The Dad Edge Podcast

In this deeply emotional solo episode, I continue our December series focused on protecting kids from online predators. I walk you through two real and devastating cases that show exactly how grooming, sextortion, and long-term digital harassment happen—often without parents having any idea it's occurring. These aren't edge cases. This is the reality of the digital world our kids are growing up in.   We break down a Roblox grooming case involving an eight-year-old girl, how predators slowly build trust and move conversations to private apps, and why platform bans don't actually stop them. I also share the heartbreaking story of Amanda Todd, a seventh grader who was hunted online for years by a predator who weaponized images, social media, and bullying across schools and borders. This episode is hard to listen to—but necessary—because awareness is the first step in protecting our kids.     Timeline Summary: [0:00] Why online grooming often goes unnoticed until it's too late. [1:48] How predators now access kids directly in their bedrooms through devices. [2:46] Why this generation of parents is navigating entirely new digital dangers. [3:52] Parenting the first generation of kids growing up fully online. [4:20] Introducing a real Roblox grooming case involving an eight-year-old girl. [5:24] How predators use in-game chat and "helping" to gain trust. [6:18] The move from public game chat to private apps like WhatsApp. [6:44] Grooming tactics that feel like friendship to kids. [7:09] How exploitation and sextortion begin once trust is built. [8:07] Why platform bans don't stop predators from returning. [9:06] Key lessons parents must understand about Roblox and open chat systems. [10:06] Larry shares a personal experience with a suspicious "wrong number" text. [11:54] Why text messages and private apps are also major risk areas. [12:25] Introducing the Amanda Todd case from British Columbia. [12:52] How sextortion followed Amanda across schools and years. [13:58] Why Amanda wasn't bullied—she was hunted. [14:27] The mental health toll of long-term digital harassment. [15:18] Amanda's nine-minute YouTube video explaining her story. [15:49] Arrest, conviction, and sentencing of her predator years later. [16:41] Why one image can give predators long-term control. [17:39] How predators weaponize anonymity, time, and technology. [18:38] Why Bark has helped Larry catch issues proactively for seven years. [19:26] How parents can honor victims by protecting their own kids. [20:11] Final call to action to monitor devices and stay engaged.     Five Key Takeaways Online grooming happens slowly and quietly, often disguised as friendship and "help" inside games like Roblox.  Predators almost always move kids from public chats to private apps, where there is no moderation or logging.  One image is all a predator needs to control, extort, and emotionally destroy a child over time.  Platform bans do not protect kids, because predators can create new accounts in minutes.  Parental awareness and monitoring can change outcomes, and proactive conversations can prevent lifelong trauma.      Links & Resources Bark Monitoring for Families: https://thedadedge.com/bark Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1415 Mentioned Link: https://www.amandatoddlegacy.org/aydin-coban.html?utm_source=chatgpt.com   Closing Remark These stories are hard—but they matter. The best way we can honor kids who've been hurt or lost is by protecting our own. Please rate, review, follow, and share this episode, and most importantly, stay involved in your kids' digital lives. From my heart to yours—let's do better.

