Mind Bully

What happens when the things you thought would validate you still leave you searching for something deeper?
In this episode of the Mind Bully Podcast, Norense sits down with model, artist, and actress Aslayy Baugh for a vulnerable conversation about identity, intimacy, rejection, relationships, faith, and discovering who God created you to be.
Aslayy takes us back to her childhood in Jamaica, where she grew up surrounded by warmth and community while still experiencing a sense of mental isolation. After moving to the United States, her curiosity, individuality, and desire for deeper connection continued shaping the woman she would become.
She opens up about finding discipline through martial arts, suffering an ACL injury that forced her to slow down, and eventually entering the modeling industry as a teenager. As success, money, beauty, relationships, and new opportunities entered her life, Ashleigh began confronting a deeper question: What happens when the things that give you validation still cannot give you intimacy?
The conversation explores the danger of attaching your worth to performance, appearance, relationships, money, or other people's approval. Aslayy shares candidly about staying in an unhealthy relationship, searching for intimacy in places that couldn't provide it, and eventually realizing that the deepest connection she had been searching for could not be manufactured through another person.
At the center of the conversation is her growing relationship with Jesus.
Aslayy shares how her appetite began to change as she pursued Christ, how Scripture became increasingly alive and personal to her, and why she's learning to use her voice rather than allowing the modeling industry or other people's expectations to define the limits of who she can be.
Norense and Aslayy also unpack what it means to navigate ambition without making success your identity, to endure rejection without allowing it to determine your worth, and to challenge the negative voice that tells you what you create won't be good enough.
This conversation is about becoming comfortable with being different, finding intimacy with God, developing your voice, and having the courage to become everything God created you to be.
In this episode:
• Growing up in Jamaica and moving to America
• Feeling different even around people you love
• Immigrant families, vulnerability, and emotional intimacy
• Rejection, injury, patience, and starting over
• Building an identity through modeling and achievement
• When money and success become validation
• Searching for intimacy through relationships
• Leaving an unhealthy relationship
• The difference between knowing about Jesus and knowing Him personally
• Finding your identity in Christ
• How your spiritual appetite changes
• Reading and speaking Scripture aloud
• Sharing your faith without abandoning your personality
• Ambition, perfectionism, and the fear of mediocrity
• Fighting the negative voice with the Word of God
• Learning to use your voice and publicly live your faith
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It's the day after Norense's 31st birthday. And instead of just celebrating, he's asking a question most of us avoid: why is it so hard to let ourselves be celebrated?
Recorded audio-only from his new Upper East Side apartment (sirens and all), this episode digs into the voice of doubt that convinces you that you can't clap for yourself until you've "arrived" — that you can't receive love, help, or celebration because you're not where you thought you'd be by now.
Norense gets honest about his own struggle to receive — the birthday dinner he almost didn't have, the friend who pushed past his hesitation to make it happen, and the conversation that's stuck with him for years: "You serve everyone... but do you think some of it is for you?"
Then he takes it to the Word: the progression of Matthew 3 and 4 — baptized, tested, then preaching, then followers — and why so many of us want the followers without ever opening our mouths.
In this episode:
Why the voice of doubt won't let you celebrate yourself — and why "where you are is not who you are"
The "perfect product" lie: why believing you have to be finished before you date, build, or receive is demonic
Why you can't love others well without a revelation of how well you're loved
The birthday dinner story: what happens when a friend refuses to let you say no to your own celebration
Don't say no for somebody else — why holding back your ideas robs the people they were meant for
"Apathy is adjacent to death" — and why passion is proof you're alive
The Matthew 3–4 progression: baptized, tested, preaching, then followers — and why the world wants followers without preaching
How God uses technology for His glory — from Roman roads carrying the gospel to the smartphone in your hand
Why heaven celebrates the one — so what makes you think you have to earn celebration?
Key Truth: "Celebrate it before you think it deserves celebrating. On your birthday, you better celebrate — because there's air flowing through your lungs, and you didn't have to be allowed to make it to this day."
Key Verse: Matthew 4:17 — From that time Jesus began to preach, and to say, Repent: for the kingdom of heaven is at hand.
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Last episode, Norense recorded from the final hours of his Brooklyn sublet with no idea where he was going next. This episode? He's recording from his new apartment on the Upper East Side.
God is faithful. He's faithful. He's faithful.
