The Dad Edge Podcast

In this episode, I sit down with Sol Kennedy — software developer, founder of the co-parenting app Best Interest, host of the Co-parenting Beyond Conflict podcast, and a man who built the thing he needed most during one of the hardest seasons of his life.
Sol grew up watching a codependent father and a controlling mother, and spent years of his adult life repeating that dynamic — giving up his power in relationships, avoiding conflict at all costs, and calling the absence of fighting a good marriage. It took a divorce, his first therapy session at 38, and laying awake next to his girlfriend at 2am feeling that familiar anxiety spike when his phone pinged from his ex for Sol to finally build something different.
We dig into the psychology behind why co-parenting is so emotionally explosive — the trapped emotions, the triggers, the courtroom-ready anger that destroys custody cases — and Sol walks us through exactly how the Best Interest app works. It acts as an AI-powered filter between you and your ex, stripping inflammatory language before it reaches you, flagging your own reactive messages before you send them, and letting you set communication boundaries without needing your co-parent's cooperation. It's essentially a bodyguard for your inbox — and for your peace of mind.
We also get into the practical stuff: why you should start with a divorce coach, not a bulldog attorney; why anger in the courtroom is the fastest way to lose custody; and why therapy isn't optional if you want to actually show up well for your kids on the other side of a divorce.
 
Timeline Summary
[0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities
[1:02] The moment that sparked Best Interest — lying in bed next to his girlfriend, anxiety spiking at every notification from his ex
[2:23] What Our Family Wizard is and how co-parenting apps work
[4:28] Why co-parenting is so hard — you're still in a relationship with someone you divorced
[7:52] Sol's origin story — the codependent father, the controlling mother, and the name he chose for himself
[9:22] Stepping into therapy at 38 for the first time — learning what "triggered" and "boundary" meant
[13:05] Who Sol Kennedy is — founder of Best Interest, host of Co-parenting Beyond Conflict
[14:30] How Sol's childhood shaped the relationships he sought out as an adult
[19:47] The golden child, the scapegoat, and a marriage that never had real depth
[23:29] How divorce changed what he was attracted to — and the intimacy he found on the other side
[26:59] The catalyst for the divorce — a year and a half of therapy, a repetitive cycle, and his wife leaving just before the Covid lockdowns
[29:26] How Best Interest differs from Our Family Wizard — shifting from a court-ready mindset to a conflict-prevention mindset
[31:49] How the AI filter works in practice — stripping inflammatory language before it reaches you
[33:29] How it protects you from yourself — reviewing your outgoing messages before you send something you'll regret
[35:44] The only co-parenting app you can use solo — no co-parent buy-in required
[36:46] Setting message frequency limits — Sol's solution to the 30-messages-a-day ex
[38:25] The AI bodyguard — how Best Interest changes lives one filtered message at a time
[41:14] Why men specifically get themselves in trouble — anger in the courtroom is the fastest way to lose custody
[43:47] What newly separated men need to know — start with a divorce coach, not a bulldog attorney
[45:19] Get to therapy now — learning where you feel stress in your body is not soft, it's survival
[46:41] Internal Family Systems and somatic work — why trapped emotions show up as physical sensations
 
Five Key Takeaways
Co-parenting is still a relationship — and without the right tools, the same patterns that broke the marriage will destroy the co-parenting dynamic too.
Anger in the courtroom costs men custody. If you haven't done the work to regulate your emotions before you walk in, all the advice in the world won't save you in that moment.
The best co-parenting boundaries are the ones you can enforce yourself — without needing your ex to cooperate or agree to anything.
Start with a divorce coach, not a bulldog attorney. A good divorce coach will save you money, reduce conflict, and help you avoid the court system altogether where possible.
Therapy is not optional. Learning where you feel stress in your body, understanding your triggers, and processing trapped emotions isn't soft — it's what lets you show up as the parent your kids need.
 
