A Healthy Push

Do you ever feel like you’re working at 110% capacity, yet you still end your day feeling like a failure because you didn't check every single box on your list?
I know that feeling of being "stuck in the do" all too well. It’s a relentless cycle where we try to out-perform our insecurities, only to end up emotionally and physically exhausted. In this episode, I sit down with Shailyn Waites to deconstruct the Perfectionism-Shame-Burnout Cycle. Shai explains that perfectionism is often a defense mechanism—a way to gain control when we feel unsafe or unworthy.
Whether you’re a retired athlete, a corporate climber, or someone navigating the high-pressure world of anxiety recovery, this conversation will help you understand why "trying harder" is usually the thing keeping you stuck.

HERE'S WHAT TO SAY TO YOUR BRAIN WHEN YOU'RE SPIRALING: https://ahealthypush.myflodesk.com/calmpanic
TAKE MY FREE QUIZ AND FIND OUT WHAT'S CAUSING YOU TO STAY STUCK: https://www.ahealthypush.com/blocking-quiz
A HEALTHY PUSH INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/ahealthypush/
GET THIS EPISODE'S SHOW NOTES: https://www.ahealthypush.com/post/burnout

Have you ever found yourself taking a 20-minute detour just to avoid a single bridge, or white-knuckling the steering wheel at a red light, convinced you won’t "make it" until it turns green?
I spent years in that exact cycle. Living in Maine, I was surrounded by highway exits that were only two miles apart—yet even those two minutes felt like absolute torture. I would obsessively tell myself, "I just need to make it to the next exit," only to pass it and start the mental spiral all over again. If you’ve been avoiding certain routes, mapping out every pull-over spot, or needing a "safe person" in the car just to get to the store, this conversation is for you.
In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on why driving feels so life-limiting right now. Spoiler alert: It’s not actually about your ability to drive. It’s about the fear of being stuck, trapped, and unable to handle the anxiety if it shows up. Whether you struggle with highways, planes, or trains, the core mechanics are the same, and once you understand them, you can start taking the healthy steps to get your freedom back.

HERE'S WHAT TO SAY TO YOUR BRAIN WHEN YOU'RE SPIRALING: https://ahealthypush.myflodesk.com/calmpanic
TAKE MY FREE QUIZ AND FIND OUT WHAT'S CAUSING YOU TO STAY STUCK: https://www.ahealthypush.com/blocking-quiz
A HEALTHY PUSH INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/ahealthypush/
GET THIS EPISODE'S SHOW NOTES: https://www.ahealthypush.com/post/fixing-driving-anxiety

How is he a month old already?!
I genuinely don't know. It has been over a month since I've sat down at this mic, and even longer since I've sat down with Brittany, and in this episode we're finally catching up on everything, my labor and delivery with Colin, the scary shoulder dystocia moment that I will genuinely never get out of my head, and what this last month of postpartum has actually been like.
I get into how different this whole experience has felt going from one kid to two versus the sheer terror of going from zero to one. We talk about breastfeeding and oversupply (again) and sleep deprivation and the very real challenge of trying to take care of a newborn while also making sure Amelia doesn't feel like she got completely deprioritized.
I also get honest about the boredom of these early newborn weeks, the identity shift, and how even a solid relationship gets tested when a baby enters the picture. And through basically all of it, I keep coming back to the same thing I talk about in my own recovery and with so many of you: control. What I can't control, what I don't need to control, and just how much more peaceful it is when I actually let that go.
This one's a ramble in the best way. Grab your coffee, or your baby carrier, and let's catch up.
Also in this episode: an update on my coaching community and Panic to Peace, which is opening again in a couple of months!
Just a little reminder, even though I've been quieter on social, I'm still so here for you in all the ways that matter. Here's where to find me and get some support while I'm easing back in:
HERE'S WHAT TO SAY TO YOUR BRAIN WHEN YOU'RE SPIRALING: https://ahealthypush.myflodesk.com/calmpanic
TAKE MY FREE QUIZ AND FIND OUT WHAT'S CAUSING YOU TO STAY STUCK: https://www.ahealthypush.com/blocking-quiz
A HEALTHY PUSH INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/ahealthypush/
GET THIS EPISODE'S SHOW NOTES: https://www.ahealthypush.com/post/rr6

Do you pride yourself on being the capable one? The one who handles the house, the kids, and the career without ever asking for a hand? For a long time, I wore my independence like a badge of honor. But as I’ve learned through my own journey and therapy, there is a big difference between being independent and being hyper-independent.
In today’s episode, I’m joined by therapist Kelsey Wood. Kelsey specializes in childhood trauma and works specifically with women who feel like they have to do it all on their own. We’re digging into the "Big V" word—vulnerability—and why, for so many of us, letting people in feels physically unsafe.
If you are exhausted, burnt out, and tired of being "the strong one," this episode is for you.
HERE'S WHAT TO SAY TO YOUR BRAIN WHEN YOU'RE SPIRALING: https://ahealthypush.myflodesk.com/calmpanic
TAKE MY FREE QUIZ AND FIND OUT WHAT'S CAUSING YOU TO STAY STUCK: https://www.ahealthypush.com/blocking-quiz
A HEALTHY PUSH INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/ahealthypush/
GET THIS EPISODE'S SHOW NOTES: https://www.ahealthypush.com/post/hyper-independence

Have you ever looked at your life and wondered, "How did things get so small?"
I know that feeling all too well. I know the sting of looking at the calendar and seeing all the weddings, vacations, and job opportunities you’ve said "no" to. It feels like anxiety hasn't just been a struggle; it feels like it has robbed you. Robbed you of years, of confidence, and of the version of yourself that used to feel so free.
In this episode, we’re talking about something that doesn't get nearly enough space in the recovery conversation: Grief. We’re diving into the sadness, the anger, and the "un-fairness" of it all. But more importantly, I’m sharing why this grief is actually a sign of how much you care—and how you can start moving forward without leaving yourself behind.

HERE'S WHAT TO SAY TO YOUR BRAIN WHEN YOU'RE SPIRALING: https://ahealthypush.myflodesk.com/calmpanic
TAKE MY FREE QUIZ AND FIND OUT WHAT'S CAUSING YOU TO STAY STUCK: https://www.ahealthypush.com/blocking-quiz
A HEALTHY PUSH INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/ahealthypush/
GET THIS EPISODE'S SHOW NOTES: https://www.ahealthypush.com/post/navigating-grief-from-anxiety