Menopause Mastery

Menopause Mastery | The Grief No One Talks About: Menopause, Caregiving & the Weight We Carry | Ep. 296 solocast 
 
🌿Welcome to The Menopause Mastery Show!
What happens when you're the one everyone depends on—but you never get a chance to stop and feel what you're carrying? ❤️‍🩹
In this deeply personal episode of Menopause Mastery, Dr. Betty Murray talks about the grief that can surface in midlife: losing parents, caring for aging family members, losing a beloved pet, and mourning the dreams and parts of ourselves we had to put aside. This is the side of menopause and midlife that doesn't show up on a hormone panel—but it can profoundly affect how we feel, function, and move through everyday life.
Dr. Murray shares her experience navigating her father's death, her mother's catastrophic stroke and nearly three years of caregiving, and the sudden loss of her dog, Bradley. She also explores disenfranchised grief, the emotional burden of the sandwich generation, and why grief doesn't necessarily disappear when we stay busy. Sometimes it simply changes shape.
If you're caring for a parent, managing a household, building a career, navigating perimenopause or menopause, or quietly carrying a loss you haven't had time to process, this episode is a reminder: you don't have to wait for life to calm down before giving yourself permission to grieve. 🌱
00:00 — Why I'm Talking About Grief Today
The original recording was lost, and the conversation returned at a time when grief was still very raw.
00:43 — Losing Bradley: When Grief Makes You Go Still
A sudden loss and the unexpected physical and emotional response that followed.
001:51 — The Grief of Losing a Parent
How the death of Dr. Betty Murray's father—and later her mother—changed her understanding of grief.
02:11 — The Part of Midlife No Hormone Panel Can Measure
Caregiving, emotional weight, and why women often don't allow themselves to feel unwell.
04:06 — A Complicated Relationship With My Mom
The complexity of grief when a parent-child relationship isn't simple.
05:06 — From Daughter to Caregiver Overnight
The dramatic shift that followed her mother's heart attack and stroke.
05:56 — The Invisible Work of Caregiving
Medical decisions, financial responsibilities, paperwork, business, patients, and finishing a PhD—all at once.
06:28 — Grieving Before Someone Is Gone
How dementia and prolonged decline can create a form of grief long before death.
07:13 — The Sandwich Generation by the Numbers
The scale of caregiving in the U.S. and the disproportionate burden carried by women.
08:32 — The Mental Load Is More Than Time
Insurance, medications, phone calls, guilt, burnout, and the emotional responsibility of caregiving.
09:00 — Menopause + Caregiving + Everything Else
Why the combination creates such a complex load for women in midlife.
10:17 — Why Losing a Pet Can Hurt So Much
Why Bradley's death felt enormous—and why there was an instinct to minimize that grief.
10:40 — What Is Disenfranchised Grief?
The experience of grieving a loss that society may not recognize as legitimate.
12:05 — What the Research Says About Pet Loss
Research examining the intensity of grief following the loss of a pet.
13:14 — When the Clinical Framework Doesn't Match the Human Experience
Why pet loss can be profoundly distressing even when traditional diagnostic frameworks don't recognize it in the same way.
14:24 — Your Nervous System Didn't Get the Memo
A powerful reminder that grief doesn't become smaller just because someone tells you it should.
14:49 — Grieving Someone Who Is Still Alive
The unique grief that can accompany dementia, decline, and watching someone change.
15:14 — The Dreams We Bury Along the Way
Career goals, personal dreams, and other parts of life women may put aside while managing family responsibilities.
16:52 — The Grief That Never Gets a Funeral
Why unfulfilled dreams and postponed parts of ourselves can resurface later.
17:16 — We Don't Skip Grief Because We Don't Feel It
"We skip it because we don't have a slot for it."
18:00 — There Is Never a Convenient Time to Fall Apart
The endless demands that make women postpone their own emotional needs.
18:34 — When Grief Changes Shape
How unresolved grief can show up as exhaustion, irritability, emotional reactions, and feeling disconnected.
19:38 — I Don't Have This Mastered Either
Choosing to name grief instead of simply narrating it privately.
20:24 — Scheduling Time to Fall Apart
How slowing down and intentionally creating space helped make room for grief.
21:30 — Stop Treating Grief Like a Problem to Solve
Accepting that grief is nonlinear and can return years later.
21:52 — Functioning Is Not the Same as Being Fine
You can run a business, love your family, and still be actively grieving.
22:35 — Don't Wait for Life to Calm Down
Why permission to feel has to be something you give yourself.
23:24 — The Weight Deserves to Be Named
A reminder that the burden women carry in midlife can be extraordinary.
24:22 — You Are Not Alone
A final message for women in the middle of their own sandwich generation experience.
24:41 — Until Next Week on Menopause Mastery
Closing thoughts and a return to the show's usual science and menopause content.
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📌 Connect with Dr. Betty Murray: 
Website: https://www.drbettymurray.com/ 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbettymurray/
✅ Let us know what you think! Like, comment, and subscribe on YouTube:
 @drbettymurray 
🔗 Links:
🔹The Fierce Female Method for Longevity (Dr. Betty's book): https://fierce.hormoneshelp.com/
🔹Menrva Telemedicine: https://gethormonesnow.com/
🔹Living Well Dallas: https://www.livingwelldallas.com/
🎙️ More from the Podcast: Subscribe to #MenopauseMastery → https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwONPdSvb2-YYY74VhD-XBw Apple Podcasts → https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/menopause-mastery/id1607369247 Spotify → https://open.spotify.com/show/0tNsjm32CZNXSgSFEwS3uH
 