Links & Resources
Dad Edge Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/boardroom
The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com
Best Interest Co-parenting App: Available on the App Store and Google Play — search "Best Interest"
Co-parenting Beyond Conflict Podcast with Sol Kennedy: Available wherever you get your podcasts
Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1466): https://thedadedge.com/1466
 
Closing
If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: you don't have to let your ex's words reach you unfiltered — and you don't have to send your worst ones either.
Sol Kennedy built the thing he needed most when he needed it most. And what he built is now changing the daily lives of co-parents who are trying to stay grounded, protect their kids from the fallout, and build a new chapter without letting the old one keep pulling them back under.
If you're co-parenting right now, or you know someone who is, share this episode. It might be the most practical thing they hear all year.
Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, Larry and Dad Edge coach Marc sit down to unpack one of the most common traps business owner dads fall into — hoping things will get better instead of building a strategy to make them better. Featuring recorded clips from Jaden, a real estate investor and five-year member of the Dad Edge Business Boardroom, this episode is a real, unfiltered look at what it actually feels like to be a high-performing business owner who has it dialed at work but is guessing at home.
Jaden's story is one a lot of men will recognize — stressed, stretched, showing up for everything but not really present for anyone, and telling himself tomorrow would somehow be different without any real plan to make that true. Hope is not a strategy. And that one sentence — dropped by Larry's toughest sales mentor years ago — becomes the through-line for the whole episode.
Marc and Larry break down why business owners specifically are so underserved when it comes to marriage and fatherhood, why the men around you shape who you become whether you're intentional about it or not, and what happens when you stop reacting and start running a new operating system. Not just in your family — in everything.
If you're a business owner who's winning at work and guessing at home, this one was made for you.
 
Timeline Summary
[0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities
[1:02] What happens when we try our best but don't have the skills — and why winging it in marriage and fatherhood is a recipe for quiet misery
[2:33] Why business owner dads are among the most underserved men out there
[3:33] Starting a business is like having another kid — and most men are carrying both without the right support
[5:45] Jaden's story: five-year Boardroom member, real estate investor, and a man who was just hoping tomorrow would be different
[7:21] Hope is not a strategy — why hope without a plan turns against you over time
[8:31] Marc's experience as a police officer and Larry's in sales — guessing in the early days and what changed when they found the right room
[11:19] Hope is not a strategy — the mentor who stopped Larry cold and changed how he approached everything
[13:58] What Jaden started learning inside the Boardroom — generative questions and the skill of processing in real time
[15:04] Walking the cube: facts, story, emotions, action — and how it replaces emotional dumping with intentional response
[16:39] It becomes your operating system — not a skill you have to work at, but how you fundamentally operate
[18:18] These skills don't just change your family — they change your business too because you take your head everywhere
[19:29] The tools that become part of your identity: emotional validation, generative questions, psychological safety, walking the cube
[20:11] The software upgrade analogy — your marriage won't run optimally on an outdated operating system
[21:39] Jaden's advice for men on the outside: you cannot do this work alone. It's a 12-foot ladder with only two rungs.
[23:00] Larry asks Jaden where he'd be without the Boardroom — and the pause that said everything
[24:21] Mark's insight: surround yourself with people who already have what you want — that's the cheat code
[25:42] What Larry thought when he joined his first mastermind in 2015 — and why he called back 11 minutes later
[28:27] What Larry found on that first Monday morning call — every question he was afraid to ask was suddenly welcomed
[30:07] The call to action for every business owner dad listening right now
 
Five Key Takeaways
Hope is not a strategy. Hoping your marriage or your relationship with your kids gets better without a plan is not optimism — it's guessing. And guessing sucks.
You take your head everywhere. The skills you build at home show up in your business, and the chaos you carry from work shows up at home. Upgrading your operating system changes everything.
The men around you shape who you become — whether you're intentional about it or not. Surround yourself with men who already have what you want, and you'll take on their habits, beliefs, and results.
These skills don't take more time — they eliminate the time you waste reacting, apologizing, and cleaning up the mess of not having them.
You cannot do this work alone. A brotherhood that can name the next rung of the ladder for you is not a luxury — it's the difference between spinning in place and actually climbing.
 
