When Your Friend Ruins Your Relationship By Sharing Your Past
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Episode Description:
In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily and producer Eric tackle listener-submitted "Am I The Asshole" scenarios focused on sex, dating, and relationships. From a wife refusing threesomes her husband demands to fix their struggling marriage, to a boyfriend dismissing his girlfriend's painful sex as exaggerated.
The episode examines a daughter's shock at discovering her mother's 24/7 BDSM collar and addresses sexual compatibility deal-breakers, including a five-month relationship ending over asexuality versus mismatched libidos. They also tackle friendship boundaries when a well-meaning friend reveals intimate details about someone's sexual past to their new partner.
Throughout these scenarios, Emily emphasizes that most relationship conflicts stem from lack of sexual education and communication skills rather than malicious intent. The episode reinforces the importance of honest self-reflection, clear boundaries, and recognizing when patterns aren't serving your relationships.
Timestamps:
0:00 - Introduction
1:21 - Threesome Pressure in Struggling Marriage
4:45 - Why Threesomes Don't Fix Relationships
8:03 - Dismissing Partner's Sexual Pain During Sex
11:04 - Understanding Vaginismus and Vaginal Pain
14:09 - Anal Sex Pressure Despite Clear Boundaries
17:15 - The Importance of Consensual Partners for Anal
18:46 - Discovering Mom's BDSM Collar Bombshell
22:00 - How to Have Healthy Sex Conversations with Kids
24:46 - Breaking Up Over Sexual Incompatibility
28:18 - Sexual Compatibility by 5 Months Rule
30:33 - Oversharing Friend's Threesome History
33:14 - Never Share Others' Sexual Stories
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How Childhood Trauma Shows Up in Your Sex Life
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In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily sits down with Violet Benson. Violet opens up about her intentional decision to step back from penetrative sex while working through attachment patterns that clouded her judgment in relationships.
How do you know when sex is creating unhealthy emotional attachment versus genuine connection? Violet shares her realization that sleeping with someone too quickly led her to ignore red flags and chase unavailable partners who mirrored her childhood feelings of being "not enough."
The conversation dives into Violet's egg freezing experience, including the intense hormonal and emotional effects that doctors failed to prepare her for. Violet takes Emily's Sex IQ quiz from the book Smart Sex, reflecting on how much her relationship with her body and pleasure has evolved.
They tackle a listener question about pursuing someone with major red flags just for physical chemistry, with both hosts emphasizing the importance of honest self-reflection over justification.
The episode explores embracing "clinginess" in dating, why vulnerability beats playing games, and how foreplay truly starts outside the bedroom. Throughout, Emily and Violet reinforce that understanding your patterns is the first step to breaking cycles that don't serve you.
Timestamps:
0:00 - Intro
2:13 - Violet's dating hiatus
5:42 - Turning fears into boundaries
8:37 - Understanding attachment styles and childhood trauma in relationships
11:43 - Egg freezing experience
16:17 - Managing mental health during hormonal changes
21:00 - Sex IQ Quiz
26:31 - Listener question: Detaching emotions from physical intimacy
30:30 - Why being vulnerable beats playing games
35:41 - Why people are having less sex and connection
38:15 - Top 3 tips for authentic dating and better relationships
40:42 - Rapid-fire questions: Turn-ons, turn-offs, and relationship advice
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Why Your Partner's Sexual Past Is Haunting Your Present
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Episode Description
In this Sex with Emily hotline episode, Dr. Emily answers honest questions about sex, relationships, and pleasure. Ben struggles with intrusive thoughts about his girlfriend's sexual past—how do generational differences in sexual norms play a role, and what can he do when his mind won't stop wandering?
A caller whose day-long fantasies about his wife cause premature ejaculation wonders if this is actually a problem. Emily explores when mental foreplay becomes too much of a good thing and how to approach these conversations with your partner.
For finding thirds for threesomes, what's the safest way to meet like-minded people? Emily discusses the essential conversations couples need to have before inviting someone into their bedroom.
Nathan worries his girlfriend only orgasms with toys despite her past relationships not requiring them. Is this about his performance, her anatomy, or something deeper about emotional connection and letting go?
Finally, how do you rebuild your relationship with your own sexuality after a major life change? Emily helps a caller navigate solo pleasure during divorce when motivation is low and old fantasies no longer serve.
Throughout, Emily reinforces that sexual satisfaction looks different for everyone.
