Dates, Mates and Babies with the Vallottons

• 118. The Role of a Man & the Rite of Passage Our Sons Are Missing

  In this powerful conversation, Jason and Lauren Vallotton unpack one of the deepest needs of our time: the restoration of godly masculinity. Drawing from personal stories, biblical wisdom, and their experience walking with men and families, they explore why a man’s role in the home matters more than ever—and how the next generation is suffering without clear markers of maturity and initiation.Whether you're a father, mentor, or just a man asking deeper questions about your purpose, this episode will stir your spirit and point you toward courageous leadership. It’s also an invitation to join the movement at this year’s BraveCo Conference, where men are being called up, healed, and commissioned.In This Episode:Why men matter in the home The emotional and spiritual covering fathers provide—and what happens when it's missing.What sons need from their fathers and male mentors Identity, blessing, and challenge. The sacred elements of healthy male initiation.The pain of passive or absent masculinity How a culture without rites of passage has left young men lost, angry, or apathetic.Stories from the field Real moments of breakthrough, father wounds healed, and identity restored at past BraveCo events.Why the BraveCo Conference is different It’s not hype—it’s holy. A sacred space where men return to the Father, face their pain, and rise into purpose.Join the Movement:The BraveCo Conference isn’t just a weekend event—it’s a call to rise.Register now for the conference and be part of a movement that’s raising up healthy, whole, and wholehearted men!Check out more about BraveCo here!PatreonIf you've enjoyed this podcast, would you consider financially supporting the show? Every donation, big and small, helps the Vallottons continue to prioritize making this content for you. Click this link to support! Thank you!For information on the Marriage Intensive and other resources, go to jasonandlaurenvallotton.com !Connect with Lauren:InstagramFacebookConnect with Jason:Jay’s InstagramJay’s FacebookBraveCo Instagramwww.braveco.org

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• 117. Emotionally Healthy Church Leadership

  "Your gifts might open doors in ministry, but your emotional health and family life will determine how long you can stay in the room."In this episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton dive into the crucial (and often overlooked) connection between emotional health, family life, and sustainable ministry. Ministry isn’t just about being gifted—it’s about being grounded. Whether you're a pastor, leader, or someone pursuing a call to serve, this conversation offers a timely reminder: who you are behind closed doors matters more than what you can do on stage.💛 Part 1: Emotional Health in MinistryUnderstanding the integration of body, soul, and spiritWhy self-awareness is a superpower in leadershipThe impact of unresolved grief, resentment, and burnoutHow emotional intelligence often outlasts platform skillsWhy ministry tends to trigger unhealed wounds like rejection, people-pleasing, or perfectionismA personal example of how inner healing transformed leadership🏠 Part 2: Family Health in MinistryWhy the home is the first and most important ministryHow ministry should overflow from family health—not compete with itRed flags: when someone feels powerful in ministry but powerless at homeEncouragement to realign priorities and strengthen what matters mostWhether you're just stepping into ministry or you've been leading for years, this episode offers practical wisdom and vulnerable insight into what it really takes to lead with longevity and wholeness.📣 Mentioned in this episode: Interested in going deeper? Jason’s Pastor’s Cohort is open for enrollment. 👉 Sign up herePatreonIf you've enjoyed this podcast, would you consider financially supporting the show? Every donation, big and small, helps the Vallottons continue to prioritize making this content for you. Click this link to support! Thank you!For information on the Marriage Intensive and other resources, go to jasonandlaurenvallotton.com !Connect with Lauren:InstagramFacebookConnect with Jason:Jay’s InstagramJay’s FacebookBraveCo Instagramwww.braveco.org

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• 116. How to Connect When it Hurts

  "Most people want to reconnect with their spouse—but they don’t know how to hit the mark when emotions are high. They either get defensive, spiral into shame, or shut down. Today, I want to help you learn how to truly connect when it matters most—especially when there’s pain involved."In this episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton break down what happens when emotional disconnection builds over time and how to move toward reconnection with empathy, responsibility, and compassion.This episode explores:Why disconnection happens: How unmet needs and unresolved pain quietly widen the emotional gap between partners.The shame spiral: Why shame convinces people they are the problem, and how shifting to personal ownership can restore emotional safety.Empathy, sympathy, and compassion: A practical breakdown of each—and why compassion is the key to repair.A step-by-step guide to reconnection:Get curious, not defensiveListen without fixingValidate and empathizeTake ownershipOffer a sincere apologyFinal encouragements:For those who’ve been hurt: Give space for ownership—don’t force it, but don’t shrink back either.For those who missed it: Perfection isn’t required, but presence is.This episode offers practical steps and real-life insight for any couple looking to reconnect—especially when it matters most.PatreonIf you've enjoyed this podcast, would you consider financially supporting the show? Every donation, big and small, helps the Vallottons continue to prioritize making this content for you. Click this link to support! Thank you!For information on the Marriage Intensive and other resources, go to jasonandlaurenvallotton.com !Connect with Lauren:InstagramFacebookConnect with Jason:Jay’s InstagramJay’s FacebookBraveCo Instagramwww.braveco.org

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• 115. Q&A (Dating with Kids, Conflict in Marriage, Divorce, Newborn Season Tips, Emotional Needs in Marriage)

  In this vulnerable and practical Q&A episode, Jason and Lauren tackle some of your most heartfelt questions—from dating dynamics and stepparenting to conflict in marriage and unmet emotional needs.With their trademark honesty and experience, they unpack the real stuff of relationships: fear, longing, love, and how to keep showing up even when it’s hard.In this episode, the Vallottons respond to questions like:“How do I take dating slow while discerning if I can handle marrying someone with kids?”“Why do I shut down in conflict, and how do I stay present when fear hits?”“I’m walking through divorce and financial fallout—what now?”“Any tips for surviving the newborn season… with our marriage still intact?”“What do I do with my unmet desire for intimacy, pursuit, and emotional connection in marriage?”From practical tools to spiritual insight, this episode is full of compassionate, grounded advice for anyone trying to navigate love in a complicated world.Whether you’re in the trenches of parenting, learning to love through pain, or just trying to figure out what’s next—this one’s for you.PatreonIf you've enjoyed this podcast, would you consider financially supporting the show? Every donation, big and small, helps the Vallottons continue to prioritize making this content for you. Click this link to support! Thank you!For information on the Marriage Intensive and other resources, go to jasonandlaurenvallotton.com !Connect with Lauren:InstagramFacebookConnect with Jason:Jay’s InstagramJay’s FacebookBraveCo Instagramwww.braveco.org

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• 114. What Happens When a Woman is Forced into Fight or Flight Mode

  “She never wanted to fight her husband. But somewhere along the way, she stopped feeling safe—and started showing up in survival mode.”In this episode, Jason and Lauren unpack the emotional toll disconnection takes on a woman, especially when she's forced to lead, manage, and defend in her relationship. They explore what masculine energy looks like in a woman, why it’s often a trauma response—not rebellion—and how emotional safety (not control) is the key to restoring connection.You’ll hear:A real coaching story of a disconnected coupleHow a woman feeling safe, seen and known activates connectionWhat healthy masculinity is designed to bringPractical steps to rebuild trust and intimacyPatreonIf you've enjoyed this podcast, would you consider financially supporting the show? Every donation, big and small, helps the Vallottons continue to prioritize making this content for you. Click this link to support! Thank you!For information on the Marriage Intensive and other resources, go to jasonandlaurenvallotton.com !Connect with Lauren:InstagramFacebookConnect with Jason:Jay’s InstagramJay’s FacebookBraveCo Instagramwww.braveco.org

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