Links & Resources
Dad Edge Alliance & Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind
The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com
Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1465): https://thedadedge.com/1465
 
Closing
If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: stop hoping and start building.
Every man listening to this has the same 24 hours. The difference between the man who looks up in ten years with the life he wanted and the man who wonders where it all went is not talent, not luck, and not harder work. It's strategy. It's skills. It's the room he chose to be in.
If you're a business owner who's winning at work and guessing at home — this is your move.
Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Doug Smith — award-winning author of The Path of Rocks and Thorns, policy expert, trauma-informed leadership coach, adjunct professor, and a man who spent six years in a Texas prison cell for four counts of robbery committed in the grip of crack cocaine addiction.
This is not a redemption story wrapped in a tidy bow. It's a raw, honest, and deeply human conversation about what happens when a man loses everything — and what he discovers about leadership, recovery, and fatherhood in the process.
Doug walks us through what crack addiction actually feels like — the all-encompassing high and the equal and opposite fall — and what it took to rebuild a life after prison, including a bipolar disorder diagnosis, years of therapy, and a spiritual practice pieced together inside a Texas prison cell. He also shares the extraordinary leadership work he did while incarcerated, helping build a sexual assault prevention program that led to a dramatic increase in reporting and prosecution inside Texas prisons — work that continues to have an impact to this day.
But the heart of this conversation is fatherhood. Doug's daughter was five when he went in. She was almost eleven when he came home. He shares the terrifying day he was released, the first reunion with his daughter, and how they reconnected through play and letters rather than words. And then he shares the hardest part — what happened when his book came out and his daughter's buried anger finally surfaced, and the hike where he sat in that anger with her without defending himself.
Larry meets him there with his own story of a father who left twice — and the dinner conversation twenty years ago where forgiveness finally had room to breathe.
 
Timeline Summary
[0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities
[1:02] Introducing Doug Smith — author, policy expert, trauma-informed coach, and formerly incarcerated for four counts of robbery
[1:23] What prison was actually like — more boring than people imagine, and unexpectedly clarifying
[2:31] The decline into crack addiction — what the high feels like and what the low does to your soul
[5:14] The black spot on the soul — how crack takes you lower with every use and never lets you climb back up
[6:50] What withdrawal from crack cocaine actually does to your brain and body
[9:04] How Doug recalibrated inside prison — exercise, meditation, spiritual practice, and learning to feel good without drugs for the first time in his adult life
[11:18] His mental health diagnosis — bipolar disorder, personality disorder, and how he eventually moved past treating a label
[13:21] Who Doug is today — policy expert, adjunct professor at UT Austin, trauma-informed leadership coach, and author
[15:28] What leadership actually means — it's not a business term, it's the relationship between the results you're creating and your contribution to them
[16:18] The sexual assault prevention program Doug built inside a Texas prison — and the dramatic results it produced
[22:47] How sexual assault in prison is always about power — and why staff are often the perpetrators
[23:16] How old his daughter was when he went in — and his daily prayer to get home while she was still a child
[24:51] The terrifying day he was released — why his brain wouldn't accept it as real
[26:05] Flying down the stairs to hold his daughter — and sitting with her while she wept
[26:49] How they reconnected on day one — spreading out her letters and going through them together
[27:13] Larry's midroll reflection: you're home, but are you really there?
[29:14] How his daughter responded after the initial reunion — the games, the capybara play, and Riley the racing rat
[32:07] The years of building trust — and how his daughter's anger didn't surface until the book came out
[33:10] His daughter's reaction to the book: everyone's celebrating his story, but nobody asked what she went through
[34:48] The hike where everything came out — and how Doug received her anger without defending himself
[37:14] How his daughter had organized her life around his incarceration — volunteering with kids of incarcerated parents, camp counseling, and a college essay that got her into UT Austin in three weeks
[39:51] The unresolved trauma that was still there beneath the resilience — and what it took for her to finally be angry
[40:17] Larry shares his own story — a father who left twice and the dinner conversation that changed everything
[43:44] Larry's dad's ownership, humility, and apology — and how seeing a human being allowed forgiveness to begin
[45:33] What Doug's relationship with his daughter looks like now — rebuilding on new terms as adults
[47:41] His daughter's powerful message: I needed the encouragement before. Don't tie my worth to my grades.
[48:13] The richer conversations that come when the old context for a relationship is gone
[51:16] Larry's reflection: without the mess there is no message — and what Doug's story means to the men listening
[52:18] The Dante's Inferno metaphor from Doug's prison book club — you have to go all the way through to climb back up
 
