The Adults' Table

In this episode, I reframe self-love as a set of actions and decisions rather than a feeling or something tied to appearance.
I outline practical behaviors that in my opinion help build self-love: using kinder self-talk, investing in self-knowledge (including facing uncomfortable truths), and building self-confidence by honoring commitments, being selective with yes and no, not relying on emotions for consistency, and challenging limiting beliefs through small, controlled steps.
04:09 Words Shape Identity
05:17 Know Yourself Deeply
06:33 Build Real Confidence
11:04 Challenge Limiting Beliefs
15:51 Focus Your Attention
16:48 Choose Better Relationships
18:08 Move Your Body Daily
19:15 Actions Create The Feeling

Ever downplayed who you are to make it easier for others to understand you? This episode is your wake-up call.
Anna Luiza Barbosa, Oxford MPP student, joins me for a raw conversation about owning your story, trusting your intuition, and why your "non-fancy" background might be the most powerful thing in the room.
Over the past decade, Anna has worked across diplomacy, climate policy and sustainable development, holding positions that range from early career roles to leadership in international cooperation. Her professional journey includes working for the British Embassy in Brazil and the UN Alliance of Civilizations, where she drove initiatives that foster dialogue, sustainable growth and climate action.
From networking to self-confidence tips, this is a masterclass in becoming yourself on purpose.
03:50 How We Met Online
06:59 From Small Town to Big Dreams
14:05 Building the Oxford Path
20:36 Networking With Confidence
26:45 Daily Confidence Rituals
30:58 Authentic Networking Strategy
36:54 Small Town Identity
41:41 Unnegotiable Values
46:23 Leadership With Empathy
48:57 Trusting Intuition
56:06 Faith And Spirituality
01:01:05 Oxford Acceptance Sign
01:06:45 Closing Reflections

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Your attention is your most valuable currency, and everyone is competing for it. In this episode, we explore why being intentional about where you place your attention is one of the most powerful things you can do for your life.

Ever feel like you're doing everything but somehow still failing at all of it? You're not alone — and you're probably not failing either.
In this episode, we sit down with Erika Ribeiro Ituassu, a Brazilian-American attorney, mom, and senior corporate counsel at Workday, who gets honest about what "having it all" actually means — and why our definition of it might be the real problem.
We talk about why balance is a verb, not a destination, the "glass balls vs. plastic balls" framework that will change how you prioritize, what strategic neglect really means (and why it's not giving up), the invisible labor women carry, why asking for help is harder than giving it, and how to stop waiting to "arrive" at the life you're already living.
Whether you're a new mom questioning your identity, a career woman navigating shifting priorities, or just someone tired of feeling like everyone else has it figured out — this conversation is for you.
01:38 Redefining Having It All04:03 Balance as a Verb11:38 Why It’s Harder for Women14:47 Build and Use Your Village19:23 Asking and Learning to Receive Help22:14 Privilege and Immigrant Perspective30:10 Superwoman Costs and Self Talk33:21 Owning Mistakes and Good Enough36:34 Balancing Priorities and Patience38:04 Calendar Systems for Busy Lives39:41 Final Advice for New Moms
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I recently listened to Michelle Obama's Becoming (yes, I'm 8 years late it's embarrassing) and there's a chapter where she talks about her time at Princeton, why she stuck to her Black and Latino community instead of mingling, and the pressure that comes with assimilation.
I could really relate to that, and it finally put into words something I never quite knew how to describe.
On this episode, I read the parts that resonated with me and added my own thoughts on making friends in a different culture.