✨ Thank you for listening to Menopause Mastery. Empowering your health journey, one episode at a time.
 
#menopausemastery #menopausepodcast #drbettymurray #menopause #perimenopause #postmenopause #womenshealth #midlifehealth #grief #sandwichgeneration #caregiving

The Menopause Mastery Show | Your Gut Is Talking to Your Hormones: The Menopause Microbiome Connection  | Ep. 295 with Dr. Eddie Romo
 
🌿Welcome to The Menopause Mastery Show!
👉 What if your gut microbiome is influencing far more than digestion? In this episode of Menopause Mastery, Dr. Betty Murray sits down with microbiologist Dr. Eddie Romo, to explore the powerful connection between the gut microbiome, estrogen metabolism, menopause, inflammation, and brain health.
Dr. Romo explains why the microbiome should be viewed as an active metabolic ecosystem—not simply a collection of "good" and "bad" bacteria. They discuss the estrobolome, the role gut bacteria play in estrogen recycling, and why changes in estrogen during perimenopause and menopause can also change the microbiome.
The conversation also challenges the idea that probiotics are a universal solution. Dr. Romo explains why personalized, longitudinal microbiome testing may provide a much clearer picture than a single snapshot, and why factors like diet, sleep, exercise, stress, hormones, fiber, fermented foods, and polyphenols all matter.
They also explore the emerging relationship between the gut and Alzheimer's risk, systemic inflammation, the blood-brain barrier, hormone replacement therapy, and women's health—and discuss the future of more personalized microbiome and hormone testing.
☑️ Your gut microbiome is an active part of your biology—not a passive collection of bacteria. Supporting a healthy, diverse gut ecosystem may be an important piece of protecting hormonal balance, metabolic health, and brain function throughout menopause and beyond!
🔗 To connect with Dr. Romo:
https://www.instagram.com/dr.eddieromo
https://www.phbio.ai/ 
00:00:00 — Introduction: Menopause, Hormones & the Microbiome
00:01:27 — Dr. Eddie Romo's Journey Into Microbiology
00:03:27 — Your Microbiome Is More Than "Bacteria"
00:04:38 — The Gut-Brain Connection & Alzheimer's
00:06:40 — Alzheimer's Isn't Just a Disease of the Brain
00:08:07 — Why Brain Plaques May Not Tell the Whole Story
00:09:18 — Leaky Gut, Inflammation & Brain Health
00:10:28 — The Microbiome-Hormone Connection
00:12:14 — What Is the Estrobolome?
00:14:17 — Beta-Glucuronidase & Estrogen Recycling
00:15:27 — Why the Microbiome Changes During Menopause
00:18:03 — AI & The Future of Personalized Health
00:19:21 — Why Women's Health Research Matters
00:20:03 — Estrogen, Gut Lining & Microbial Diversity
00:22:18 — Inflammation Is Multifactorial
00:24:19 — Hormone Replacement Therapy & the Gut
00:26:42 — Could Hormone Therapy Affect Your Microbiome?
00:27:23 — Menopause, IBS & Digestive Symptoms
00:28:45 — Are Probiotics Overhyped?
00:30:42 — Why Your Microbiome Is Uniquely Yours
00:31:30 — Why Longitudinal Microbiome Testing Matters
00:32:18 — From Probiotics to Personalized Interventions
00:33:34 — Fiber, Fermented Foods & Polyphenols
00:35:01 — The Future of Microbiome Testing
00:36:39 — Your Microbiome Is Constantly Changing
00:37:29 — Toward Personalized Microbiome Recommendations
00:38:22 — Why Current Microbiome Testing Has Limitations
00:40:30 — Condition-Specific Microbiome Testing
00:42:05 — The Bigger Picture: Hormones + Gut + Systemic Health
00:43:18 — Where to Follow Dr. Romo & What's Coming Next
00:44:30 — What's Next for Menopause Mastery
00:45:10 — Closing & Listener Call to Action
📌 Connect with Dr. Betty Murray: 
Website: https://www.drbettymurray.com/ 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbettymurray/
✅ Let us know what you think! Like, comment, and subscribe on YouTube:
 @drbettymurray 
🔗 Links:
🔹The Fierce Female Method for Longevity (Dr. Betty's book):
https://fierce.hormoneshelp.com/
🔹Menrva Telemedicine: https://gethormonesnow.com/
🔹Living Well Dallas: https://www.livingwelldallas.com/
🎙️ More from the Podcast: Subscribe to #MenopauseMastery → https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwONPdSvb2-YYY74VhD-XBw Apple Podcasts → https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/menopause-mastery/id1607369247 Spotify → https://open.spotify.com/show/0tNsjm32CZNXSgSFEwS3uH
 