What if the most dangerous addiction in the world isn't drugs, alcohol, or gambling—but revenge? In this eye-opening conversation, I sit down with Dr. James Kimmel Jr., Yale School of Medicine researcher, attorney, and author of The Science of Revenge, to unpack what actually happens in our brains when we feel wronged, humiliated, or disrespected.   Dr. Kimmel breaks down the neuroscience behind revenge, why it lights up the brain the same way cocaine does, and how seeking retaliation gives us a temporary dopamine hit that ultimately leaves us worse off. We talk about anger, forgiveness, sibling rivalry, marriage conflict, parenting mistakes, and why forgiveness isn't weakness—it's one of the most powerful tools we have to reclaim peace, leadership, and self-control as men and fathers.     Timeline Summary    [0:00] Why revenge may be the most dangerous addiction in the world. [2:10] Introducing Dr. James Kimmel Jr. and his research on revenge and forgiveness. [3:02] How revenge activates the same brain circuitry as drugs like cocaine. [4:38] Dr. Kimmel's background as both a lawyer and Yale researcher. [6:33] Marriage, faith, and building a family with shared purpose over 37 years. [9:12] Advice on long-term marriage and selecting the right partner early. [13:23] Why revenge seeking escalates conflict in families and relationships. [16:17] Defining revenge as an addictive, pleasure-seeking process. [17:17] How grievances activate the brain's pain and reward systems. [21:25] Why emotional pain registers as physical pain in the brain. [23:13] Dopamine, craving, and why revenge never actually satisfies. [25:32] How the prefrontal cortex gets hijacked during revenge seeking. [28:06] Revenge cycles in marriage and intimate relationships. [31:20] Losing control: when logic shuts down during retaliation. [33:27] Larry shares a real-life road rage trigger moment. [37:39] How quickly fight-or-flight turns into revenge seeking. [39:52] Why only about 20% of people become "revenge addicted." [42:16] Differences between men and women when seeking revenge. [43:28] Why revenge plots dominate movies like John Wick and The Lion King. [47:07] Sibling rivalry and how revenge shows up between brothers. [54:23] Parenting discipline vs. revenge-driven punishment. [58:25] Why forgiveness is essential for breaking the revenge cycle.     Five Key Takeaways Revenge activates the same brain circuits as drugs and gambling, making it addictive and compulsive for some people.  Emotional wounds register as real physical pain in the brain, triggering a desire to self-medicate through retaliation.  Revenge provides temporary relief but increases anger, anxiety, and depression after the dopamine fades.  Parents can unintentionally cross the line from discipline into revenge, especially when ego and shame are triggered.  Forgiveness is not weakness—it's neuroscience. It's one of the most powerful ways to reclaim control, peace, and leadership.  Links & Resources The Science of Revenge: https://bit.ly/4q1khVd Bark Monitoring for Families: https://thedadedge.com/bark Podcast Shownotes: http://thedadedge.com/1414     Closing Remark   If this episode challenged the way you think about anger, conflict, and forgiveness, please take a moment to rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Your support helps us reach more men who want to lead with intention instead of reaction.

If you're a parent with a kid in youth sports—rec, competitive, or full-blown travel—today's episode will hit home. I sit down with Jonathan Carone, creator of Healthy Sports Parents, for a powerful conversation about what youth sports have become, why burnout is skyrocketing, and how well-meaning parents (including me in the early years) unknowingly make the experience more stressful for their kids.   We break down shocking stats—like why 70% of kids quit sports by age 13, why travel leagues are burning families out, and how overtraining is causing injuries in 9-, 10-, and 11-year-olds. Jonathan brings immense wisdom about the car ride home, sideline behavior, when to step in with coaches, and how to raise confident, resilient athletes without crushing the joy of the game.     Timeline Summary:   [0:00] The surprising reason most kids quit sports by age 13. [2:14] Larry shares his own evolution from "obnoxious sideline dad" to quiet encourager. [3:41] Introducing guest Jonathan Carone of Healthy Sports Parents. [4:10] Why travel sports are wrecking family time and burning kids out. [4:40] The truth about scholarships and NIL fantasies. [5:00] How the car ride home can make or break a kid's love for the game. [6:04] The pressure kids feel once sports stop being fun. [7:04] Why rec leagues are disappearing—and why that matters. [8:29] How travel sports exploded over the last 25 years. [10:25] A realistic look at what travel sports demand from families. [12:09] Early onset injuries from overscheduling and year-round seasons. [14:21] Real-life stories of parents whose kids never get a break. [16:06] Why travel sports can destroy family dinners and family culture. [17:05] The fear-based mindset driving parents to overcommit. [19:47] The burnout cycle and why most kids stop enjoying the sport. [20:05] The psychology behind parents who push too hard. [21:13] Self-love vs. self-glory and how they influence parenting. [22:29] The myth of scholarships and how rare they really are. [23:24] How unhealthy pressure destroys a child's love for physical activity. [24:13] Why running became punishment for our generation. [26:33] Protecting kids' mental health in the digital age with Bark. [31:43] What parents should be doing on the sidelines. [34:36] The car ride home: three things you should ALWAYS say. [35:42] When and how to give feedback the right way. [38:44] Using a 5-to-1 positivity ratio to help kids grow. [41:22] Being an "obnoxious encourager." [43:33] The power of tone and why it changes everything. [45:04] When coaches only play to win—and your kid never gets in. [47:04] Teaching kids to advocate for themselves, age by age. [49:20] How ADHD affects emotional regulation in sports. [53:14] The long-tail impact of how we parent through sports. [54:18] Generational change starts with how we show up today.     Five Key Takeaways Kids quit because the game stops being fun—not because of screens, school, or injuries. Pressure from adults is the biggest culprit.  Travel sports demand 6–15 hours per week before adding training or lessons, often at the cost of family dinners and downtime.  Overuse injuries are exploding in kids as young as 9 due to year-round seasons and lack of rest.  Parents often push due to fear, self-validation, or scholarship fantasies, even though less than 5% of athletes ever receive any scholarship money.  The car ride home should NEVER be coaching time. The only things kids need to hear are: "I loved watching you play," "Where do you want to eat?" and "What do you want to listen to?"      Links & Resources Bark Monitoring for Families: https://thedadedge.com/bark Healthy Sports Parents (Jonathan Carone): https://healthysportsparents.com Healthy Sports Parents on Social: https://www.instagram.com/healthysportsparents/ Episode Show Notes: https://thedadedge.com/1413     Closing Remark If this episode gave you a new perspective on supporting your youth athlete, take a moment to rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Your support helps us reach more dads who want to lead with intention—on the sidelines and at home.

