Don't Depend On Daddy

My fall State of the Union and seasonal curriculum episode is here, and this one's a big one!! I'm breaking down what's in and out (for me) this fall, plus my full curriculum: what I'm learning, reading, and focusing on this season.In this episode, I'm covering:👉🏻 Why I'm cutting fall overconsumption and not buying any new fall decor, mugs, or candles this year👉🏻 Why I'm not treating the last four months of 2026 as an all-out sprint (and why the "September is the new year" trend doesn't make sense to me)👉🏻 My fall curriculum: learning estate planning, my ceramics obsession, and why I finally stopped putting off meaningful home upgrades👉🏻 My solo trip to cooking school in Ireland (!!) and why I'm using it as my big solo date this seasonThis episode is a hybrid of my seasonal ins and outs and my personal curriculum framework, so if you want to build your own version of this, I'm walking through exactly how I structure mine.Referenced in this episode:👉🏻 How to Stop Scrolling and Start Learning (Original Personal Curriculum Framework) — https://youtu.be/H-tVUVeC4so👉🏻 My Summer 2026 State of the Union | Ins, Outs, and Making the Most of Summer (with no pressure) — https://youtu.be/VyV9bh6QOKM👉🏻 How I Stick to My Routines While Traveling for the Holidays (My Travel Menu) — https://youtu.be/MGaesmsJPugGET THE NEW PRODUCTIVITY PLANNER!👉🏻 https://breakyourbudget.com/productivity-plannerSubscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 TOOLS I USE:💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you're already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026📚 MY BOOKS:💸 Own Your Money:https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money 💸 Own Your Career:https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-book All Other Resources:https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: michela@breakyourbudget.com📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Why I'm a true summer girl but still excited for fall this year04:00 — What a State of the Union and curriculum episode actually is, and why I stopped doing them monthly07:00 — My first out: fall overconsumption, and why I'm not buying any new fall decor, mugs, or candles11:00 — My second out: why I'm narrowing what I consume instead of gathering endless inspiration I never act on14:00 — My third out: why I'm not letting my Ireland trip wreck my routine this time17:00 — My fourth out: why I don't understand the "September is the new year" mentality/trend20:00 — My fifth out: why I stopped putting off meaningful home upgrades to save money28:00 — Why I'm dedicating this fall to learning estate planning ahead of becoming an aunt37:00 — My ceramics obsession and the specific skills I'm working to master this fall45:00 — Why my solo trip to cooking school in Ireland is my big fall solo date

I don't think nighttime routines get enough credit for how much they set up your entire next day! So for this episode, I'm breaking down my full nighttime routine and why I think most of the work for having a better morning actually happens the night before, not when your alarm goes off.

What I'm covering:
👉🏻 Why most of the work for a good morning (and day) actually happens the night before
👉🏻 My full evening wind-down routine, from shutting down work to getting into bed
👉🏻 The shutdown routine that closes out my workday (and why it matters even more if you work from home)
👉🏻 How to plan your bedtime backwards from your wake-up time so mornings actually feel doable

None of this requires a 20-step candlelit self-care production (although, that's great, too!!) It's just a nighttime routine built around reducing friction so tomorrow feels easier before it even starts. :)

Referenced in this episode:
👉🏻 Ep. 166: The Cleaning System That Keeps My Apartment Spotless in 24/7 Without Constant Resets — https://youtu.be/UTAW61va4Kc
👉🏻 Deep Work by Cal Newport — https://go.shopmy.us/p-85026186

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Subscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:
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Personal Finance Starter Kit:
https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kit

BREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:
💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:
https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard
💸 Basic Budgeting Template:
https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template
💸 FI/RE Template:
https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template
💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:
https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator

💳 TOOLS I USE:
💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you're already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH
💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2
💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026

📚 MY BOOKS:
💸 Own Your Money:
https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money
💸 Own Your Career:
https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-book

All Other Resources:
https://breakyourbudget.com/links

👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: michela@breakyourbudget.com
📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/
📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa
📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget
💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaallocca

TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 — Why the morning routine conversation is happening at the wrong time of day
02:00 — Why I treat my entire evening as "the routine," not just the 30 minutes before bed
07:00 — The tea test: why a calming habit at 9:30 won't fix a brain that's been activated until 9:28
09:00 — Why I brick my phone every single night (and on weekends!!)
15:00 — Why you have to go to bed earlier if you want to wake up earlier, periodt
16:00 — How I plan my bedtime backwards from my wake-up time
21:00 — My shutdown routine and the Deep Work concept that changed how I close out my workday
27:00 — My "closing shift" (why I can't relax until the kitchen is fully reset)
29:00 — The skincare and red light routine that signals to my brain the day is actually over
35:00 — How to build your own version of this without copying my exact schedule

Nobody taught you these 4 life skills, and that's not on you. It's crazy to me that you can go to school for 18+ years and still have no idea how to feed yourself, read a pay stub, or have an uncomfortable conversation without spiraling. So, today I'm breaking down those 4 life skills, realistically, so you can stop feeling like you're faking your way through "adulting."

Topics covered:
👉🏻 How to actually feed yourself (without needing to be crazy good at cooking) and the 3-2-1 grocery method
👉🏻 The financial basics everyone needs & why tracking your expenses is non-negotiable
👉🏻 How to communicate clearly - saying what you mean the first time, addressing problems before they blow up, and knowing how to apologize!!
👉🏻 Managing the life admin nobody warns you about - and why your brain is not supposed to be your filing system

Referenced in this episode:
👉🏻 How to Be More Confident Spending Time Alone | 5 Things That Changed How I Think About Loneliness — https://youtu.be/jSORRO2r-4w
👉🏻 134. My Food Philosophy: How My Approach to Eating has Evolved, Grocery Budgets, & Eating Healthy — https://youtu.be/GgFW41OXxHo
👉🏻 The Cleaning System That Keeps My Apartment Spotless in 24/7 Without Constant Resets — https://youtu.be/UTAW61va4Kc
👉🏻 My book, Own Your Money — https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money
👉🏻 What’s in My Wallet 2025: Credit Cards That Actually Pay Me Back + How to Choose the Right One — https://youtu.be/NJRxeBiYuNA
👉🏻 How to Start Managing Your Money | 6 Steps for Complete Beginners — https://youtu.be/fIykr3rksA4
👉🏻 161. How to Plan Your Week So You Don’t Feel Overwhelmed | My 60 Minute Sunday System — https://youtu.be/QEcDDxqLW0g
👉🏻 146. How to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed by Everyday Life | Manage "Life Admin" & Reduce the Mental Load — https://youtu.be/1KoD6wFB7G0

GET THE NEW PRODUCTIVITY PLANNER!
👉🏻 https://breakyourbudget.com/productivity-planner

Subscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:
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Personal Finance Starter Kit:
https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kit

BREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:
💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:
https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard
💸 Basic Budgeting Template:
https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template
💸 FI/RE Template:
https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template
💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:
https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator

💳 TOOLS I USE:
💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you're already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH
💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2
💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026

📚 MY BOOKS:
💸 Own Your Money:
https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money
💸 Own Your Career:
https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-book

All Other Resources:
https://breakyourbudget.com/links

👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: michela@breakyourbudget.com
📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/
📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa
📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget
💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaallocca

TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 — Why school teaches you the Pythagorean theorem but not how to read a pay stub
09:41 — The 4 life skills I think actually matter
13:34 — My actual default meals and why you need 5-10 of your own
17:22 — The 3-2-1 grocery method that I swear by
27:28 — Why a credit card is not free money, and the minimum payment is not what you should be paying
29:31 — The 4 financial accounts I think every single person needs
36:39 — The communication skill that will change every relationship in your life
40:41 — Why I used to take all feedback personally and how I learned to separate criticism from someone just being an asshole
42:53 — How to ACTUALLY apologize
50:41 — Why I use recurring reminders for everything

Getting older comes with a lot of gifts, and one of the best ones is realizing just how many things you used to stress about that genuinely don't matter anymore. This episode is a direct follow-up to last week's on confidence and being alone, and it's a little different than usual...no script, no notes, just me riffing on the 15 things I've intentionally stopped caring about that have made my life SO much happier.