Thank you for listening to Menopause Mastery. Empowering your health journey, one episode at a time.
 
#menopausemastery #menopausepodcast #drbettymurray #menopause #perimenopause #postmenopause #andropause #womenshealth #hormonehealth #guthealth #microbiome #midlifehealth

Menopause Mastery | I Changed My Mind About GLP-1s: What You Need to Know About Ozempic, HRT, and Longevity  | Ep. 294 solocast with Dr. Betty Murray
 
🌿Welcome to The Menopause Mastery Show!
👉 What if midlife weight gain isn't a failure of willpower—but a biological shift that requires a different strategy? 
In this episode of Menopause Mastery, Dr. Betty Murray is making a confession: She's changed my mind about GLP-1 medications. When medications like semaglutide and tirzepatide first exploded into mainstream culture, she was deeply skeptical—not because she doubted the underlying science, but because she was concerned about inappropriate prescribing, aggressive dosing, inadequate monitoring, and the lack of guidance around nutrition, protein, resistance training, and hormones.
Now, with more research and clinical experience available, the conversation has changed. We explore what GLP-1 medications may do beyond weight loss, including their relationship with inflammation, insulin sensitivity, cardiovascular health, and metabolic health—and why the midlife context matters.
We also dig into the potential role of combining GLP-1 therapy with hormone replacement therapy, the concerns around muscle loss and inadequate protein intake, why some clinicians are exploring lower-dose approaches, and what women should consider measuring before making decisions about metabolic health.
Most importantly, this episode is about precision rather than quick fixes. Your scale isn't the only measure of health. Muscle strength, body composition, bone density, metabolic markers, inflammation, hormones, and long-term health span all belong in the conversation.
Topics covered:
🔹 Why I changed my perspective on GLP-1 medications
🔹 What happens metabolically during perimenopause and menopause
🔹 GLP-1s and inflammation
🔹 GLP-1s, cardiovascular and kidney health
🔹 GLP-1s and hormone replacement therapy
🔹 Protein and resistance training during GLP-1 therapy
🔹 Concerns around muscle loss and aggressive dosing
🔹 Lower-dose and "microdosing" approaches
🔹 DEXA scans and metabolic testing
🔹 Building a muscle-centric approach to midlife health
🔹 Looking beyond the bathroom scale toward longevity and health span
As always, the goal of Menopause Mastery is to help you better understand the science, recognize where the evidence is strong or still emerging, and stay informed about the future of women's health. For more evidence-based conversations about perimenopause, menopause, hormones, brain health, sexual health, and the research shaping women's health, don't forget to subscribe!  ⁨@drbettymurray⁩  
00:00 — I changed my mind about GLP-1s
02:00 — The problem with the "Wild West" of GLP-1 prescribing
04:00 — What actually changes in your body during midlife
06:30 — GLP-1s are more than weight-loss drugs
09:00 — Inflammation, cardiovascular health, and kidney protection
11:00 — GLP-1s + HRT: Why the combination matters
14:00 — The problem with pushing doses higher
17:00 — What is "microdosing"?
20:00 — My own experience with GLP-1 medication
22:30 — A real-world midlife patient example
25:00 — Build the metabolic foundation first
28:00 — Muscle-centric medicine for midlife women
30:00 — Hormones, GLP-1s, and longevity
32:00 — Three questions to rethink your midlife health
33:15 — Final thoughts: Own your midlife mastery
📌 Connect with Dr. Betty Murray: 
Website: https://www.drbettymurray.com/ 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbettymurray/
✅ Let us know what you think! Like, comment, and subscribe on YouTube:  ⁨@drbettymurray⁩  
🔗 Links:
The Fierce Female Method for Longevity (Dr. Betty's book): https://fierce.hormoneshelp.com/
Menrva Telemedicine: https://gethormonesnow.com/
Living Well Dallas: https://www.livingwelldallas.com/
🎙️ More from the Podcast: Subscribe to #MenopauseMastery → https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwONPdSvb2-YYY74VhD-XBw Apple Podcasts → https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/menopause-mastery/id1607369247 Spotify → https://open.spotify.com/show/0tNsjm32CZNXSgSFEwS3uH
 