In this solo December episode, I continue a month-long series dedicated to educating parents about the real dangers our kids face online. After last week's story about Adam Tate, today I share two more real cases—one involving sextortion and another involving swatting—that every parent needs to understand. These aren't rare events. They're happening quickly, quietly, and often right under our noses while our kids sit in their bedrooms playing games like Roblox, Fortnite, and more.   You'll hear the heartbreaking story of 17-year-old Ryan Lass from San Jose, who took his own life within hours of being extorted by an overseas criminal network. Then we break down the tragic case of Andrew Finch, a 28-year-old father of two who was killed after a swatting prank triggered a full SWAT response to the wrong house. Both stories highlight how dangerous the digital world has become—and why we must be proactive, aware, and deeply involved in protecting our kids' online lives.     Timeline Summary: [0:00] Introduction [1:02] Why December episodes are focused on online safety and protecting kids. [1:50] Recap of last week's episode about Adam Tate and the Sean Ryan interview. [2:32] Why sinister online activity is escalating and why parents must stay informed. [3:02] Introducing two new stories: a sextortion case and a swatting case. [3:48] Explanation of "swatting" and why even young kids are now doing it. [4:48] Beginning Ryan Lass's story — a high school senior extorted online. [5:38] How a predator posed as a woman and launched a rapid blackmail attack. [6:07] FBI findings and identification of the international criminal ring. [7:41] Why Ryan's case matters: he was targeted, not reckless. [8:37] How modern predators manipulate teens using panic and pressure. [9:02] Parents' blind spots about who kids are connected to online. [10:17] Reminder that kids are connected to global predators—not just friends. [11:03] Introduction to Andrew Finch's swatting case. [12:06] The false 911 call describing a violent hostage situation. [12:57] How Andrew Finch was shot despite having no involvement. [14:01] Why swatting is deadly—and how it grew out of gaming communities. [15:39] The seriousness of online conflict and its real-world consequences. [16:33] How swatting and predator activity now infiltrate gaming platforms. [16:54] Why Bark is one of the most effective tools for monitoring kids' devices. [17:19] The need for proactive online supervision—like helmets for digital life. [18:18] A recent incident with my own son that Bark helped me catch early. [19:09] The urgency of protecting our kids from online predators. [19:32] Directing listeners to the show notes and resources at thedadedge.com/1412. [20:10] Additional resources including PenTester, YouTube links, and conversation guides. [20:27] Free "Conversations for the Car" PDF for kids ages 5–18. [20:45] Encouragement for parents: we fight this fight together.       Five Key Takeaways Predators are organized, trained, and global. Kids on gaming systems are interacting with far more than just "friends."  Sextortion happens extremely fast. In Ryan's case, the window from first contact to death was only hours.  Swatting is no longer just a gaming prank—it's deadly. The Andrew Finch tragedy shows how quickly it can turn fatal.  Parents must stay vigilant, informed, and engaged. Safety now requires ongoing conversations and digital monitoring.  Tools like Bark can save lives. Monitoring texts, DMs, and online chats can catch danger long before it escalates.      Links & Resources Mentioned   Bark Monitoring for Families: https://thedadedge.com/bark Ryan Montgomery Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2GPd36fFPuLsBSlZp6WUvc?si=BPYACSoWRRin9MatFHMGbg Facebook Story Referenced in Episode: https://www.