Dates, Mates and Babies with the Vallottons

Imagine the weight of rebuilding a marriage amidst public scrutiny and personal failure. Laura and Carl Lentz know this journey all too well, and they graciously join the Vallottons to share their path of healing and redemption following Carl's affair in 2020. Through candid conversations, they explore the complexities of maintaining genuine relationships in the face of betrayal, and the powerful role community support can play in times of crisis. Their story is not just one of personal recovery, but also a testament to the resilience found in embracing vulnerability and committing to change.Beyond their personal trials, the Vallottons tackle the broader theme of balancing emotional health with spiritual growth. In a world where hyper-spirituality often masks deeper issues, the Lentzes open up about the necessity of addressing deep-seated pain and the deceptive self-lies that perpetuate addiction. Our conversation digs into the intricate dynamics of rebuilding trust after infidelity, underscoring the pivotal moments of honesty and the proactive steps needed to create a foundation for healing. Laura's experience in setting clear boundaries and expectations highlights the courage required to face the truth and the profound freedom it can bring.Through real-life examples, this conversation illustrates how openness can transform potentially humiliating situations into valuable teaching moments that build trust and resilience. his episode is infused with hope, reminding us all of the transformative impact of perseverance and the lasting benefits of living truthfully amidst life's challenges. This episode dives into the nuances of addressing hidden pain, repairing broken trust, and creating a new foundation for relationships—not by erasing the past but by learning from it.Whether you’ve faced challenges in your marriage, struggled with trust, or simply want to know that restoration is possible, this episode is for you. It’s an honest conversation that doesn’t shy away from the hard truths but offers hope, practical insights, and a reminder that no matter how deep the wound, healing is always possible.Connect with Carl and Laura Lentz: Carl Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carllentz/Laura Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauralentz/For information on the Intensive and other resources, go to jasonandlaurenvallotton.com !Connect with Lauren:InstagramFacebookConnect with Jason:Jay’s InstagramJay’s FacebookBraveCo Instagramwww.braveco.org

Episode Summary:In this special Q&A episode, the Vallottons tackle some of your most heartfelt and practical questions about trust, forgiveness, marriage, and family life. Whether you're looking for ways to rebuild trust, navigate the early months of marriage, or create meaningful family traditions, this episode has something for everyone.What’s Covered in Today’s Episode:How is trust practically built when it’s been broken?Steps to rebuild trust through accountability, transparency, and consistent actions over time.The importance of small, intentional efforts in repairing relational safety.What happens if I forgive but cannot forget?Understanding forgiveness as a journey and why forgetting isn’t required.Rebuilding trust is a process that requires seeing repeated success in that area of previous failure and also taking the risk to trust again.How do my wife of 2 months and I better create routine in the craziness of life?Ideas for setting rhythms and routines to strengthen your marriage.Carving out time for intentional connection as newlyweds before the demands of life and family make it harder to prioritize.What’s the most repetitive struggle you usually see with men?Insights into common patterns, such as passivity and disconnection.Encouragement and strategies to move past these struggles inside connection with other men through BraveCo.How do you celebrate Advent with your kids?Creative and meaningful ways to engage children during the Advent season.Balancing faith, fun, and family in holiday traditions.Discovering Christmas: A 25 Day Advent Devotional with Activities for KidsCan you share creative family rhythms and traditions that shape family culture?How intentional practices can strengthen bonds and pass on values.Examples of daily, weekly, and seasonal traditions to cultivate connection.For information on the Intensive and other resources, go to jasonandlaurenvallotton.com !Connect with Lauren:InstagramFacebookConnect with Jason:Jay’s InstagramJay’s FacebookBraveCo Instagramwww.braveco.org

Join the Vallottons as they share insights after leading their recent marriage intensive, where we spent six weeks with couples dedicated to enhancing their relational health. Through real-life counseling scenarios, and rounds of these marriage courses, the Vallottons have discovered what is common to many couples and identify keys to breakthrough in these different areas. Takeaways include:- it's the couples who want to grow and learn who get well- it's not conflict that tears apart connection, but rather behavior in conflict- a lack of self-awareness about what you bring into your marriage can be a downfall- a lack of tools for healthy communication is common and impacts EVERY other area of marriage lifeFor information on the Intensive and other resources, go to jasonandlaurenvallotton.com !Connect with Lauren:InstagramFacebookConnect with Jason:Jay’s InstagramJay’s FacebookBraveCo Instagramwww.braveco.org

Life can feel overwhelming when chaos reigns in our hearts, homes, and minds. But did you know that your ability to face and navigate that chaos directly impacts your emotional, spiritual, and relational well-being? In this episode, the Vallotton's are diving into why confronting chaos matters and how it aligns with living a life of peace, purpose, and emotional health.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:The Biblical Perspective on Chaos:Explore how scripture addresses chaos and God’s desire for us to live in order and peace. We’ll discuss how confronting disorder is a step toward aligning with His design.“God is always trying to bring order to chaos.""God sets man up for success by creating divine order.""God’s structure fosters perfect love, promotes freedom, and creates powerful living."How Avoidance Fuels Anxiety:Learn why avoiding the mess—whether it’s an emotional wound, a strained relationship, or a chaotic schedule—actually makes things worse and undermines your well-being.Practical Strategies to Confront Chaos:Identifying the sources of chaos in your life. "Anything outside of connection is unsustainable."Setting boundaries with wisdom and grace."Boundaries are meant to protect love.""Re-wiring is our job, not God’s."The Link Between Confrontation and Emotional Health:Understand why emotional health requires courage to face hard truths. We’ll provide tools to manage the discomfort of confrontation while maintaining compassion for yourself and others. "Our ability to create order is only limited by our unwillingness to confront chaos.""Avoiding chaos leads to pain; confronting it brings growth."Inviting God Into Your Chaos:Discover how prayer, surrender, and faith can transform chaos into a catalyst for growth and spiritual maturity. "God believes in our ability to be powerful people who can confront chaos."We’re often trying to obtain peace around us so that we have peace inside of us. We were designed to BRING peace to chaos, to bring structure to disorder. That requires that we have peace and order inside of us to bring to the world around us.For information on the Intensive and other resources, go to jasonandlaurenvallotton.com !Connect with Lauren:InstagramFacebookConnect with Jason:Jay’s InstagramJay’s FacebookBraveCo Instagramwww.braveco.org