Timestamps:
0:00 - Introduction
1:29 - Dealing with Partner's Sexual Past
5:42 - How to Replace Negative Thoughts with Positive Relationship Focus
11:45 - Premature Ejaculation from All-Day Mental Arousal
17:07 - Starting Sexting in Long-Term Relationships
20:04 - Finding a Third for Threesomes
29:52 - The Field Effect
34:13 - When Emotional Connection Changes Physical Response
40:13 - Prioritizing Solo Pleasure During Divorce and Life Transitions
46:44 - Closing Thoughts and Resources
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The 4 Secrets to Amazing Oral Sex (From a Sex Educator)
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In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Jennifer Freed reveals why true sexiness comes from daring to be authentically yourself—not trying to imitate anyone else—and how confidence means being good with yourself without waiting for approval. Then sex educator Shani Hart shares her game-changing tip for staying aroused during oral sex (hint: it involves a Magic Wand), her mission to bring quality pleasure products to underserved communities, and why she tells customers that if their partner controls their toy purchases, it's a major red flag.
Dr. Freed and Emily explore the difference between sexiness and preferences, discussing how we can find attraction beyond our usual type when we recognize someone's soul.
Through Shani's journey from pop-up girlfriend to certified sex educator, Emily and Shani tackle the lack of diversity in the sex toy industry and why quality pleasure products should be accessible to all communities. Shani breaks down her four essential blowjob tips—enthusiasm, wetness, communication, and technique—explaining why "it's called a job for a reason" and sharing her favorite products for enhancing pleasure.
They also dive into CBD's benefits for sexual wellness, from reducing anxiety and increasing blood flow to helping rewire the brain's association between sex and pain for people with conditions like endometriosis. Shani discusses her favorite current toy (the Womanizer Duo with smart silent technology) and why she believes your own pleasure should be a priority.
Timestamps:
0:28 - Intro
1:48 - Authenticity vs Performance in Relationships
3:26 - Overcoming Impostor Syndrome in Dating
5:41 - Why Hiding Your True Self Kills Intimacy
10:26 - Sexual Preferences vs What Makes Someone Sexy
13:42 - Being Present During Sex Creates New Experiences
17:22 - From Sex Shop Employee to Certified Sex Educator
20:26 - Creating Quality Sex Education in Underserved Communities
24:43 - When Partners Control Your Pleasure (Red Flags)
27:48 - Magic Wand Multi-Use Tips for Solo and Partner Play
29:33 - Four Essential Oral Sex Techniques That Actually Work
31:45 - Racism and Exclusion in the Sex Toy Industry
36:02 - CBD for Better Sex: Anxiety, Pain Relief, and Enhanced Pleasure
38:48 - Quick Fire Questions: Biggest Turn-Ons and Turnoffs
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"What Happens When You Stop Reacting and Start Responding"
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Episode Summary
In this Sex with Emily episode, comedian Adam Ferrara reveals why he sits by the front door with his dog for exactly 15 minutes every time his wife says "I'll be right there"—and how learning each other's patterns became the secret to their successful long-term marriage.
Adam breaks down the difference between reacting and responding, sharing how his Italian upbringing taught him to react emotionally while his marriage taught him to respond from choice. He explains his breakthrough moment realizing that "worry is not responsibility"—a revelation that helped him separate anxiety from actual care-taking—and discusses his journey off ADD medication in favor of meditation and therapy.
Through a caller's dilemma about losing sexual attraction to her boyfriend while being tempted by someone else, Emily and Adam explore whether sexual chemistry can be built or if some relationships lack that essential foundation. They tackle the hard truth about the two-year relationship mark when initial passion fades, and provide practical tools like the "Yes, No, Maybe" list for couples working to rebuild intimacy together.
Timestamps:
0:00 - Introduction
1:32 - Losing Sexual Attraction After 2 Years
3:20 - Breaking Down Sexual Compatibility vs. Chemistry Issues
6:46 - The Oral Sex Double Standard Problem
8:13 - Creating vs. Fixing Sexual Connection
11:51 - Adam Ferrara on Anxiety & "Worry is Not Responsibility"
13:27 - Emily's Therapy Process: ADD, Self-Worth & Achievement
16:39 - Finding Presence Through Performance & Connection
18:25 - Marriage Communication: Learning Each Other's Patterns
22:43 - Reacting vs. Responding: Managing Emotional Impulses
25:43 - Meditation Practice: Separating Thoughts from Identity
29:24 - Practical Meditation Tips for Anxiety & ADD
31:16 - Childhood Trauma & Long-Term Anxiety Development
33:26 - Therapy Benefits: Life Tools, Not Stigma
34:28 - Five Quickie Questions
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