Five Key Takeaways
Losing everything can be unexpectedly clarifying. When the things that were making your life miserable are stripped away, you get to learn who you are without them — and that can be the beginning of something real.
Leadership is not a business concept. It's the relationship between the results you're creating in the world and your contribution to those results. Everyone is always leading something.
You can be home and still not be present. A lot of men are physically in the house but emotionally absent — and their kids feel it. No prison cell required.
Resilience and unresolved trauma can coexist. Doug's daughter organized her whole life around his incarceration before she ever allowed herself to be angry about it. Healing isn't linear and it isn't always visible.
You have to go all the way through it. You can't go around pain, grief, or hard emotions. Like Dante — you have to travel through the deepest part before you can climb again.
 
Links & Resources
Dad Edge Alliance & Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind
The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com
The Path of Rocks and Thorns by Doug Smith: Available on Amazon
Doug Smith's website: https://the-degree.com
Email Doug directly: [email protected]
Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1464): https://thedadedge.com/1464
 
Closing
If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: you have to go all the way through it.
Doug Smith didn't get to skip the hard parts. He had to travel all the way through addiction, incarceration, and the anger of a daughter he had failed — before he could climb back up. And what he built on the other side of that is extraordinary: a career dedicated to the exact people he used to be, and a relationship with his daughter being rebuilt on honest, adult terms.
The mess became the message. It always does.
If this episode hit you where it needed to, share it with a man who is in the middle of his own darkest season and needs to know there's a way through.
Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Kelvin Davis — fashion trailblazer, author of Be a Good Man Not a Nice Guy, creator of Notoriously Dapper, one of the first Black big-and-tall models for Gap and Target, and dad of two daughters. This one covers a wide range of territory — style, masculinity, nice guy syndrome, divorce, co-parenting, and raising daughters as a single dad — and somehow manages to be one of the most fun and most real conversations we've had on this show.
We start with style — and not the surface-level kind. Kelvin breaks down why how you dress is actually a statement about how you see yourself, how the right fit and color unlocks a level of confidence that can't be faked, and why most guys are unknowingly dressing for a version of themselves they no longer are.
Then we get into the heart of the show: the difference between a good man and a nice guy. Kelvin draws the line clearly — nice guys are motivated by approval and the avoidance of conflict, good men are grounded in purpose, principles, and accountability. He gets deeply honest about his own nice guy patterns, including a porn addiction and seeking emotional connection outside his marriage, and how staying in a relationship he knew wasn't right ended up costing him and his daughters dearly.
We dig into his divorce — how the girls responded, the pressure to pick sides, the importance of therapy, and what happened when his daughters moved to Tennessee and their relationship actually deepened over FaceTime. And we close with a powerful conversation about what Kelvin believes a dad's real job is: not to be liked, but to get your kids ready for the world.
 