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=32876961955250751&id=100000911118224&mibextid=wwXIfr&rdid=nnmVU8LFIdec2oLO# PenTester (Ryan Montgomery's Cybersecurity Site): https://pentester.com/ Ryan Montgomery's YouTube Channel (@0dayCTF): https://www.youtube.com/@0dayCTF NBC Bay Area News — Sextortion Case of San Jose Teen: https://www.nbcbayarea.com/news/local/4-arrested-sextortion-san-jose-teen-suicide/3865298/?utm_source=chatgpt.com ABC News — Swatting Incident Leading to Andrew Finch's Death: https://abcnews.go.com/US/la-man-arrested-swatting-incident-led-police-killing/story?id=52057251&utm_source=chatgpt.com Podcast Episode Shownotes: http://thedadedge.com/1412   Closing Remark If this episode helped open your eyes to the realities our kids face online, please take a moment to rate, review, follow, and share the show. Together, we can protect our kids and make the digital world a safer place for every family.

In this powerful and deeply emotional episode, I sit down with my good friend Sean Cochran, CEO of Men for Life, to have one of the rawest conversations we've ever shared on this podcast. Sean opens up about losing his first child to abortion at 19 and the seven-year spiral that followed—addiction, gambling, overdoses, isolation, and hitting rock bottom on the floor of a dirty hotel room. His story is one of unimaginable darkness, but also unbelievable redemption.   We explore how culture has silenced men in the abortion conversation, the devastating emotional impact so many men carry in secret, and Sean's journey from shame to recovery, fatherhood, and ultimately becoming a national voice for men who feel unseen in this space. We also dive into the mission behind Men for Life, the data behind father involvement, and how redefining authentic masculinity can change families and communities for generations.     Timeline Summary   [0:00] Sean begins sharing why abortion is not just a "women's issue." [2:03] The staggering data on how many men are affected by abortion every year. [3:56] Sean's personal story begins—19 years old, his girlfriend is pregnant. [5:06] Learning the abortion would happen despite his desire to keep the baby. [6:34] The counselor who told him "this doesn't affect you"—and how that shaped years of silence. [8:05] Addiction escalates: cocaine, ecstasy, gambling, and stealing. [9:25] Hitting rock bottom in a hotel room and believing he would die. [10:59] A moment of surrender and prayer that changed everything. [12:50] Entering treatment, beginning healing, and naming his son "Michael." [15:38] Rebuilding: finishing college, law school, starting a family. [17:04] Adopting three children—and the powerful contrast between two mothers' choices. [18:28] Realizing he was failing as a lawyer, husband, and father—and shutting down his law practice. [21:00] Discovering men everywhere carry hidden abortion wounds after speaking publicly for the first time. [23:03] How Sean was led—against his own plans—to become CEO of Men for Life. [26:05] The mission: creating a fatherhood program that transforms young men and saves lives. [28:00] Why authentic masculinity is rooted in service, courage, sacrifice, and Christ-like leadership. [30:00] How men can get involved and support Men for Life.     Five Key Takeaways Men are deeply impacted by abortion, yet culture has told them their voice doesn't matter. One in five men will lose a child to abortion by age 45—and most carry that pain alone. Sean's seven-year spiral was fueled by unprocessed grief, shame, and the belief that he "didn't matter." Father involvement changes outcomes: when men see an ultrasound and go through a fatherhood program, 97% choose life. Authentic masculinity isn't domination—it's service, courage, sacrifice, and living for something bigger than yourself.     Links & Resources Mentioned Men for Life Website: https://menforlife.org Contact Sean Directly: Email: [email protected] or https://menforlife.org/contact-us Sean's Instagram: https://instagram.com/lseancorcoran Dad Edge Mastermind: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind Episode Show Notes Page: https://thedadedge.com/1411   Closing Remark If today's episode moved you, inspired you, or helped you feel less alone, please take a moment to rate, review, and share the podcast. Your support helps us reach more men who need these conversations.