Topics covered:
👉🏻 The cardinal rule I now have about whose opinions are even allowed in my head
👉🏻 Why I stopped fearing being single, and what actually changed my mind
👉🏻 Why hustle culture and looking busy stopped being things I care about at all
👉🏻 Why quality over quantity applies to friendships just as much as everything else
👉🏻 Why I let go of having the "perfect" routine and what I built instead

Referenced in this episode:
👉🏻 Episode 175, How to Be More Confident Being Alone — https://youtu.be/jSORRO2r-4w
👉🏻 My book, Own Your Career — https://go.shopmy.us/p-47074262
👉🏻 Episode 172, Your Job is Not Your Identity — https://youtu.be/gDqWkytF77o

GET THE NEW PRODUCTIVITY PLANNER!
👉🏻 https://breakyourbudget.com/productivity-planner

Subscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:
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Personal Finance Starter Kit:
https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kit

BREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:
💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:
https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard
💸 Basic Budgeting Template:
https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template
💸 FI/RE Template:
https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template
💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:
https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator

💳 TOOLS I USE:
💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you're already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH
💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2
💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026

📚 MY BOOKS:
💸 Own Your Money:
https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money
💸 Own Your Career:
https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-book

All Other Resources:
https://breakyourbudget.com/links

👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: michela@breakyourbudget.com
📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/
📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa
📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget
💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaallocca

TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 — Why realizing what doesn't matter is one of the best parts of getting older
04:00 — Why I stopped caring what anyone else thinks of me
08:00 — Why I stopped caring about being single
13:00 — Why turning 30 isn't the deadline everyone thinks it is
15:00 — Why I no longer care about looking busy
18:00 — Why I'd rather have a few close friends than a big friend group
27:00 — The "art of doing nothing" and how I'm optimizing for joy over productivity
32:00 — Why I let go of having the "perfect" routine
34:00 — Why I stopped buying into hustle culture
40:00 — Why I stopped trying to make my life look impressive to other people

If you've ever felt like a loser for not having Friday night plans or like a "weirdo" for spending too much time alone...this episode is for you. I'll walk through my story first, including the impulsive cross-country move that made my loneliness worse instead of better (IYKYK), and then break down the 5 things that made me feel more confident in being alone and how you can apply them to your life too.

Topics covered:
👉🏻 Why moving into my first solo apartment in 2023 sent me into a spiral
👉🏻 The real reason I moved from LA to Chicago, and why it backfired completely
👉🏻 Why you have to stop waiting for your life to start
👉🏻 How to build a life you're actually excited to participate in
👉🏻 Why you need to stop living your life through somebody else's eyes
👉🏻 The difference between loneliness and solitude

Referenced in this episode:
👉🏻 153: How to Make Friends as an Adult — https://youtu.be/H2FA7uTSL1w
👉🏻 110: Living Alone Without Feeling Lonely | How to Build Confidence by Doing Things Alone — https://youtu.be/0rmaioROGcI

GET THE NEW PRODUCTIVITY PLANNER!
👉🏻 https://breakyourbudget.com/productivity-planner

Subscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:
https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/
Personal Finance Starter Kit:
https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kit

BREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:
💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:
https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard
💸 Basic Budgeting Template:
https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template
💸 FI/RE Template:
https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template
💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:
https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator

💳 TOOLS I USE:
💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you're already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH
💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2
💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026

📚 MY BOOKS:
💸 Own Your Money:
https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money
💸 Own Your Career:
https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-book

All Other Resources:
https://breakyourbudget.com/links

👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: michela@breakyourbudget.com
📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/
📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa
📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget
💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaallocca

TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 — The skill I've spent the last 3–4 years building: actually enjoying being alone
06:00 — Moving into my first solo apartment at 28 hit me like a brick
12:00 — The 2 real reasons I was lonely, and neither one was about my surroundings
15:00 — Why Chicago ended up being the loneliest period of my entire life
22:00 — Why you have to stop waiting for your life to start
26:00 — Building a life you're actually excited to participate in & the hobbies I picked up
35:00 — How I stopped living my life for an imaginary audience
37:00 — Why you have to intentionally build community
44:00 — The distinction that reframed everything: solitude vs. loneliness
47:00 — Why I call solitude a superpower, and why that doesn't mean I don't want connection