Timeline Summary
[0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities
[1:01] Introducing Kelvin Davis — style, Notoriously Dapper, big and tall modeling, and Be a Good Man Not a Nice Guy
[4:58] Kelvin's backstory — knowing from age eight that fashion was his calling and going back to speak at his old elementary school
[9:23] Larry's story with style expert Tanner Gazi — and the fat kid still living inside him who wears dark colors to hide
[12:58] What style actually is — and why the right fit unlocks confidence that cannot be faked
[14:03] How to build a base wardrobe — know your true size, nail the fit, then add accessories to elevate everything
[16:52] What happens when you walk into a room dressed confidently — including the people who love it and the ones who resent it
[19:53] How Kelvin learned to stop caring what people think — and why we all care to some degree
[23:50] Introducing Be a Good Man Not a Nice Guy — how Kelvin defines the difference
[24:36] Nice guys are motivated by approval and conflict avoidance — good men are grounded in purpose and values
[27:25] Covert contracts, people pleasing, and why nice guys always eventually fall apart
[29:01] Kelvin's nice guy symptoms — avoiding accountability, gaslighting, saying yes to everyone at the cost of himself
[31:33] The one place Kelvin's nice guy syndrome never showed up — fatherhood
[33:34] Why dads who weren't loved well as kids tend to over-serve their kids — and why holding the line is still the right move
[35:08] What Kelvin's daughters would have picked up on if he'd stayed in a marriage where he wasn't showing up as his true self
[37:03] The guilt and shame of a pregnancy that forced a marriage — and admitting the foundation was never really there
[40:37] Seeking emotional connection outside the marriage — and the fear that keeps nice guys trapped
[41:38] The unexpected peace of living alone for the first time after the divorce
[43:37] How the girls responded when he moved out — the pressure to pick sides and what Kelvin told them
[45:32] Kids hear everything — the damage done when adults talk about each other in front of their children
[46:22] Therapy for the girls starting in 2022 — what the therapist revealed about the older daughter's emotional burden
[47:31] His job was to carry his own anger — not put it on his daughters
[49:28] His 15-year-old's personality emerging — meeting her where she is and becoming more of a collaborator
[50:43] Since the girls moved to Tennessee, their relationship has deepened more over FaceTime than it ever did in person
[52:08] Creating psychological safety — how connection is the foundation of all influence as a dad
[53:28] When mom was more friend than parent — and why the oldest pushes back on her but never on Kelvin
[55:46] My job is not to be your friend — it's to get you ready for the world
[57:21] Larry's 18-year-old in the 1,000 pound club — and the moment your kid surpasses you is the moment you know you did your job
 
Five Key Takeaways
Style is not vanity — it's communication. How you dress tells the world and yourself who you are. If you've been hiding behind dark colors and ill-fitting clothes, ask yourself what you're really trying to hide.
The difference between a nice guy and a good man is what drives them. Nice guys chase approval and avoid conflict. Good men are grounded in purpose, values, and accountability — and people feel that difference.
Your kids are watching everything — including how you treat their mother, who you are when your guard is down, and whether the man at home is the same man everyone else gets. They will model it.
Your job as a dad is not to be liked — it's to get your kids ready for the world. That means holding the line, teaching respect, and preparing them for authority figures, hard seasons, and life without you.
Psychological safety is what makes your kids come to you. Connection comes first. Without it, you have no influence — no matter how many rules you set or sacrifices you make.
 
Links & Resources
Dad Edge Alliance & Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind
The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com
Be a Good Man Not a Nice Guy by Kelvin Davis: Available on Amazon
Notoriously Dapper website: https://notoriouslydapper.com
Follow Kelvin on Instagram: @kelvindavis
Follow Notoriously Dapper on TikTok: @notoriouslydapper
Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1463): https://thedadedge.com/1463
 
Closing
If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: your kids don't need you to be their friend — they need you to be the man they can model their entire life after.
Kelvin Davis built a brand around showing up as your true self — unapologetically, consistently, and confidently. But it took a failed marriage, a divorce, and years of self-work to get there. And out of all of it, he's built a deeper relationship with his daughters than he ever had when they lived under the same roof.
That's what happens when a man stops performing and starts leading.
If this episode resonated with you, share it with a dad who needs to hear it.
Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, Larry and Uncle Joe are back for another live Q&A with real men from the Dad Edge Alliance bringing their real questions. This one goes deep — and fast.
The first question comes from a man walking through divorce he didn't want, trying to reconcile his faith with a marriage that's falling apart. Joe has lived this exact story — fasting, praying, sleeping in a separate bedroom for 18 months, doing everything he could — and speaks into it with the kind of wisdom that only comes from having actually been there. Larry adds his own perspective, including the heartbreaking story of losing a son to trisomy 13, and what he learned about God's ability to redeem even the worst seasons of life.
The second question comes from Shepherd — a man who is newly divorced, in a new relationship seven months in with a wonderful woman of faith, but feeling the friction of competing priorities: his kids, her desire to be put first, a potential reverse vasectomy, and the nagging question of whether this is really the right person. Joe and Larry both weigh in with hard, loving, and deeply honest answers — including Joe's own cautionary tale about getting into a relationship too fast after a divorce, and the painful price his kids paid because of it.
This is one of those Q&A episodes where every man in the audience will see himself in at least one of these questions.
 
