Sex With Emily

Whether you've been with your partner for ten months or ten years, knowing what you actually want in bed is harder than it sounds—especially if you never got the chance to explore. In this episode, Dr. Emily takes listener calls about the real challenges that keep couples stuck: shame around masturbation, mismatched experience levels, and the fear that fading passion means something's broken.

From a wife who's never had a partner ask what she wants to a husband hiding his solo sessions in the basement, Emily breaks down why sexual self-discovery isn't selfish—it's essential. She also tackles what to do when your partner wants to swing but you're not sure, and why taking penetration off the table might be the fastest way to bring the heat back.

In this episode, you'll learn:

 • Why being a skilled lover has nothing to do with how many people you've slept with—and everything to do with curiosity and communication

• How to take the lead in bed without becoming a completely different person (even if you've always been submissive)

• The "hell yes or hell no" rule for navigating swinging, threesomes, and any sexual experience that makes you feel vulnerable

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to [email protected] to learn more! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

1:33 - McKenzie: Husband complains about sex life to others

4:36 - Why partner count doesn't determine sexual skill

6:14 - How to discover what you actually want in bed

9:37 - Experience is not a numbers game

10:43 - Dan: Feeling guilty about masturbating while married

13:06 - Why masturbation shame hurts relationships

15:41 - Sarah: Giving her husband a prostate orgasm for his 50th

19:04 - Switching from submissive to dominant in bed

23:02 - Alex: Girlfriend wants to try soft swapping

25:17 - Hannah: Taking sex off the table to reconnect

30:03 - Building intimacy without rushing to penetration

Solo sex is one of the most powerful tools you have for better partnered sex — and most people are barely scratching the surface. In this throwback episode, Dr. Emily makes the case for why your relationship with yourself might be the most important sexual relationship you'll ever have.

From finding out what actually turns you on to using masturbation as a way to manage stress and boost confidence, Emily covers everything you need to know about flying solo — including how to bring toys into the mix without awkwardness. She also takes listener calls about navigating different libidos in relationships, dealing with performance anxiety, and figuring out how to ask for what you want in bed.

In this episode, you'll learn:

 • Why masturbation is essential for sexual self-awareness — not just a fallback when you're single

 • How to explore fantasies and toys on your own so you can communicate better with partners

 • The connection between solo pleasure, stress relief, and overall sexual confidence

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to [email protected] to learn more! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

1:30 - Why Masturbation Matters (Even If You Have a Partner)

3:05 - The G-Spot Myth: Why It's Really a "G-Area"

4:50 - First-Time Masturbation Guide for Women

8:17 - Choosing Your First Vibrator: What to Know

10:54 - Can You "Retrain" Your Body to Orgasm Without a Vibrator?

14:00 - Edging Explained: How to Intensify Your Orgasms

17:38 - Overcoming Shame and Religious Guilt Around Self-Pleasure

24:01 - The We-Vibe Melt: Why It's a Game-Changer

30:40 - Rapid Fire: Mismatched Libidos, BDSM, and Confidence Tips

When the wedding’s over and real life kicks in, it’s so common for sex to shift — sometimes fast. In this throwback live show, Dr. Emily tackles the myth that marriage equals the end of your sex life, and breaks down how to bring back that “honeymoon energy” without forcing it or turning intimacy into another chore.

Emily shares a simple framework for staying connected long-term (including her idea of “sex vows”), then takes calls from listeners navigating a sudden post-marriage libido drop and the emotional whiplash of being single while everyone around you is getting engaged.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

 • Why desire often drops after commitment — and how to address it before resentment builds

 • Practical ways to revive novelty and reconnect (including “sex vows” you can actually use)

 • How to handle the pressure and loneliness when it feels like everyone else is getting married

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to [email protected] to learn more! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

This episode is sponsored by…

Qualia: 

Magnesium, multiplied. 10 forms for total support. Go to qualialife.com/SEXWITHEMILY to get 50% off and save an extra 15% with the code SEXWITHEMILY. 

Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

3:26 - Current Trends in Sex and Relationships

5:25 - Essential Conversations Before Marriage

7:40 - Writing Your Sex Vows

9:49 - Planning Your Pleasure: Yes/No/Maybe List

12:39 - Recreating Honeymoon Sex Energy

16:00 - Q&A: When His Sex Drive Plummets After Marriage

22:30 - Q&A: Exploring Bisexuality in a Committed Relationship

25:24 - Q&A: Building a Sex Life You've Never Had

30:56 - Q&A: When Your Partner Doesn't Want Marriage

You want to talk to your partner about sex. You really do. But every time you try, your throat closes, your chest tightens, and suddenly it feels easier to just… not. You're not bad at communication — your brain is literally wired to treat these conversations like threats. In this live show, I break down exactly why sex talks trigger fight-or-flight, how shame keeps us mute in the bedroom, and what to do when you've been together for years and never actually talked about what you want.

This episode was recorded LIVE across my social platforms at @sexwithemily — part of a new evolution of the show as we head into my 21st year of the podcast. After over two decades of talking about sex, I've learned that real, unscripted conversations create the deepest breakthroughs.

You'll hear real questions, real interaction, and the energy of being LIVE together as we explore how to build a sex life that actually feels good, without shame or judgment. Tune in most Tuesdays and Thursdays at 5 PM PST on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, Facebook, and Twitch all @sexwithemily.

In this episode, you'll learn: 

• Why your brain treats sex conversations like danger (and how to override it)

• How to find your sexual voice and stop cringing when you try to speak up

• A husband's honest question about rekindling intimacy after kids

You can now watch the full video podcast on YouTube!

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to [email protected] to learn more! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

This episode is sponsored by…

Timeline

Don’t let another year go by feeling less than your best. Grab 30% off your first month of Mitopure Gummies at Timeline.com/emily30

Timestamps:

00:00 - Intro

06:45 - The Clitoris Has 12,000 Nerve Endings (Full Anatomy Explained)

13:20 - How to Talk Dirty Without Feeling Cringey

18:15 - Mutual Masturbation: Why It's a Top Sex Tip

22:40 - Squirting: The Truth vs The Pressure

28:10 - Breaking Down Shame & Performance Anxiety

35:50 - Sex After Kids: Rekindling Intimacy (Live Caller Question)

38:25 - Medications Killing Your Libido (What to Do About It)

40:15 - Finding the Right Sex Therapist (Somatic vs Talk Therapy)

You're in love. You're committed. So why does sex feel like it dropped off the priority list somewhere between laundry and meal prep? You're not broken — you're just busy, stressed, and maybe a little stuck in your head. In this live show, Dr. Emily answers your unfiltered questions about what happens when desire fades, how to talk to a partner who clams up about what they want, and why the "how often should we be having sex?" question is missing the point entirely.

This episode was recorded live across my social platforms at @sexwithemily — part of a new evolution of the show as we head into my 21st year of the podcast. After over two decades of talking about sex, I've learned that real, unscripted conversations create the deepest breakthroughs. You'll hear real questions, real interaction, and the energy of being live together as we explore how to build a sex life that actually feels good — without shame or judgment. Tune in most Tuesdays and Thursdays at 5 PM PST on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, Facebook, and Twitch all @sexwithemily.

You can now watch the full video podcast on YouTube!

In this episode, you'll learn: 

• Why "how often should we have sex?" is the wrong question — and what to ask instead 

• The three pleasure thieves silently wrecking your libido 

• How to help a shy partner open up about their desires (without making it awkward)

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).

• Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to [email protected] to learn more! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

This episode is sponsored by… 

Bathmate: 

Try the Bathmate Hydro Pump Today at bathmatedirect.com! Use code “SWE10” for a discount at checkout!

Timestamps:

0:00 - Introduction

3:04 - How often should couples have sex?

5:57 - Getting your partner to communicate about sex

8:39 - Do most couples talk about sex?

10:57 - Why your sex life shouldn't stay the same for decades

15:34 - Navigating intimacy with chronic illness

18:44 - Myth: Good sex should be spontaneous

21:06 - Myth: Orgasms are the ultimate goal

23:16 - Sex during pregnancy when your partner pulls back

26:57 - Dealing with early ejaculation

30:28 - Helping a stressed partner get in the mood

33:56 - Top sex toy recommendations

34:28 - Myth: Lube is only for older women