Feminist Wellness

Tenderoni Hotline #31: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of The Feminist Wellness Podcast, where I answer your most heartfelt questions about healing, nervous system care, and coming home to yourself.

In today’s episode, we’re answering two beautiful and important questions from our community. First, we’re talking about what to do with a lifetime of suppressed anger, especially when your body feels too exhausted or fragile to let it out. If the thought of expressing your rage feels overwhelming or unsafe, you’re not alone. I’ll walk you through a gentle, somatic approach rooted in nervous system science and self-compassion to help you start moving that energy in a way that supports real healing.

Then, we shift into a conversation about emotional outsourcing in the workplace, and how perfectionist, people-pleasing, and over-functioning habits can become survival strategies in environments that reward self-abandonment. If you’ve ever felt like your worth at work depends on your ability to stay small, agreeable, and endlessly available, this one’s for you.

You’ll leave this episode with real tools, new insights, and loving reminders that you are not broken. You are adapting, surviving, and learning how to come home to yourself.

So take a breath and let’s get into it.

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#376: Have you ever found yourself staying in a relationship out of obligation, fear, or guilt… only to feel exhausted and unfulfilled? If you’ve struggled to assess whether a relationship is truly serving you or draining you, this episode is for you.

For recovering emotional outsourcers, the idea of reassessing our connections can feel like an act of betrayal or failure. But in this episode, I’m challenging that narrative by reframing the evaluation of our relationships as a profound act of self-care and a necessity for living an authentic life.

Whether it’s a job, a friendship, or even familial dynamics, I guide you through a process of self-reflection, so you can honor your needs and make empowered choices around your relationships. You’ll learn practical steps to assess whether a connection is truly serving you, how to manage boundaries with love, and how to take a compassionate approach to releasing what no longer supports your highest good.

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Tenderoni Hotline #30: If you have ever been called too independent, emotionally guarded, or hard to get close to, this episode is for you. Because hyper-independence is not just a personality trait. It is often a nervous system strategy that formed to keep you safe.

In this Tenderoni Hotline, we explore a quieter, often overlooked side of emotional outsourcing. Not the people pleasing or overgiving version, but the self-reliant, closed-off pattern that says I do not need anyone. We look at how emotional guardedness can still be rooted in seeking safety, belonging, and worth outside of yourself, just in a different direction that feels more controlled but often more isolating.

We also dive into a question that the wellness world does not answer well. What are you supposed to do when you do not have anyone safe to co-regulate with? If you grew up without consistent, safe support, the advice to just find your people can feel inaccessible or even activating. This episode offers a different approach, one that honors your lived experience while giving you practical ways to begin building safety from within.

Together, we talk about why closeness can feel unsafe in your body, how these patterns make sense, and how to begin softening them in small, doable ways that do not overwhelm your system. You will learn how to start creating moments of safety, connection, and regulation without forcing vulnerability or depending on unsafe relationships.

You are not broken for being guarded. You adapted in ways that made sense at the time. And you can learn to feel safe again, at your own pace, in your own way.

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#375: Why does reclaiming rest still feel so uncomfortable, even when you know you need it? If you’ve ever found yourself filling every quiet moment, pushing through exhaustion, or feeling guilty the second you slow down, this episode will hit close to home.

In this episode, I explore rest beyond the basics and introduce five less obvious but deeply needed types of rest that your nervous system may be starving for. I unpack why rest is so hard to access, especially when your identity has been shaped around being useful, productive, and emotionally available to everyone else, and how emotional outsourcing keeps you stuck in depletion.

Join me this week as I share the five hidden types of rest your nervous system needs, and how to access these types of rest in real ways throughout your day. I’ll show you how rest actually lives in the in-between moments you’ve been rushing through, and how reclaiming those moments can help you reconnect with your body, your time, and your sense of self.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/375

Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/

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Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.
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Tenderoni Hotline #29: Can you be codependent without trauma, and why does something as small as noise send your nervous system into overdrive?

In this Tenderoni Hotline episode, we explore the reality that you do not need a dramatic or chaotic backstory to learn self-abandonment. Many of us grew up in loving, “normal” homes and still developed patterns of people-pleasing, overthinking, and emotional outsourcing because of the environments, expectations, and systems we were shaped inside of.

This episode breaks down how codependent habits form through conditioning, nervous system wiring, and cultural forces like patriarchy, and why your body can still feel unsafe even when your mind knows you are okay.

We also dive into the neuroscience of sound sensitivity and hypervigilance, unpacking why unpredictable noise can feel so activating and what your system is actually trying to do for you. You will learn practical, body-based and thought-based tools to begin shifting these patterns so you can feel more grounded, less reactive, and more connected to yourself.

If you have ever felt exhausted from over-functioning, stuck in cycles of second-guessing, or confused about why you struggle despite having a “good” childhood, this episode will help you make sense of it with compassion and clarity.

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