Timeline Summary
[0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities
[1:02] Welcome to the Q&A — and a quick shoutout to the new Dad Edge shop
[2:15] Question 1 — Anonymous: I'm a Christian going through a divorce I didn't want. My wife is a strong believer too. I need guidance.
[2:34] Joe's answer: his own experience going through divorce as a believer, sleeping in a separate bedroom for 18 months, and what he learned
[4:10] Being a follower of Christ and being a mature follower of Christ are two completely different things
[5:37] Seeking the one with your two — how Joe and Ivy operate their marriage around loyalty to Christ first
[6:50] The A plus B equals C equation with God — and why that theology will wreck you
[7:37] What Joe would do differently: stop panicking, stop pushing, and focus on maturing as a man
[10:01] Larry's perspective: it's okay to be angry with God — Father Stephen Gadberry on The Sean Ryan Show
[13:11] God removes things we think are good for us — and sometimes this is a preparation for something better
[14:39] Larry's story: losing a son to trisomy 13 in 2014, the decision to keep the baby, and the stillbirth at 22 weeks
[17:33] Standing in that bathroom, looking up, and asking God why — and what came out of that season
[18:00] Joe's response: our father redeems everything — even the worst stuff
[19:39] Joe's own three marriages — and how God used all of it
[20:08] Living a life you don't deserve — Joe's reflection on grace, mercy, and what he gets to enjoy today
[21:28] Joe shares a personal health challenge he's currently walking through — and why his mercies being new every morning is not just a saying
[23:21] Question 2 — Shepherd: I'm seven months into a new relationship after divorce. She wants to be put first over my kids. I'm at a crossroads.
[28:13] Joe's answer: she doesn't have kids, so there's a disconnect — and until there's a covenant, your kids come first
[29:58] The conversation you need to have now — not after you say I do
[31:09] How Joe met Ivy — determined never to remarry, then God showed up anyway
[32:23] Larry's take: know your non-negotiables before you go further — and be honest about what they are
[35:08] This is what you signed up for — and if you love me, this is the way it's going to be
[36:17] Joe's red flags: she's pushing for the covenant before it's time, and the reverse vasectomy conversation deserves serious prayer
[37:18] Joe's cautionary tale: getting into a relationship too fast after divorce — and the price his kids paid
[40:11] His kids paid a high price for his lack of wisdom — proceed with caution, pray first
[41:04] There's wisdom in many counselors — and the value of having brothers who aren't afraid to call out your blind spots
 
Five Key Takeaways
Being a follower of Christ and being a mature follower are two different things. Maturity in faith means loyalty to the covenant even when feelings don't support it.
God doesn't owe you C just because you did A and B. The A plus B equals C equation with God will wreck you. His heart for you is good — even when life isn't.
It's okay to be angry at God. Tell him. He already knows. And he meets us in our deepest, most honest emotions — not in the polished version.
When you're newly divorced and entering a new relationship, proceed with caution. Get into your kids, get into your faith, and make sure your inside world is where it needs to be before you attach to someone new.
Know your non-negotiables before you go further in any relationship — and have the hard conversations now, not after you say I do.
 
Links & Resources
Dad Edge Alliance & Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind
The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com
Dad Edge Shop: https://thedadedge.com/shop
Father Stephen Gadberry on The Sean Ryan Show — search on YouTube
Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1462): https://thedadedge.com/1462
 
Closing
If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: God redeems everything — even the stuff that feels like it's destroying you right now.
Joe went through divorce as a believer, three times, watching his kids pay a price for his lack of wisdom. Larry stood in a bathroom watching his son be born still, looking up and asking why. And both of them are sitting here today telling you it gets better — not because life got easier, but because God's mercies are new every morning and all things really does mean all things.
If you're in a dark season right now, don't go through it alone. Lean into the brothers around you and let them speak into your blind spots.
Go out and live legendary.