118. The Aging Narcissistic Mother: Daughters’ Decisions and Boundaries in Caregiving [Revisited]
This week, we're starting a short series on one of the hardest chapters daughters face: what happens when the mother who never cared for you starts needing care herself.This isn’t just about your aging narcissistic moms. It’s about identity, boundaries, guilt, and the stories you tell yourselves about what it means to be a good daughter. Even if your mother isn’t aging yet, or if you’ve already walked through this, you’ll hear yourself somewhere in these conversations. They’re really about what happens when love and obligation collide.You don't have to manage this alone. Connect with other daughters who are in it with you. Learn more at MayhemDaughters.com
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A Free Mayhem Gathering for a Season That Feels Like A Lot
This season is a lot for daughters... the pressure, the memories, the emotional muscle memory that shows up whether you celebrate the holidays or not. I’ve been hearing from so many of you about what this time of year is stirring up, and I don’t want you carrying it alone.I’m hosting a free Mayhem Holiday Gathering on Thursday, December 11th at 11am PST / 2pm EST. It’s a community circle where we’ll talk honestly about what this season brings up for daughters and move through it together. Expect reflection and gentle nervous system support, and a space where you’re seen without having to explain yourself.This is a cameras-on gathering Come cozy, messy, tired, hopeful....all of you is welcome.Join us:mayhemdaughters.com/holidayIf you’re already part of Mayhem Daughters, the link is in our Events section. If you’re on my email list, I’ll send it there as well.This is a free gathering, and I’d be honored to have you in the room.
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Need a Permission Slip?
If you need a permission slip, here you go.Signed. Sealed. Delivered. (anyone else following this with "I'm yours..." in your heads? No? Just me ?!?!)If you need more Mayhem in your life, join us over at MayhemDaughters.com
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117. How to Rebuild Self Trust After Narcissistic Abuse
If you’ve ever found yourself second-guessing what you know to be true, replaying old conversations, or wondering if you’re the problem, I’m talking to you today.We’re talking about how gaslighting fractures self-trust, how it wires your nervous system for doubt, and what it really takes to start believing yourself again after narcissistic abuse.You’ll learn: Why daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers struggle to trust their own perception How gaslighting trains your brain to choose “safe” over “true” The difference between protecting yourself and abandoning yourself What it means to give your nervous system permission to believe you How to rebuild trust in your own body, memories, and intuitionBecause healing self-doubt isn’t about confidence or positive thinking. It's about safety, self-permission, and practice.If you’ve ever wondered, “How do I start trusting myself again?”, this episode will help you take the first real step.And if you’re tired of doing it alone, you don’t have to. Find us inside of MayhemDaughters.com to join our online community. I can’t wait to meet you.
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116. Healing the Mother Wound Feels Endless & Often Sucks. Keep Going.
Some days healing feels like progress. Other days, it feels like hell.In this episode, Mayhem gets real about what recovery actually looks like for daughters of narcissistic and emotionally limited mothers: the moments that make you question whether any of this work is worth it, and the deeper truth underneath the exhaustion.We’re digging into what it means to keep going when the pain doesn’t ever seem to disappear.You’ll hear:Why healing the mother wound can feel endless (and why that’s normal)How competence becomes armor and what happens when it stops workingWhy calm can feel unsafe and joy can feel like betrayalHow grief and growth can coexist without canceling each other outWhat it actually means to be healing, even when it still hurtsThis is your reminder that healing isn’t about doing it perfectly. It's about staying with yourself, especially on the days you want to quit.And you don't have to do any of this alone. Join our community or find us in Group. Learn more: MayhemDaughters.com
Sobre Mother Mayhem: For Daughters of Narcissistic or Emotionally Limited Mothers
Welcome to Mother Mayhem, the podcast for daughters of narcissistic and emotionally limited mothers. I’m Heather Gray, licensed therapist and narcissistic abuse recovery expert. If you're healing from the mother wound, emotional neglect, or childhood trauma, you’re in the right place.
Start with the first 8 episodes—they lay the foundation for your healing. Learn to understand your experience, set boundaries, and build more honest, grounded relationships. Listener questions are welcome. You’re not alone. Other daughters are here. I am, too.
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