Thank you for listening to Menopause Mastery. Empowering your health journey, one episode at a time. 🌿
 
#menopausemastery #menopausepodcast #drbettymurray #menopause #perimenopause #postmenopause #andropause #womenshealth #menopauseresearch #midlifehealth #glp1

Menopause Mastery | 6 New Menopause Studies Every Woman Should Know About | Ep. 293 solocast with Dr. Betty Murray
 
🌿Welcome to The Menopause Mastery Show!
In this episode, Dr. Betty Murray takes a closer look at six recent studies exploring some of the biggest unanswered questions in perimenopause and menopause research.
From the surprising role of the postmenopausal ovary to the global factors associated with early menopause, new nonhormonal approaches to vaginal health, and the disconnect between what women experience and what gets documented in the doctor's office, these studies reveal just how much there is still to learn.
Dr. Betty also explores why so many women don't recognize that they're in perimenopause, why symptoms like brain fog, fatigue, mood changes, and memory issues may appear long before hot flashes, and what emerging research on CBD and cognitive function could mean for future study.
This episode covers:
* New research into immune activity in postmenopausal ovaries
* What a global study reveals about early menopause and socioeconomic factors
* A potential nonhormonal approach to vaginal tissue health
* The gap between menopause symptoms women discuss online and what clinicians document
* Why 1 in 3 women may be uncertain about their reproductive stage
* The neurological symptoms of perimenopause that may appear before hot flashes
* Emerging research on CBD, estrogen, memory, and the endocannabinoid system
* Why greater investment and attention in menopause research matters
This episode is not about chasing headlines or making clinical promises. It's about looking at the research, understanding its limitations, and asking better questions about where menopause science is heading.
🌿 As always, the goal of Menopause Mastery is to help you better understand the science, recognize where the evidence is strong or still emerging, and stay informed about the future of women's health. For more evidence-based conversations about perimenopause, menopause, hormones, brain health, sexual health, and the research shaping women's health, don't forget to subscribe!  @drbettymurray  
00:00 6 New Menopause Studies
03:12 Are Postmenopausal Ovaries Still Active?
09:57 Early Menopause & Global Health
14:01 A New Nonhormonal Vaginal Treatment?
17:21 What Doctors Miss About Menopause
22:09 Why 1 in 3 Women Don't Know They're in Perimenopause
24:33 CBD, Estrogen & Memory
30:09 Why Menopause Research Matters
30:54 The Future of Women's Health
📌 Connect with Dr. Betty Murray: 
Website: https://www.drbettymurray.com/ 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbettymurray/
✅ Let us know what you think! Like, comment, and subscribe on YouTube:  @drbettymurray  
🔗 Links:
The Fierce Female Method for Longevity (Dr. Betty's book): https://fierce.hormoneshelp.com/
Menrva Telemedicine: https://gethormonesnow.com/
Living Well Dallas: https://www.livingwelldallas.com/
🎙️ More from the Podcast: Subscribe to #MenopauseMastery → https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwONPdSvb2-YYY74VhD-XBw Apple Podcasts → https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/menopause-mastery/id1607369247 Spotify → https://open.spotify.com/show/0tNsjm32CZNXSgSFEwS3uH
 
✨ Thank you for listening to Menopause Mastery. Empowering your health journey, one episode at a time.
 