This is the testimony episode — the receipt of everything he spoke in faith one week ago. Norense walks through exactly how it happened: the flight back to Dallas to regroup, getting sick, the family prayer call, choosing rest and prayer over striving and stressing — and then the Facebook message that came two minutes after a post went up. A 64-year-old man named Stephen, a building he's lived in for 38 years, and a door only God could have opened.
But this isn't just a story about an apartment. It's a masterclass on how God moves — slowly, then suddenly — and why He always speaks to the final version of who He's declared you to be, not how you're acting right now.
In this episode:
"Putting pressure on God" — what it means to speak forth His promises in expectation without forcing His hand
The full apartment testimony: from nowhere to go, to the Upper East Side, in a matter of days
Why God moves slowly, then suddenly — and how to stay faithful in the "slowly"
"Apathy is adjacent to death" — the phrase that convicted him and why passion is proof you're alive
Why "that's not my personality" is not an excuse — Moses, Gideon, and David all had to step outside of themselves
Confidence comes by action: birds don't pray to fly, they exercise their right to fly
Psalm 1 unpacked: the blessed man who meditates on the Word brings forth fruit in its season — which means you're not late
Speaking directly to the oppressor: anxiety, depression, and low self-worth have no authority over you
Why God speaks to who He's declared you to be — fugitive Moses was a deliverer, forgotten David was a king
Key Truth: "He brings forth fruit in its season. That tells me you're not late. You're not behind. You have not missed it."
Key Verse: Psalm 1:2-3 — His delight is in the law of the Lord... he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season.
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It's the last night of his sublet in Prospect Park, Brooklyn. The next sublet fell through — the person never showed up to the tour. And Norense doesn't know where he's staying tomorrow.
So naturally, he hit record.
This episode is a real-time stress test of everything this podcast teaches — and at the center of it is one battle every believer knows: the war between the overthinking mind and the leading of the Spirit. The mind says "this doesn't make sense, go back to Dallas." The spirit knows he's called to this city. The mind wants to intellectualize everything. The Spirit says move.
Norense breaks down why the flesh always wants you to do less — stay quiet, protect your peace, don't say the thing, don't pray the prayer — and why the answer is defaulting to more. More obedience. More boldness. More faith steps. Including the story of a DM he received about a grandfather healed of cancer, after a prayer Norense almost let his mind talk him out of praying.
In this episode:
Why your mind wants to intellectualize everything — and how overthinking quenches the Spirit
The flesh always wants you to do less: why "protecting your peace" can become disobedience in disguise
What "do not quench the Spirit" actually means in everyday decisions
The prayer he almost didn't pray — and the DM that came back: a grandfather free from cancer
What to do when your plans fall through and you genuinely don't know what's next
How to receive advice from people who love you without absorbing their fear
The Joshua principle: God said possess the land knowing there was opposition in it
Why "the just shall live by faith" means living by feelings is malfunctioning
Why authenticity comes from knowing your authority in God
Key Truth: "I'd rather default on more than default on less. The flesh always wants you to do less — don't quench the Spirit."
Key Verse: 1 Thessalonians 5:19 — Quench not the Spirit.
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You are not disposable. People can walk out of your life — but that has nothing to do with your value, your worth, or who God made you to be.
This is one of the most personal episodes Norense has recorded. In the span of two months, he lost two friendships — both, he believes, over the same thing: walking in the light and being misunderstood for it. Recorded from his Brooklyn sublet with just eight days left before another move, he opens up raw about disappointment, disrespect, and the temptation to shrink yourself down after people you invested in turn on you.
But this isn't a bitter episode. It's a leadership episode. Norense unpacks why your identity can't be built on your role in a friend group, why "hurt people can heal people," and why the answer to relational pain isn't isolation — it's going again, loving again, and serving again.
In this episode:
Why you are not disposable — even when people treat you like you are
The danger of building your identity around your role in your friend group
Why nobody has the right to change how you see yourself based on one conflict
How the enemy uses "pattern recognition" to turn two hard experiences into a lie about your future
Standing in your convictions and having self-love — the balance between tolerance and boundaries
Why walking in the light will sometimes cost you relationships — and how to make peace with that
The honest challenge of platonic friendships, boundaries, and being misunderstood
Why this life is about service, not survival — and how "hurt people can heal people"
A closing prayer for anyone hurting from a relationship that ended
Key Truth: "Where you are is not who you are. Nobody has the right to change the way you see yourself based on a situation or a conversation."
Key Verse: Proverbs 4:23 — Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.
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