might be getting in the way, and how we can approach pleasure with more openness and less pressure.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why energy, presence, and emotional connection matter before any technique

A beginner-friendly anatomy lesson to better understand vulvar pleasure

Practical tips from both the giver and receiver perspectives

How to communicate your desires without shame or awkwardness

What to do when you want more oral sex from your partner

How to navigate situations where one partner isn’t interested

How to ask for changes in technique — like more pressure, less pressure, different pacing, or more variety — while keeping intimacy at the center

Shaun Galanos brings over a decade of experience helping people have more honest, playful conversations about sex, love, and dating. Through coaching, storytelling, and his work around emotional courage and modern masculinity, Shaun helps people embrace vulnerability, communicate their desires, and create deeper connections. Learn more about Shaun and listen to his fantastic podcast The Love Drive here: https://pod.link/1355859570

Check out his Substack: https://shaungalanos.substack.com

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If you're curious about kink and BDSM but aren't sure where to begin, this episode is for you. Returning guest Ashley Randall (Irreverent Femme), a certified Sex, Intimacy, and Kink Coach and professional Dominatrix, joins us to explore what healthy, consensual kink really looks like—and why it can be a powerful path to deeper intimacy, trust, emotional connection, and personal healing.

Together, we unpack common myths about BDSM, discuss how to move beyond shame and stigma, and share practical advice for anyone interested in exploring kink safely and confidently. Whether you're completely new to BDSM or looking to deepen your understanding, this conversation offers an approachable, judgment-free introduction to building more authentic and connected relationships.

In this episode, we discuss:

Kink and BDSM for beginners

How to get started with BDSM safely

The foundations of consent, communication, and trust

What it really means to be dominant or submissive

Creating emotionally connected and deeply satisfying play

Removing shame and stigma around kink and alternative relationship dynamics

Practical tips for safe, sexy, and fulfilling exploration

Various popular kinks such as cuckolding and spanking

Ashley Randall, also known as Irreverent Femme, is a certified Sex, Intimacy, and Kink Coach and Dominatrix based in Los Angeles. Through her practice, Irreverent Love, she helps individuals and couples build confidence, deepen intimacy, and embrace the parts of themselves they've been taught to hide. Ashley is especially passionate about helping clients release shame around sexuality, BDSM, kink, and non-traditional relationship structures while creating richer relationships, stronger emotional connection, and more fulfilling sex lives.

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