#menopausemastery #menopausepodcast #drbettymurray #menopause #perimenopause #postmenopause #andropause #womenshealth #menopauseresearch #midlifehealth

Menopause Mastery | Menopause and Genetics: Why Your DNA Test Might Be Missing the Real Story | Ep. 292 with Dr. Tracey Steady-Hardcastle 
🌿Welcome to The Menopause Mastery Show!
In this episode, Dr. Betty Murray talks with Dr. Tracey Steady-Hardcastle of The DNA Company about how functional genomics can help women better understand the changes happening in perimenopause and menopause.
They dig into why many common DNA tests feel overwhelming or too narrow, and why a polygenic approach can give a more useful picture of how genes work together. The conversation also covers estrogen detoxification myths, MTHFR, cardiovascular risk, mood, exercise recovery, and how genetics can support more personalized decisions around diet, lifestyle, nutrition, and supplementation.
In this episode, you'll learn:
🔹Why single-gene testing often misses the bigger picture
🔹What polygenic scores are and why they matter
🔹How genetics can inform menopause support
🔹What MTHFR really does and why it gets oversimplified
🔹How genes may influence mood, recovery, detoxification, and cardiovascular risk
🔹How functional genomics can help personalize health decisions
If you've ever looked at a genetic report and thought, "Okay, but what does this actually mean for me?", this episode is for you.
👉 About Dr. Tracey Steady-Hardcastle:
Dr. Tracey Steady is an expert in functional genomics, acupuncture, and Chinese medicine with more than two decades of experience helping women navigate perimenopause and menopause. Connect with her at: https://thednacompany.com/ 
📌 Connect with Dr. Betty Murray: 
Website: https://www.drbettymurray.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbettymurray/
✅ Let us know what you think! Like, comment, and subscribe on YouTube:
 @drbettymurray 
🔗 Links: 
The Fierce Female Method for Longevity (Dr. Betty's book): https://fierce.hormoneshelp.com/  
Menrva Telemedicine: https://gethormonesnow.com/  
Living Well Dallas: https://www.livingwelldallas.com/ 
🎙️ More from the Podcast: 
Subscribe to #MenopauseMastery → https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwONPdSvb2-YYY74VhD-XBw 
Apple Podcasts → https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/menopause-mastery/id1607369247 
Spotify → https://open.spotify.com/show/0tNsjm32CZNXSgSFEwS3uH
Thank you for listening to Menopause Mastery. Empowering your health journey, one episode at a time. 
#menopausemastery #menopausepodcast #drbettymurray #menopause #perimenopause #postmenopause #andropause #womenshealth #dna #menopausegenetics #genetics
 
Menopause Mastery — Show Note Chapters
00:00 — Why Menopause Can Make Your Body Feel Completely Different
02:24 — Dr. Tracey Steady's Path Into Functional Genomics
04:23 — Why Single-Gene Testing Can Miss the Bigger Picture
05:16 — Methylation, MTHFR, and the Problem With One-Gene Solutions
08:03 — DIM, Estrogen Metabolism, and Over-Supplementation
09:17 — Genetic Disease vs. Functional Genomics
13:32 — Using Genetics to Make Smarter Health Decisions
16:20 — Carbs, Saturated Fat, and Personalized Nutrition
17:25 — Why Keto May Not Work for Everyone
20:53 — Genetics Helps You Ask Better Health Questions
22:05 — Hormones, Neurotransmitters, and Polygenic Scoring
23:27 — COMT, Estrogen Fluctuations, and Perimenopausal Mood
26:15 — The "Slow COMT" Personality and Stress Response
29:59 — How Genetics Can Point to Better Testing
34:10 — Genetics and Hormone Production, Binding, and Metabolism
35:57 — What "Estrogen Toxicity" Really Means
37:13 — Detoxification Pathways, the Gut, and Hormone Elimination
39:56 — Why Women's Health Can't Be Treated in Silos
41:25 — Genetics, Exercise Performance, and Recovery
44:16 — How Genetics May Affect Hormone Therapy Response
45:58 — DNA 180 vs. the Newer DNA Testing Panel
48:29 — Prioritizing Your Biggest Health Risks and Opportunities
51:04 — Final Takeaways and Where to Learn More