would you leave someone on read for being too available?
This week, we’re digging into a few clips from @leftonread_show that had us feeling things! We talk about what it means to be “cool" and whether or not the host's advice to play hard to get is ACTUALLY good advice. A lighthearted one today. <3 Let’s get into it.—Find more at timetoleanpod.substack.com for resources, ad-free episodes, and more.Follow Laura @thatdarnchat → thatdarnchat.substack.comFollow Crystal @itscrystalbritt → itscrystalbritt.substack.comSubscribe, rate, and share if you love the show.Preorder No More Mediocre now.If you or someone you know needs support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 or visit thehotline.org. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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can an unfinished painting cause you to question everything?
This is a weird one. Crystal has been slammed and Laura couldn't get a painting out of her head, so she decided to write(and read) about it. In this episode, Laura reads something she wrote about an unfinished painting of a mother.PLEASE PARDON LAURA'S FRENCH. :) Check out the painting here!Madame de Pastoret and Her Son, 1791–92Artist: Jacques-Louis David (French, 1748–1825)Here's her husband.Here's her son. Get resources, ad-free episodes, and more at timetoleanpod.substack.comPreorder No More Mediocre: A Call To Reimagine Our Relationships And Demand MoreFollow Laura: @thatdarnchat | thatdarnchat.substack.comFollow Crystal: @itscrystalbritt | itscrystalbritt.substack.comSubscribe, rate, and share to help others find the showIf you or someone you know needs support: The National Domestic Violence Hotline | 800-799-7233 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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is it fair to feel upset if i ask for help and your response isn't eager?
In this episode, we talk about how vulnerable it can feel to name a need, the weight of perceived pushback, and how quickly it can spiral. We dig into what we call the nag paradox—that toxic loop of asking, resisting, escalating, and shutting down—and how it traps so many of us in a cycle of sacrifice, resentment, and disconnection.Mentioned:Wages For Housework by Emily Callaci Get resources, ad-free episodes, and more at timetoleanpod.substack.comPreorder No More Mediocre: A Call To Reimagine Our Relationships And Demand MoreFollow Laura: @thatdarnchat | thatdarnchat.substack.comFollow Crystal: @itscrystalbritt | itscrystalbritt.substack.comSubscribe, rate, and share to help others find the showIf you or someone you know needs support: The National Domestic Violence Hotline | 800-799-7233 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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what happens if they ask how they can help, then don't like my answer?
A listener sent us a video that hit a nerve: a husband asks his overwhelmed wife how he can help, then resists the very thing she asks for. In this episode, we unpack what’s really going on in moments like these. We talk about the emotional weight of asking for help, the nuances of saying no, and what it costs when a partner responds with resistance(even subtly). Emotional labor, the mental load, relationship dynamics, viral couples videos... it's all here!Mentioned in this episode:Rage Becomes HerWages For HouseworkNo More MediocreGet resources, ad-free episodes, and more at timetoleanpod.substack.comPreorder No More Mediocre: A Call To Reimagine Our Relationships And Demand MoreFollow Laura: @thatdarnchat | thatdarnchat.substack.comFollow Crystal: @itscrystalbritt | itscrystalbritt.substack.comSubscribe, rate, and share to help others find the showIf you or someone you know needs support: The National Domestic Violence Hotline | 800-799-7233 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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if i step back, let him “rise” to leadership, and comment HUBBY on this post, will my partner finally make his own damn list?
This week, we look at a viral influencer’s take on why men don’t step up at home. He's just one of many creators who exist in the genre of “relationship advice” whose content insidiously blames women for their partner’s lack of initiative. Apparently, the problem with a lack of effort isn't... the lack of effort... It's that you must be smothering his divine masculine spark.Mentioned in this episode:Rage Becomes Her by Soraya ChemalyBoyMom by Ruth WhippmanErased by Anna Malaika TubbsThe Future Is Disabled by Leah Lakshmi Piepzna SamarasinhaCare Work by Leah Lakshmi Piepzna SamarasinhaSubscribe, rate, and follow us:@timetoleanpod | timetoleanpod.substack.com@thatdarnchat | thatdarnchat.substack.com@itscrystalbritt | itscrystalbritt.substack.comPreorder No More Mediocre: A Call to Reimagine Our Relationships And Demand MoreNeed support? Visit thehotline.org Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
On the Time to Lean podcast with Laura Danger and Crystal Britt, we dig into the often-overlooked realities of domestic labor, care work, and household inequity. Through sharp cultural critiques and discussions on trending topics, we explore the systemic issues that shape our homes and lives. In each weekly episode, we tackle the topics that impact our lives, challenge the status quo, and uncover the hidden dynamics that influence how we live and work. Join us as we make time to lean into these crucial conversations and advocate for the value of the work that truly keeps the world turning.Laura, @thatdarnchat, is an educator and advocate. Crystal Britt, @itscrystalbritt, is a coach and licensed therapist in California. Find us on IG or join us on Patreon @ timetoleanpod for Ad-Free episodes, resources, book clubs, weekly virtual meet-ups and so much more!Check us out on Substack for Ad-Free episodes and supplemental resources! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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